I am good friends with a woman I met 2 years ago when our sons were in preschool together. We hit it off, and she's really the first close friend I've made since I became a SAHM 7 years ago. We found out last week that our sons (now in 1st grade) will not be in the same Cub Scout den. We are both upset about it, and since my son is in the den she wanted to be in, she was considering contacting the powers-that-be to see if she could get her son switched to our den. She was going back and forth for a couple of days about it, and couldn't make up her mind about what to do. I knew about this, as well as two other moms. On Friday, the leader of my den e-mailed my friend and told her she'd been made aware of the situation and wanted to know if she was planning to get her son moved over to our den. My friend forwarded me the e-mail and said "I wonder who brought this to her attention?". I replied that I didn't know, but that it wasn't me! I haven't heard from her since. We usually check in with each other via text or e-mail at least once a day. I texted her Saturday morning and didn't hear back. I left her a voicemail today asking her how her weekend is going, and I've heard nothing. It's very unusual for her to go this long w/out getting back to me even on a holiday weekend. I'm starting to think she's offended or mad at me. I don't know if she thinks I did say something, or is offended that I would suggest that she might have thought that I was the one who said something I hope this is not the case since I really value her friendship and don't want to lose her as a friend. If I don't hear from her tomorrow, should I just wait until I see her on Tuesday and see how she acts towards me, or should I ask her if she's upset with me?
ETA: Thanks for the responses so far. @Bug, she and I usually connect every day. I am not the one who usually initiates contact. Sometimes I do, and sometimes she does. Since I've contacted her twice and have heard nothing, I will just leave it alone until I hear from her.
Am I missing something? Why would she have gotten offended that the leader reached out to her about something she had already been contemplating.
It's been since Friday. Things happen, and she is probably busy or something. There is no need to contact every day, if she doesn't get right back to you. (Personally, I would find that suffocating, but I don't know your relationship with her.) If you are truly good friends, don't you think she'd tell you if she was really upset? Really, I think you're probably worried about nothing. Give her a little space. Perhaps, that's all she is seeking. (That is totally normal, and does not mean shes mad.) Are you the one who initiates most of the communication? If so, I wonder if she just doesn't need that much contact. Which, is nothing personal.
Anyway, I wouldn't say anything. Silence typically means nothing.
I'm sure it's nothing. See how it plays out before you do anything.
Give her space. If you didn't do anything wrong, why keep chasing her to see if she is upset? If she is, you will know it when you do speak with her. Give her a few days and then you can call and say---I'm checking in because i haven't heard from you and its not like you to not return my phone calls. is everything ok? Then you can ask her if something is bothering her. It may have NOTHING to do with you. Good luck!
I would wait until Tuesday. I am notorious for overreacting to silence. After you realize you were wrong more times than right enough times you learn to wait.
If she is really a good friend, she would talk to you about it and ask if you told the den mother, not just assume you did. Friends communicate.
Yeh I don't get why she'd be upset either. But do agree if something is out of pattern e.g not calling or responding to u something seems wrong but why.? I would have just asked the kid to be moved with his friend. Did she go out of town maybe?
Even if you were the one to say something, I dont see what the problem is. I would have taken the opportunity to ask for him to be moved. I dont see why she would be upset about this.i would just sit on it until you see her and then ask her about it. Good luck!
Since it's the holiday I would wait until Tuesday, If you dont hear from her by then call and make sure she is ok. Maybe she thinks you said something? Just let her know your there when she is ready to talk.
Sounds like she is assuming she knows what happened & jumping conclusions. I would almost guarantee that she is avoiding responding to you, on purpose. If she is a mature adult that is as good of a friend as you say she is, then she will call you to sort it out. If not, then you have seen her true colors & know where you stand. I am not one to feed into this type of behavior. I will not chase someone & beg & plead for a response. We are all busy & don't have time for games like that.
