How to Deal with Ex-friend Wanting My Fiance

You know the fact that he hide this from you , brings up red flags, big time, the reason he finally told you , was maybe somebody else saw them and was going to tell, I smell a rat on both sides, if A guy isn't interested his body language would say I am not interested. It takes two to kiss, I bet you anything this isn't the first time that flirting has been going on. Oh and by the way when he offered to let you hit him, I would of would of asked him why did you do something wrong ! I am telling you Girl I smell a rat on both sides.

This happened to my daughter too who was married. Cut her off completely, tell her you are no longer friends and not to contact you and let her know if she does contact you again you will tell her husband why you are no longer friends. It is far more important to keep a family unit together than a friendship!
Good luck!

Maybe this sounds harsh, but I would dump her as a friend. Clearly she doesn't know boundaries! She disrespected you and you can't trust her. I'd cut her off. Just my advise, she may feel bad, but people like that do those types of things because they only think of themselves!

There is nothing to deal with. She violated the friendship. She ended it with her actions. It is over. Leave it, and her, and her husband, alone. You have a good thing going. A baby on the way. A good man. We live and learn in life. You had a friend who hurt and betrayed you. She is no longer your friend. Let the hurt go and move on.

Don't be confused!! This is pretty straight forward....your "EX" Friend is a HO!!! She has ZERO respect for you and your family. You are extremely lucky to have her GONE!! If she keeps trying to contact you send her a registered letter telling her you and your fiance do not want her to contact your family. I can't believe she is still trying to talk to you.....She is CRAZY! REMEMBER:she is NOT your friend.
-M. P

WIth friends like that, you don't need enemies. So, move on and forward. If she continues to contact tell her that you are going to change your number. I would be direct in telling her that you know that she kissed your fiance, that is not ok, and that you don't need her friendship.

As for your fiance, its great that he finally told you. HOWEVER, he needs tell you sooner than a month later. That is unacceptable as well. I don't think that he should be rewarded for doing what he should be doing. How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot?

She is not your friend. She will do it again and again. Dump her and find new friends. Keeping her around says you value her over your fiance and don't value yourself much at all.

You and he go join a group of people that do what you like to do and get new friends.

Sweetheart if I were u I would simply cut her off. Her husband will find out eventually if she's that kind of person and u don't need to involve yourself in her drama! I would not entertain her texts, emails, calls, etc. What she did is a total and complete violation of you and to put it plainly, she is NOT your friend and probably never really was. There are women like that in this world that covet what other women have instead of trying to deal with there own problems. I would cut her off completely! Who says u have to have a boat load of friends? I think a few true friends are enough to sustain a person. I'm not saying don't forgive her if she ever admits her wrong doing but I am saying u don't have to company with someone who thinks so little of u. God Bless You.
G.

Yuck! She is gross and you shouldn't let her bad energy near you ever again. Don't respond to her text messages. Let her learn the hard way that her behavior was unacceptable.

The truth is... no one told you about the situation in a reasonable amount of time. IF she was your friend and your fiance hit on her... SHE should have told you right away. And IF she hit on your fiance...HE should have told you right away. To me it feels like there may be more to the story and I wouldn't trust anyone right now. If you want to work things out with your fiance you should really think long and hard about it and seek counseling with him.

Sorry to hear about your situation and your broken heart. It isn't fun to be put into this situation. Keep your head straight and try to figure out if this situation can be mended inside your heart in the long run. Wishing you all the best.

Hi M.. You know, I would get the other side of the story from your ex-friend. Definitely sever the friendship, but you should be able to confront her. You just never know what really happened and how. Not that your fiance isn't trustworthy, but you should hear her side of the story and address it accordingly. If anything you could then tell her how you feel and, if need be, end the friendship with everything in the open and you'd get the closure you need.

Not to ruffle your feathers or cause unnecessary problems, but your fiance acted completely wrong by hidding it the way he did. In my opinion, I don't think that he's completely innocent and offering to let you "hit him" to let out your anger does not absolve him from all responsibilty for what happened. He very well may be a good guy and just didn't know how to respond to what happened, but he needs to be more truthful with you and wiser in how he handles bad situations. Just think about it and try to be objective. Good luck.

