L.W.
I have some info that will be helpful... I will recommend one book to start and a couple things... I am a counselor who specializes in children 2-5 and 6-11 (preschoolers and school age children) and I also teach parenting seminars and providing parenting help and counseling for parents. One of the greatest books on discipline that works is written by a wise mother, not someone like me with a bunch of letters after her name. It's called Kid Cooperation by Elizabeth Pantley. Every mom on this website and all your friends should go get that book because it's the most effective and wisest bunch of disciplinary information there is written in my professional opinion. It's very positive and respectful of children, keeping the fun in parenting but also effective in getting them to cooperate. I advise parents that consistentcy is key in your efforts with your children and to remember the word discipline means to teach not to punish. We have to remember at all times that our goal is to guide and teach our children, not control them. I have tons of other suggestions for your friend if you want to email me directly I will be more than happy to help. I have offices in Marietta and Kennesaw and often have free parenting mini seminars offered to the community. I have a parenting seminar coming up in late August I can tell you about in Kennesaw. Good luck to your friend and tell her that it sounds like her daughter might need some help from a professional in learning how to manage the emotions she's having. Remember this: There is a reason for all behavior.... If we can understand the cause, we can more effectively shape the behavior into the behavior we want to see.... Take care! - L. W., MA, LPC