Now I know I've vented enough on this board, but this is too darn ridiculous not to share. My soon to be exhusband sent me an email to announce someone in their family is having a baby (didn't say who) and asked that I save our daughter's clothes to pass on to that person. I mean REALLY!!!!! The email had our daughter's name in the subject line and that's why I opened it. Anyway, he's got some nerve wanting the clothes I've paid for and my family and friends have given to give to someone on his side and he doesn't want to pay child support. By the way, that's about to soon end, too!!!! Legal strategy is tying up the process of moving forward. Anyway, I simply told him no clothes are given, I will give back what his family gave which isn't much, and they need to buy their own. I'm sorry, but I'm a reasonable person and have perhaps cut him too much slack, but this latest request is insane considering he didn't want to buy his own daughter attire to take a christmas picture, instead he left us in the parking lot waiting.
*edit, he's too selfish and disconnected from his daughter to understand and know that just because she's outgrown things doesn't mean there's no value to them. I can resell them, or trade up. Court is gonna be quite interesting when we really delve into her best interest versus his true interest.
I'm just curious to know how you would've responded to such nervy request.
LOL @ the "girlfriend being pregnant" If that is the case I pity her if she's carrying a girl. She has no idea of the wrath she's in for if it's not a boy. Anyway, I'm not changing my position, even if it were a family member on his side. It's not my concern, we don't interact, they don't even pick up the phone and check in, and didn't even when he was living here.
I will trade in clothes etc... and use the money to buy new items.
He's so silly. Perhaps a trade....for every NEW article of clothing he buys her, he can have one of her used ones!
Sometime the best response is no response or a simple, "No". I know his request is ridiculous, especially since he is being vague, makes you wonder if he has a gf who is pregnant..?
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I would tell him "I'm sorry but dd doesn't have any clothes because due to your lack of paying child support she is naked."
Some people really have nerve don't they? Good luck to you!
I would have said, "Why? Is your girlfriend pregnant?"
Seriously, you've got the right idea...give him the clothes purchased by his side of the family and tell him to take a hike.
Perhaps he is the one having another child?And think that you'll feel sorry for him & lend him a helping hand...Take the child support he owes you buy here new clothes & give back what his family bought for her & say here is the clothes you wanted me to save...
I would tell him very politely to bite me..
I think I would want to tell him off, but I would probably completely ignore the request as well as any other emails he may send about it. If he continues asking/telling you to save your daughters clothes I would tell him you haven't answered him because you assumed he had to be kidding & you don't generally reply to joke-type emails.
How do you manage clothing with her? Many families keep clothing for the children in their own homes and return the children in the clothing that they were sent in, and they label clothing by house. It may seem petty, but that way there are (theoretically) socks and shoes and whatnot at each home and the kids don't need to pack AND no one is hoarding clothing that the other parent bought. You might need to do this to minimize his giving ways.
The only reason I might actually address the issue is if he's likely to take what she's wearing and give away something you bought. Otherwise, I'd say the clothes are not available. End of discussion.
I would have responded:
"SCREW YOU!"
Or something along those lines... :)
I second Lucia's response -"It's hard to give clothes that aren't here because you're too much of a bum to pay child support."
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I second Lucia's response -"It's hard to give clothes that aren't here because you're too much of a bum to pay child support."
Ohhhh no child support no clothes. He has nervs!!! Sorry you have to deal with an Id... like that!!! ;)
Well, honestly, it would depend on a lot of different factors. If this is someone like his niece or sister that you know well from a long marriage, I just don't see it as so crazy.
That is, assuming you have a decent relationship with him...
That email doesn't even justify a response. Sounds like his girlfriend is pregnant and he's too cheap or broke to buy new clothes. I have never heard of a man being interested in baby clothes EVER. Ignore it and don't even consider giving your child's clothing to him. Be glad he's going to be your ex-husband soon. ;o) Clothing is not like furniture or cars that gets split up in a divorce.
I would have ignored the email and if he brought it up I would say, Oh, I thought you were joking-- hahahah, your request was rediculous so it must have been a joke. No, i wont save them for you--- She may want them for HER kids in the future--NOT YOURS. Have a nice day----- Then hang up. Thats what i would have done.
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Who says "family member"???? The answer is no, but its not worth you getting worked up (yet, I guess, depending on what the REAL situation is...) I would completely ignore him and not entertain him with a response.