If this were me, I would find out what her story is. Did it ever cross your mind that he is not telling the truth? From the sound of her text response, I would be led to believe that HE kissed her. At any rate, it takes two. You dont just accidently get kissed by someone. If you have to, sit them both down together and get the story straight. She wouldnt be my friend anymore, and he possibly wouldnt be my fiance anymore either. Neither one of them should have "let" it happen, so they are both at fault in my opinion. And yes absolutely her husband should know! Put yourself in his shoes wouldn't you want to know? Just my 2 cents.

Hit your fiance? I'd bring him flowers! What a great guy for being so forthright. It does not matter that it took him a few weeks - he had to come to terms with what he felt was his part in it. He's a keeper.

Re the woman, sounds tome like you have it right - ex friend. Avoid like the plague. Angry, you bet! Done, for sure. Don't waste your breath explaining a thing to her. Clearly she likes drama, who wants to engage in that? She screwed up, she pays the price of a lost friendship. You did the right thing by not talking, texting etc. She's toxic and nothing you do will change that.

I think it's time to develop some new friends. Maybe a mom's group, etc in your area?

Re the husband, unless you are really tight with him, butt out. Most likely he knows what he's married to.

You are in control here. You can either engage in her nonsense or move on. Sounds to me like you have some great things in your life. Don't stoop to her level and turn your life into a soap opera. I know it must hurt to feel betrayed, but don't make it worse by playing her game.

I think you both handled it beautifully. Nothing more needs to be don.

Do not contact her again. She is not s friend and I'm sure you can find new friends.

Hi M., she's not a friend drop her, join a playgroup or begin a playgroup with other moms eventually you will make new friends. If you let her back into your life it may get to the point where you will have to choose between your friendship or your fiance. Don't put yourself in that position.

High Five to your fiance.
If she trys to make contact again..Tell her exactly what you know....and if you'r on the phone doing this...have your finace get on the phone to confirm it...
Then let her know she's not welcome at your home or in your circle of friends...Plus if her husband wants to know why you two aren't associating with each other....You'd be happy to tell him

AJ

You don't need a friend like her. I would let her know that you are not going to pursue the friendship anymore. You also need to figure out how/if you should forgive your fiance and let him know that you will not tolerate any sort of cheating because you have a child together. Good luck in your situation.

Well M.,
I would stay in touch with her just to keep her close. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer..... I had a situation kind of like that too. My hubby told me that my new friend always came out with this low cut shirts and would leand over at him so he could see her breast. I still see her sometimes, but I never put my husband near her or go with him with her. So trust your fiance for it took guts to let you know. Also good luck on the new baby do you know if it's a boy or girl?

I strongly believe you need to cut off your relationship with her. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, so don't feel desperate to keep such a person as your friend just because most of your good friends are far away. The less time you are wasting with her, will give you opportunities to meet other people.

As far as her husband is concerned, leave that alone. He'll find out sooner or later what kind of person she is but I don't recommend throwing yourself in the middle of that. It'll cause stress on you, your family & your relationship with your fiance.

My husband's (male) cousin has a fiance that keeps calling my husband. Even though I don't think she's after him or anything, it consumes too much of his time when she calls, he'll be stuck on the phone for 1/2 - 1 hour while she asks for advice about her fiance (his cousin) and talks about things that are going on. I personally don't like it because she's the home wrecker that broke up my husband's cousin's marriage. So, he ended up saving her number on his cell as "Do not answer." He felt uncomfortable saving her number on his phone so this way, it helps him know not to pick it up. Then, one day she called from his cousin's phone and he picked up. My point is, some people are just like, it's going to be difficult to get rid of them w/o being rude but you just need to seperate yourself from them, they are a waste of your energy. We're all stressed enough with raising our kids right, dealing with extra-curricular activities for our kids, work, keeping our marriage strong, scheduling vacations, etc. Who's got time for energy sucking people?

Good luck,
S.

Personally I have been there. A little different situation because she and my oldest childs dad ended up together for about a year. I feel you need to let her know that you are no longer friends. Actually you were NEVER friends because friends would NEVER do that to you. She will soon realize what she lost, when she messed up, if she doesn't already.

As for her husband that is a tricky one but not a real hard one. If he is or in anyway was a friend of yours or your fience I think you should be that friend to him and let him know. If he were to find out later what a ho she is and that you both knew about it, it could hurt him twice as much.

I look at it like this, if it was my man who did something like that I would definatly want to be told. Wouldn't you!!

Good luck and GOD bless you to do the right thing.

