S.H.
Hi Heidi;
It does seem that each woman's process is unique to her. I can share my story. I was pregnant for 10 weeks when we found out on Dec. 28 (a number of years ago) that the fetus wasn't viable. I opted to wait for a natural miscarriage, but 2 weeks later nothing was happening. Went in and had the procedure done.
I was stunned at how deeply grief hit me. I cried for days, then after a week only once a day, and then a couple of times each week, until I was only hit by the grief once in a while. It took a full year for me to process this.
At that time many women shared their story with me and I marveled that this happens so often, yet we often never know. It helped to understand how many women shared my experience.
It was hard to have people call and ask how I was in the first month or so. I would start crying all over again. Looking back, though, I'm glad I got it out.
I think I would have felt worse if people had acted as if it had never happened.
She's very lucky to have caring sisters to laugh and cry with through this.
Best regards,
S.