This too shall pass. I recommend the book Siblings without rivalry. it really helps you get into the mind of your son and see what a HUGE adjustment this is. I think 2 months is an in accurate expectation your doc set. You may already be doing this, but don't pay extra lovey attention to your daughter when he is around. he is listening to EVERYTHING you say to her and do with her and comparing it to how you treat him. it's hard because he gets disciplined and she gets sweet talk. talk to him about it. i used to do this and that with you when you were a baby, and even though i say no and please don't do this and that to you now, i love you even more than i did when you were a baby. and i'll say those same things to her when she is four. let him help if he wants to. help him feel important to you. he feels replaced. praise him a lot. let him overhear you saying praising things about him to the baby and others. let him have some preferencial treatment during this period, she won't care and it will mean the world to him. he is having to share you and dad for the first time ever and he probably has a lot of intense feelings about that. my son was 3.5 when my daughter was born and it was a big adjustment for all of us. when she was about 7 months he told me he wanted to get rid of her so we discussed our options and then he decided maybe we should store her in the closet, so i acted like i was putting her up on a high shelf in my closet and said, i don't know, do you think she'll fall? and he decided we should not leave her up there. make special time for you and him. go to places he likes to go, just the two of you. an hour will mean the world to him. when you are alone, say, i bet you wish sometimes that your sister weren't here or would go away. tell him it's ok to feel that way, it will mean a lot. tell him you would feel that way. tell him sometimes you miss when it was just you three too, but then you are really glad she's here too. tell him what fun things they'll be able to do together when she gets bigger. when he is acting out towards her, translate it for him. oh, wait! i see you feel like hitting her, but that won't work. you can hit this pillow. are you needing something right now? would you like to come sit in my lap? maybe next time you could just say, mom, i want to sit in your lap! and if he is able to do that instead of direct his feelings toward her in a negative way, hand her off right away and reward that with some personal time. other good books are Why Do You Love Me? by Laura C. Schlessinger, and I Used To Be the Baby by Robin Ballard. we read these a lot and they sparked some good conversation at bedtime when we were lying in his bed just the two of us. this will pass, and you will see your bright shining boy again. he just needs your help right now, which is hard because you have an 8 month old too! take care and good luck