K.

First off, this friend is absolutely NO FREIND OF YOURS. This situation needs to be nipped in the bud by telling her husband what happened. Tell your friend that your fiance told you she tried to kiss him and that you do not want her in your life any longer. She WILL DO THIS AGAIN, this girl is not trust worthy. Her husband may know of her behavior or not, but in any event, he needs to know who he is married to.
Your fiance is a great guy, but keep temptation away from him by not seeing this friend again.............
Been there, done that............

hi M., First of all, she was never a true friend, because a true friend does not do that. I don't know your fiance, but he did tell you, and that shows integrity, so forgive your fiance, forgive thid other person, but i would not have her around, she has proven she can't be trusted. I would not day anything to her husband, chances are they may be having problems right not and she felt valurble, but if you love this man, and you believe that he is trully fsithful then you need to protect that relationship. i hope this helped. you can e-mail me if you would like to talk furthure ____@____.com I'm 51 and i have been married to the greatest guy for 27 years. J.

Sorry to say this but she's not your friend at all. You'd be better off without someone like that in your life...even if it means that you'll have one less friend. It's always best to have a few great friends than tons of friends who don't really have your best interests at heart. And she's one of them. Especially if she kissed him while you were in the restroom....imagine if you were away for a couple of days?!?! And the fact that she hasn't apologized for making a bad decision is self explanatory. If she's so unhappy in her marriage then maybe she should find a man who's not engaged/married. Sounds to me like she has some serious self-esteem issues. Get rid of her and don't look back...your future husband will thank you too! If you ever need to talk, you can always email me. I know how hard it is to be far from friends and family (I'm originally from Connecticut). Take care and best of luck to you!!!!

your so called friend hit on him when you went to the rest room? jeez, what would of happened if you were away for a day?!! both of you/fiance need to tell her together that your ending the friendship. this will show unity, after all it was his lips, too. dont be surprised if ex friend says 'he kissed back' and all that. make new friends elsewhere. if her husband asked why the distants, then you could tell him.

Hi M.,
I am so sorry that you had to experience that but now you know how inconsiderate some women can be. I'm glad you have a good man in your life who would at least let you know, I could understand his fear in telling you because that could be taken wrong. I see some people are telling you not to trust him either (you know your man). I would say DO NOT let another woman come between you and your man, you said that she doesn't have a good husband, MISERY LOVES COMPANY, when she was asking about your man you should have told her to mind her own business. Those type of women are just fishing for information anyway. I'm glad your man knows what woman he wants to be with. I wouldn't ever allow her near me, my kids or my fiance again. GOOD LUCK with that.

if i were in your situation first i would be very grateful to have a fiancee who was open enough to tell me what happened with the ex-friend. what a sticky situation she put your fiancee in.

secondly, the ex-friend has gotta go. period. you can either tell her straightforward (which is what i would do so there is no confusion as to why i'm dropping her as a friend) or have her figure out why you're no longer responding to her texts. but she already knows she's all the way in the wrong.

third, the issue with the ex-friend's husband is a lil tricky. i'm not messy, so i personally wouldn't tell her husband straight out unless he asked. (who knows, he might know already and doesn't care). but i did like the idea of telling the ex-friend to beat it and letting her know you would tell her hubby if she didn't get the message (from an earlier post).

rah

I would certainly keep her on the ex-friend list eternally. If it were me I would probably text her and tell her you know what happened and that you do not want her to contact you anymore. With friends like that who needs enemies. As for her husband, I wouldn't tell him unless he asks. You don't want to cause trouble but you do want to be honest if you are asked. You should tell all of us her name so we can avoid her...hehe. Best wishes.

Frankly I don't see what you are confused about.....
Cut her off!! But, before you do that, tell her she should be ashamed of herself. And that you don't need her as a friend, in fact tell her she is a terrible friend and you never want to speak to her again. There is no forgiving that kind of behavior. I don't see how you are being so calm about the whole thing! I'd freak out on the chick...I think I would want to punch her.
And, in my oppinion if she was willing to hurt your marriage, then by all means hurt hers.
I'm glad to see your husband fessed up about what happened.
Yes, cut her off!!!!!!
You'll make more friends!
Good luck!

