C.J.
Hi J.
No, there isn't anything wrong with you! My hubby is career Air Force and we have been through our share of deployments and separations. When we were stationed in Alaska, he went to Korea for a year and I was in Anchorage without any family. And I just dealt with it. You go on with your life, go to work, etc, because that is what you have to do. Doesn't mean I didn't miss him, or didn't wish he was home because it was really lonely, but I knew what I was getting into when I married him and that separations were part of the deal. During my husbands' last deployment to the middle east, most of my co-workers didn't even realize he was deployed, so guess I didn't show it either! lol. What good would it do your kids to see you crying and carrying on? And how would it help you to walk around all down and depressed for the duration? Yes, it is sad when they aren't here, but I tend to focus on when he is coming home rather than when he is gone - don't know if that makes any sense to you. Some women are just strong and suited (in a way) to deal with the not so nice part that comes along with a hubby in the military better than some others may be. I cry when he leaves the house that morning for the deployment and that's it. Life goes on, especially when you have kids to keep upbeat and busy. He has 16 years in and we are looking forward to retirement (yay, no more deployments) but his military service has shown me just how strong I can be all on my own. I don't know what kind of advice I could give you, because I'm the same way...so maybe just letting you know that you are not the only one that deals with the deployments like you are. Feel free to email any time if you just need someone to talk to. Good luck with the deployment and I pray for your hubby's safe return. C.