I Must Be the Only Woman in the World Who Wants More Sex than Her Hushand!!

You are definitely not the only one in the world! Most everyone I know including myself are in the same boat. My suggestion and what works for me when we get into a rut is just change up everything about how things get initiated. If he is usually the one that initiates things, then you get things started. Try some new more revealing outfits or maybe buy some "Toys" and be all like "Hey honey, look what I got" see if that gets him going. And if all else fails..this is sad.. but you could resort to what every guy wants for his birthday..lol. Just spice it up...ooooh try some massage oil, that always works. Hope this helps!

I have gone through the same thing with my husband. I just like the intimacy of sex, and would like it more than 3-4 times a month. I really think that some men just don't need it more than that. I don't think men crave intimacy like women do...it's more of a physical thing with them. And if they only physically need to release once a week, that's fine with them. I have gotten used to it and try not to worry about it anymore. We have been married for 6 years and have a 5 year old daughter. We only go to bed at the same time about 2-3 times a week anyway, and usually are both too tired. It only happens for us on a weekend night!

Exercise works wonders for how a man feels. My husband has told me himself that he feels the best and in the mood after exercising. It increases blood flow and makes them feel better physically, and relieves stress. Plus it gives him more energy!

YOU AIN'T!!!! My hubbie has a tendency to over work himself and underwork me too! (Ha!) I have been married for 9 years. I was married at the age of 19 and my hubbie was only 21 so we were.....active. We have two boys. One is 7 and the other is 5. They just think the world of their Daddy. When he comes home he is tired but never misses out on spending time with his boys. That usually leaves me a little ignored. After he has spent time with the boys, ate and cleaned up for the night he is ready for sleep. Here is what I have done to get him a little more stirred up. I always try to make sure to wash up before he gets home. I fix something to eat and I try to make sure he is seeing the girlie side of me. I hum and I run my fingers through my hair, anything to make him notice me without looking obvious. I put a TV in our room and told him that it was for us to be able to lay in bed and watch movies together without making him feel like he just HAS to stay awake. I've watched some action/horror/blood/guts/gore movies with him (while he's there to protect me, of course.) and here's the clincher, I have told him how proud I am of all his hard work and told him that he deserves to be pampered. I let him lay on his stomach, to watch his movie, and I rub him down with some intimate oils. I try to be very sweet and gentle. I tell him how tense he feels and how much I hope I am helping. BUT! I also tell him how great his skin feels and how it kinda gets to me since we don't get the time together that we used to have. The key is to get those pants off!!! Rub on those feet, ugh!!, and legs and make him feel like he can do everything. It sounds really stupid but we all know how guys are and it's kept a smile on my face!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Zinc and Ginseng are supplements you should give him.

Oh honey you are a not alone. Me and my boyfriend have been together 7 1/2 years. Fixing to get married in two weeks. Me and my boyfriend have sex like 3 times a month and it angers me. He says he doesn't need sex. I'm like well but I do. I also have ruled out cheating.. I hope things get better for you. I feel your pain.

Hi B.,

You are not alone. We are going through a very stressful time with our teenage son right now and our love life circumstances are the same. I crave the intimacy that comes with making love yet he can't turn his brain off. What works sometimes for me is to have him take a nap when he comes home from work, not add any additional burdens on him that night and then make advances after our son has gone to bed. Sometimes I gently wake him up in the middle of the night...by the time he is fully awake he's also arroused and his brain doesn't have time to engage.

Good luck. This time will pass and your husband will be back to his normal self as soon as the stress decreases at wor.

W. Q

Hey B., I have gone through periods of time like this with my hubby. I think its just natural. I dont know how old your husband is but mine is now 40 the last time we went through this was about a year ago. it lasted for a couple months and then he returned to his horn dog self. I can tell you a couple things that helped for us. This sounds goofy but it worked for us. I would make chocolate chip cookies or something with cinnamon in it. And my husband would come home and smell that and feel all lovey dovey. Also you just have to take advantage of any opportunity. Like if he is a morning guy then be there in the morning. You can mabey wake him up with a nice back massage, and take it from there. I would try to create a stress free environment around the time you want to have sex. Make sure kids are sleeping or better yet at grandmas, or take a scenic ride together just the two of you. Turn off phones. ETc... I know everybody is different but these are things that have worked for us. We have been married 15 years have a 5 yr old and an 8 month baby and we have a great sex life.
Good luck, and dont stress about it.

It is probably the new career. If he is stressed out, he may not feel like sex, and he also may worry that he won't perform well. In my (limited) experience, it is better NOT to bring your feelings up right now, as that may only increase his anxiety. Instead, try to find non-aggressive physical ways of showing affection and appreciation and let things take their course, or not. When your husband feels better about work, he will feel better about everything else, too.

It's an unfortunate truth of nature that a man's sex drive deminishes just as a woman's sex speeds up. I think it's nature's birth control. Try talking to your husband and telling him that you feel you need sex more often. You can also try surprising him. That would be hard with kids in the house, but if they're somehow all out of the house at the same time, jump on him when he's helping fold laundry or fixing something around the house. I wouldn't spend money on cute little outfits unless he has a certain fantasy. I've always been told that men could care less about them.