Omg what a biyatch! I wouldn't give her the time of day. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. She is bound to do something shady again if you let her back in to your life. Besides do you really want to associate with someone who makes you uneasy every time you get up just to use the bathroom leaving you husband to be in her company! I would just leave it be UNLESS she EVER makes another move on your man. Then ide sing like a bird to her hubby. Ugh I can't stand women like that. And don't worry about having a limited ammount of friends. A couple of good ones is better than any shady ones. Good luck tho!

UG! Do yourself a favor and find new friends. It sounds like you want to keep her around because you don't have more friends, but if you did would you keep her around? Probably not. It can be hard to make new friends, but if you put the energy out there you'll find some eventually. Just simply tell her the friendship is over and why, and then block her number so she can't call anymore. I think your fiance handled it really well. Guys are poor communicators and anti-conflict by nature, so I can see why he had a hard time coming to you with this. I think he is innocent especially because he always wanted to leave when she was coming over. If your relationship is good and you are happy, don't let this whole incident drive you crazy ruin it. Just dump the lame "friend", and tell the fiance that you are happy he finally let you know and next time tell you sooner!

It's wonderful that you feel supported by your fiance, and you are wise to leave it alone, and ignore her texts.

The good thing is he has been honest with you, and that relationship is the one you need to focus on and continue with.

If she continues to text you, you can say that you are busy and can't take anything up with her right now, and just go on minding your own business and taking care of yourself.

One more thing: you can pray for her: "I pray that the b---- gets everything she deserves." Do this every day for 2 weeks can really help take your mind off the betrayal and hurt.

I would tell her husband. She deserves to get all she will get after he finds out. Write her off as a friend too. You don't need friends like that. You will meet new friends through your kids. Join the gym and meet people there or you can join something else.

I would say don't tell her husband. I'm sure he knows how she is or is suspecios of it. And DON'T associate with her anymore. She is not your friend and was never your friend. don't even stress about it. Don't give her another chance at all. You only need one good friend. If you allow her back what kind of message will that send to your fiance'? That would really be stupid. You don't want to lose everything over a little inconsiderate ho.

It is good that he told you. A lot of men would have made her their side "chic", Kudos to him.

Be blessed,

Wow M.,

I see this triggered more responses than I've ever seen on Mamasource since I joined a few months ago.

I can't emphasize enough how you need to follow your TRUE GUT FEELING about the whole thing. Honor yourself. God knows I overlooked a few red flags before I got married, giving my fiance the benefit of the doubt, because I just pretended I knew the truth I wanted to believe. I have lived to regret it most deeply, not just emotionally, but financially.

SHE is definitely not your friend and should be cut off for good, however you might want to give her a chance to explain, via email or letter only, with her version about what actually transpired between her and your fiance. No need to respond to her.

Maybe your fiance is an innocent dupe, maybe he will be okay in the honesty department and she was just the equivalent of a lap dancer at his bachelor party. Please follow your truth and not just what you want to believe.

As far as getting involved in telling her husband...Very tempting, but perhaps not worth it, unless he is a good friend of yours whom you believe should know the truth as much as you should.

You are very young sweetie with a lot of responsibilities, don't fall for the BS. God bless you and your children.

C. L

a friend would never do that to a friend. drop her. its a good thing your fiance admitted what happened and you should appreciate his honesty even though it took him so time. you dont need to have a bundle of friends but having a few close friends that you could hang out with once in awhile is great. i think she is wanting out of her relationship and trying to find an excuse. Be honest with her and tell her you feel betrayed and friends dont do that. so please stop contacting me.

A person who kisses your fiance is NOT a friend. I would ask her not to contact you again as your relationship w/ her puts a strain on you and your fiance. She'll have to decide whether to be honest with her husband like your fiance, thankfully, was honest with you.

Wow that sucks to have a friend put you in that position. The nice thing is that your fiance told you about it instead of hiding it from you, that had to be hard for him since this is your friend. I would not tell the husband, you do not want to get in the middle of their martital problems. I would get together with your friend and let her tell you her side of the story if she will and then tell her what you know of the situation. Then depending on what she says, let her know that you don't appreciate her flirting with your fiance and if she does it again your friendship is over. I would limit the time you place your fiance and her together so you don't put him in a nasty situation. Good luck!

wow I agree that really sucks.

especially if you only have a few friends in the area. I have found it really hard to cut someone ( a friend) off if you don't have many. but you have to. allowing this person to stay in your life will only cause you more problems. stop returning her calls and focus on finding new friends. maybe you can set play dates with your kids and other moms. I'm sure if you request something like that on this board there are plenty of mommies that would love to meet up. or maybe meet for coffee without kids for some adult time.

sounds like you've got a good life partner with good cummunication skills.

congrats on the new baby, good luck

Lose the "friend"...she's not a friend. She's trouble and bad energy for your family. Keep your fiance, he sounds wonderful and loyal to you. Make friends elsewhere, she's not worth it. Just cut it off, cut off all contact, without a thought, erase her from your life. You do not need the headache...not now, not ever. Good luck to you, have a blessed life with you best friend and kids. They are what matter.

