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My mom and grandmother are looking at houses to live in, the two of them together 12 hours away (they both currently live about 15 min. away from me in separate houses). They already own a house in the area they are looking to buy (already paid for, no mortgage), but it is on top of a mountain and they are looking on buying a farmhouse down in the valley instead. They don't want to sell the house (they have had this house for decades, use it basically as a vacation place) or rent it out.
Well, my grandmother informs me that she is not moving unless we (my family of 6) will move to that area, too! My mom even mentioned about giving the house on the mountain to us. We just bought a house over 2 years ago, we are STILL fixing it up, and we are VERY, VERY established here. It was sweet of my mom to consider giving us a house, but i think it is appalling for my grandmother to put that pressure on us!!! They have already made several trips to look at houses, my mom REALLY wants to move with my grandmother there... I've already said to them what I have said here: that we don't want to move and we are established here and what-not... I've mentioned moving SOMEWHERE else POSSIBLY in 4 or 5 years to them before this was brought up, though. I don't know what else to say. She keeps telling me this. It isn't going to happen. And I don't want this kind of pressure...
geez, what would you all do?
We aren't moving, grandma. Rinse, repeat.
I would politely thank them for thinking of you and wanting you to move at the same time, but that it is NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. And then refuse to discuss it again. Seriously - if you leave any possibility that you'll move, your mom and grandmother will keep hounding you.
My in-laws moved from the Midwest to California on the mistaken notion that once they were there, we would get jealous of their winter weather and follow a few years later. Wrong!!
My MIL was relentless about trying to get us to move there; looking for jobs for my hubby and a home for us to buy. After the umpteenth phone call during which she tried to guilt us into moving there, I finally had to tell her that I was NEVER going to move 1500 miles away, and if she insisted on bringing it up every time we spoke, I would no longer answer my phone. That was about a year ago and she hasn't mentioned it again since then.
Stand your ground and let her know it is not up for discussion.
"Granny are you OK? Don't you remember we hand this conversation the other day? Remember I said that I am not moving?"
"Well Granny I guess you aren't moving then!"
It's their choice, no matter what you decide. Just wash your hands of it. You choosing not to move is YOUR choice. When they talk about it, just tell them "We are happy here, but you are free to do what you want. Please don't ask again because the answer will still be no" Then don't talk about it anymore.
Say NO very firmly, and tell them I was done with the conversation.
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