Caught him twice looking at my 14 year olds butt twice while my back was turnt he then proceeded to turn to look at me.to see if i noticed. Of course its not his daughter. He says it never happen of course. Hes denying. Called his sister and told her about it
LOL @ Southern Yankee!!! i was thinking the same.. HELLO DRAMA!
and wheres the question?? i cant answer a question thats not here.
So your husband is checking out his step daughter's butt? You saw this, he denies it and then YOU called his sister and told her? Hello, drama!
What is it you are asking? Did your husband check out his step daughter's butt? I don't know but if he did that's a big problem. If you saw and he saw you saw and then denied it, that's a big problem. You calling his sister and tattling on him? That's a big problem.
To me, sounds like you have some problems in your marriage and home. Might be a good idea to find out what the hell is going on in your home. Also, you don't need to broadcast this. Not fair to your daughter.
Your back was "turnt"? Do you mean turned? Geesh
Either you trust your husband or you don't. Why did you call his sister and start this drama?
Sounds to me like you want attention.
ETA: For those that are slow to catch on and understand...with all the hype from Hollywood regarding "me too" allegations....what are you looking for? Someone to say "Yes, Me too"? Is your daughter a victim? No. She is not.
You did NOT ask a question, even the longest of members on this board should know that a post SHOULD be a QUESTION...oops. SO I asked what your question is. What do you want? I'm sorry there are people who could NOT understand that.
Did your husband look at her butt in a "sexual" way? WHY was the first thing you thought of was "bad" when it came to him? That's VERY TELLING about your marriage/relationship and how you view him.
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in the course of everyone saying they are a victim - jump on the bangwagon, please.
If you don't trust your husband? Either divorce him or get counseling.
If you feel he is going to be abusive towards your daughter? Divorce him.
What exactly is your question here? For people who were NEVER present to jump on your bandwagon and say YES!! WE SAW IT TOO!!??
What are you wanting to gain out of this situation?
Yuck, that is pretty gross if he was checking out a 14 year old. I'm sorry. Honestly, I would be VERY wary of him and if I saw anything like this again I would 1. insist he get therapy and 2. think about divorcing him. Don't drag his sister into this...that is not right.
Well - that's just unpleasant and I'm not sure what you do about that. Yuk. Where do you go from there.. ugh.
As for calling his sister about it ... not sure I would have done that. What was the purpose of that? I wouldn't appreciate a call like that myself. That seems to be crossing a boundary somewhere.
I think this is between you and your husband, no one else.
The fact that he checked to see if you were watching and then denied it ... speaks volumes. I wouldn't trust your husband in other areas either if that's his character. You don't write much here or give background.
ETA: Doris - you make a valid point. I'm not suggesting she cover it up - I just feel that S. should act on it rather than dump this on his sister. I think at the very least, S. I would reach out to a counsellor and ask for advice on how to proceed. Doris makes a good point - this kind of thing can escalate. It's disturbing (a man being sexually interested in a 14 year old in general) and do you really want to have to watch her like a hawk at home - which is really what you will have to do until you know there's nothing to worry about. I would also have a talk with your daughter without alarming her - just to make sure those lines of communication are open so she knows she can come to you. If he's being so brazen as to do this in front of you - that's pretty bad.
I have no idea what WW is talking about. Her post makes no sense to me.
I am also not sure from what you write WHO called his sister. You said "He's denying. Called his sister..." Did HE call his sister or did you? It's not clear. When you write, please don't abbreviate sentences.
You haven't said how long you have been married to him. If he has been around a long time, then this is more than creepy since he would have raised her. If he's a new husband, then he certainly doesn't see her as a child in your house.
You need to get marriage counseling and figure out if you want to stay in this marriage. If you don't trust him around your daughter, then you shouldn't be living with him. And she shouldn't be either. She comes before anything else.
Honestly, I disagree with the posts who said that this should only be between you and your husband. Incestuous relationships are able to happen because people are quiet about it. He may just be a watcher and never touch your daughter, but you don't know. And if he were to do something to her, you'd never forgive yourself for ignoring suspect behavior.
What you really HAVE to do is figure out if you are making a mountain out of a molehill or if there is a real problem here. You have to be honest with yourself and really figure out if you are right or wrong.
Too much for me....I honestly don't know how to respond.
Your daughter this time, your friend next times. Sorry, I'm too untrusting and maybe even a bit jealous and insecure to be with anyone who has a wandering eye.