Let it go. Of course you feel hurt and betrayed but I wouldn't expend any more energy on her. She sounds very selfish and is looking for attention in any way she can get it. Don't waste your time on her. You have a wonderful man that loves you and was trying to protect you from those feelings of hurt and betrayal.

Hey M.,

Slapping her comes to mind!! But seriously, let her go...friends like that come a dime a dozen and telling her husband won't make things different or change her and will only make you go to her level!! Know that saying, what goes around comes around!! I do admire you fiance for telling you the truth and I think you should treasure that about him!! Did you get any feelings that she was trying to do this before it happen, if so, make sure you follow your instincts next time!! If you ever need someone to talk to email me at ____@____.com!! I am a 44 year old HIP Mom of 2 kids, 17 yr old boy and 16 yr old daughter, married 18 years and live in Long Beach, Bixby Knolls area!! My husband was a firemen and is now a fire Inspector and so I have been there, done that with women trying to get at my husband!! But don't worry, men know when they have a good thing and it seem yours does!! Good Luck

V.

Tell her husband and never again communicate with her. You can always make new friends by getting involved with a local church or Mothers of Preschoolers groups.

Yup! ditch the so-called- friend. Hmmm! I wonder if she has done that to other 'friends'. Anyway, you spent enough time on her! drop her like the pest she is. I wouldn't tell her anything... she doesn't even deserve that. but I agree with previous posters to tell her that you are going to tell her DH if she won't leave you alone.
I personally would not tell her DH... truth is he knows the kinda girl he married... and who knows he probably already knows. I'd completely cut all strings.

And kudos to fiance for telling the truth. Tell him that next time something like that happens that you will back his decision 100%. I can't believe the poor guy put up with her for you! wonderful guy you got there.

I also agree get out there, join a group, just go to yahoo and search for a local mom's group. go to play dates. or to your local rec center with your kiddos. there are plenty of moms out there looking for friends. that will NOT try to break up your family! find them & drop her.

This married woman is no friend of yours if she is sneaking around your back and hitting on your fiance. Obviously, your fiance had picked up on it a long time ago because he didn't want to be around you if this so-called friend came to visit. I would cut all ties with this woman immediately. She can never be trusted as a true friend after what she did. As for your fiance, he came forward and was honest with you. If he really loves you, he will appreciate your decision for not putting him in a position where he has to deal with this person. Best of luck.

A true friend wouldn't have done that. Your fiance obviously doesn't want to be around her either. Things will always be strained now so just let the "friendship" go. You said that your fiance is your best friend-that speaks volumes. Don't let your honey beat himself up over this, he did nothing wrong.
As far as telling her husband, that is a tricky one. Was this a one time event/slip up or does she have this behavorial pattern of flirting and kissing, etc.? If you beleive it was a one time thing and that she's remorseful, realizes she was wrong, I'd let it go. We've all done something stupid we regret. If she has acted like this before it will most likely lead to soemthing bigger eventually and her husband must know. If you decide to clue him in, encourage her to do so first with the understanding you will tell if she doesn't.
It sounds like you got a great guy, don't let her come between you two.
Join a moms club or the PTA to meet some new moms. If any your kids are in sports or activities be brave and start talking to others. I know it's to get in the rut of sitting back quietly. You'll get the hang of it.

Truth be told.... better to let old dogs lie where they lie.... I say that because well... it's been such a long time since it has actually happened if it were two or three days ago on the other hand, then maybe you could've taken it to her husband. But as it is now, he's not likely to really believe you... remember your talking about his wife and the mother of his kids here... not just some woman he's been dating. So with the fact that's its been so long I would just let that lie.... however, as for you and your financee he probably didn't know how to tell you for the longest time and finally the quilt got to him for not having told you, though yes he could've admitted before that ever happened that he was simply not comfortable around her and things could've ended before they got to far.... However, be grateful that he did in fact tell you, and that he is such a great Father to all of your kids. And if I were you, that friendship needs to be re-evaulated, she's betrayed you beyond all ends... probably best to not have anything to do with her ever again... and just think that little boy of hers... you won't have to deal with again either..

