Hello, I had the mirena for 2 years, and did have the same issues. Actually, I am still experiencing them. Just like you I too have boys, only 3 of them aged 6, 3 and 2. I think it is motherhood that causes this. We love our babies, but as you can relate, boys are a handful. I am pulled emotionally and physically all day long. THe last thing I want sometimes at night is for someone else demanding my attention. Someone else hanging on me. You on top of the demands of motherhood, have your bartending job which has got to be demanding. My advice to you, and has helped me, is to try and take a little time atleast 1 time a week for just you. Just allow for your man touch you. You just may find as annoyed as you are and moody, that it actually does feel good. It works for me. Trust me, it is all I can do sometimes to allow that, but once we get into it, I find myself wondering why in the world I was so aprehensive. Good luck!!!