IS it possable to plan a weekend away that way he would be less stressed and in a a more carefree mind. Also I would try a romantic breakfast in bed on the weekend again he will be less stressed then during the week when he has work issues on his mind. Also as someone else said have a appointment with a Doctor just to make sure everything is fine,sugar or heart problems can cause this.

That's too funny. I'm a Sagittarius so I know how you feel. Fortunately, my fiancee is a Sag too, But we each still have our moments. I've had to battle breast cancer for the past few years, so thru numerous surgeries, chemotherapy, and hormone suppression, I wasn't typically in the mood. But I knew he shouldn't suffer because of it, and helped where I could. I hear a lot of guys have a down-time. What you need is a kick-start. Are "movies" allowed in the home? Mebbe a romantic eve with a fire and some wine on the back porch? Toys? Starting without him always seemed to work for me. If nothing else works, take up bellydancing. Good luck! :}

Hey B.! Im so glad I'm not the only one in this boat. God likes to play little tricks on us. When my husband was in his early twenties, he wanted it all the time and I could care less! I hit my prime times in my thirties,and still want it all the time now in my forties. Its slowed down for him, but I do find messages work to start things up. The only problem now is he gets it one day, it will take a few more days before he's ready again. I'm ready the same day! Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one. Wish you the best of luck. OH yeah! New moves and diff. positions work well too. My husband and I have been together for 23 yrs. It gets monotonous after awhile so change things up. T.

You are not the only one out there! Me and my husband are in the same situation. But when he does have enough energy to muster up some attempt at foreplay or anything really, Our 2 month old daughter wakes up and then we can't do anything. My advice is to take a shower with your husband whenever he takes one and then make all the steamy touching continue when you get out of the shower.

You're not alone! My husband and I have been married 9 1/2 years and the sex has been bad all of those years. I've had to initiate it probably 90% of the time. And it's just getting worse the older we get. I could have sex 24/7 but not him. Several times we've gone 8-9 months without having sex! I told him several weeks ago that I wanted a divorce. He asked why? There were a number of reasons but I also mentioned the part about not having sex. We spent the day together and decided to try and work things out. That same night, HE initiated sex. That's been 4 weeks ago and guess what? We haven't had sex since then! He just turned 40 and I thought that's when men hit their prime. Apparently not. I just don't know what to do. I've read everyone's responses and most of those things suggested, I've tried. But I shouldn't have to initiate it all of the time. Any more suggestions?

Hey my name is M. and I comptley understand where you coming from. But be careful to rule out cheating very quickly. I thought my boyfriend would never cheat, he didn't seam the type either. He loved spending time with me and our son. But guess what one day I got a phone call from his other girlfriend. I had no idea. She knew all about me, but I had no clue about her. They had been seeing each other for almost two years. I had no idea.

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Your not alone! My husband is the same way. He actually says he doesn't need sex. I have ruled out cheating as well, he is always home when he's not working too. I know his schedule and all, so it's virtually impossible for him to be cheating. I'm going to be reading the responses you get for some advice as well. I don't really have advice for you, I'm sorry. Just wanted you to know that your definitely not alone. Good Luck!!

B. - you most certainly are not the only woman! It's amazing the number of women I know who complain about the lack of drive their husbands have.

I'm one of them. I'd like it a lot more often than my husband gives out. I've almost given up on even bothering to mention it anymore & just wish I could flick the switch so I don't want it... but, I can't.

You never know, you might get your horn-dog back one day... and should that happen, could you please share the thing that brought him back, it might just work with my husband, too!

About a year ago, my husband would've told you that we were in the same situation... in reverse. (I was the one with the new job/stress/fatigue)

It could be so many different things! It probably has a little to do with the stress and probably some physiological changes too. Throughout our lives, our bodies change (not just at puberty). It could be that his testosterone levels are off, or that something else is off. I agree with the others who suggested that he see a doctor. Have you confronted him about the problem? Could be physiological (hormones or otherwise) or psychological (stress).

When we were in this situation, I knew that I was tired, but my hormones were also out of whack AND my husband's attitude would totally turn me off. (He was a stay-at-home dad and didn't want to give me 10 minutes to myself after I came home from work) He'd get frustrated with me for not wanting to "hop to it" right away, - (I just needed to get dinner out of the way and take a bath) - then he'd get ugly with my daughter over minor things, which would turn me off and make me not want it at all.

Talk to him and see if you can figure out what the problem is. If it's not stress and there's nothing he can point to about your home life that is causing a problem, it may be his hormones.

EDITED TO ADD: Don't do like my husband and pout or get mad if he doesn't want to. Also, try to approach the subject in a manner that expresses concern, rather than saying "Why am I always the one that has to initiate it?" or "You're NEVER in-the-mood." Which is what I got!

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Urge him to get a complete physical. This could be a signal that something is wrong. This happened twice in our family.

I know how you feel. I want it more than my hubby too. Sometimes medical reasons can decrease a man's libido, as well as being overly tired. Try to get him to see a doctor.