I wouldn't be too quick to judge. My friends husband and i were just friends and he ended up telling me that he had feeling for me. I told him to not talk to me anymore and i told his wife what he told me. Well, they got to talk and i think that he lied and told her that i was the one that said that i had feelings for him!! Ewww!! Well anyways when i tried to tell her that that was not true she didn't believe me. It really sucks to lose a friend when you know you didn't do anything wrong. I think the best thing to do (if you want to remain friends with her) is sit down with the three of you and discuss things and not do a he said she said thing. YOU NEVER KNOW, HE MIGHT HAVE BEEN THE ONE TO DO SOMETHING TOO AND HAD TO HURRY AND TELL YOU HIS STORY BEFORE SHE TOLD YOU WHAT REALLY HAPPENED!!

Unfortunately M. the sad and ugly truth is that neither one of them can be trusted. You're 25 with a fifth kid on the way. You need to start making smart decisions for you and your kids. Having more kids without being married and going ahead with a marriage to someone who has clearly disrespected you in the worst way will only cause heartache for you and the kids. Open your eyes, losing your so called friend is the least of your problems.

easy. forget the fact that your husband didnt tell you at first . he's still w/ you. case closed . second tell the friend if you ever so much as suspect she's being unfaithful again you'll tell her husband . this will get her out of your hair for good and hopefully deture her from doing it to any one elses husband.

Leave it a lone. He will know sooner or later because she will probably do it to someone else.

Get rid of her, make no bones about it. I personally don't make nicey, nicey with someone who screws me over when given the chance. I'm a really loyal person to but once crossed, game over. So take if from me, if you need to watch your back around someone then your friend, is not your friend and you have no need for that garbage in your life. Surround yourself with those that uplift you.

It's time to take out the garbage and wash your hands.

I usally don't respond to this website but for some reason your story caught my attention. Keep that girl away from your fiance and follow your heart on if you should trust your fiance or not. I have been married for 12 years and sometimes these situations will help you grow stronger together and build a relationship that will make you turn back and say" it's all been wroth it". Oh, and yes I would tell her husband. She is only going to move on to someone else.

From what you wrote, you have no actual facts regarding the situation from either side so either party could have violated your trust (or both).

You've written that you are with little personal power with so many children with your finance not the father to all of them and no outside job. You didn't mention it, but as a stay-at-home mom, it seems you do not also have your own source of income, aside from child support (which is for the children's support).

I agree with many of the other posters that she is definitely not your friend if on your own observation there was a sense of inappropriate interest in your man. However, because of your situation, you can easily be taken advantage of by a man and you have no way to know what his involvement is in the situation. Dr Phil states repeatedly, were there's one rat,there are 50 more you don't see.

Honor yourself and your children by giving yourself time to be confident your man can be trusted. Your friend could have been innocent. It is so easy for someone to place doubt on another and everyone believes it as truth. Observation and past behavior is the best way to determine future behavior. He knows that you have 5 kids at 25 years of age and staying at home leaving you to possibly settle for less respect than someone with the ability to walk out the door.

Don't start a marriage with doubt. Take your time, don't accept anything as truth but what can be objective - not what he or she said. Wait, get financial independence and a new girlfriend or two- someone who can see the situation more objectively than you in the relationship as we all see only what we want to. You first obligation is to your children and they have a right to expect you are careful with who you trust to be in their lives.

Remember that many men fool around lie not only to their wives but to their women on the side. Time will tell if he's trustworthy, but so far, I think that IF this incident happened, he should have dealt with it in the moment like telling you as soon as you came back from the restroom. It takes TWO to kiss.

M.,
Yes! You have to tell your fiance. What she's up too. You have to be totally honest w/each other that's what "marriage" is all about. Thank God he told you what happened to him w/your freind some men would not mentioned anything to there significant other. It's ALL about trust. And as for your freind that betrayed you end all freindship w/her completely! You don't call those freinds! If she did that already what's next....Good Luck.
R. Reyes
Whittier, Ca