My daughter Alicia passed away 5 yrs. ago, she was 17 months. Every year, esp. at Christmas I try to do something new for her to let her know I still love her & miss her sooo much. Can any of you give me some ideas for this? It would mean so much to me. Thank you.
Well I did the poems before. I don't have her buried yet,her ashes are at my moms house until Im going to get her buried. I have been through so much & just didn't get it done right after, I wasn't ready. Then so many crazy things kept adding & adding on. My husband now isn't Alicia's father. He was never involved in her life. He was my first real boyfriend & when we hooked back up years later, I got pregnant. After I found out I realized that he was too much of a mess with drugs & drinking & partying that I didnt want him near her. My husband never got to meet her. But he don't really know how to comfort me when I get upset. Its still very hard even though she's been gone for over 5 yrs. now. It don't get no easier. I like all the ideas I got so far. Thanks everyone.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure your child knew you loved her. Have you planted something in her honor?
I am sorry for your loss, please stay strong and keep your babies memory alive!
My suggestion, maybe you could plant a tree or garden in her memory- each year on the anniversary of her death make it a family tradition.
Or (I know this is expensive) but you could get one of those picture throw blankets and hang it on the wall as a daily reminder of her beauty.
even a picture puzzle to put together as you piece your life back together with her memory in your heart!
good luck!
Hi R., Just an idea. I Know it may sound corny but it may be a cool idea to name a star. Sometimes we need to believe that when people pass on they are looking down on us.
I dare say your little girl was a true star in life.
Here are a few websites I found for you:
www.starregistry.com
www.universalstarcouncil.com
http://www.starnamer.net/
Here is a thought--get some of those lighted up candle's (ones that use light bulbs instead of a flame) and take some ribbon and write her name and phrase (like love you or miss you) on the ends of the ribbon and tie it on the candle and put them in the window. I would love to hear what you ended up doing for her. I'm soooo sorry for your loss even though it was 5 years ago it probably seems like yesterday. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you have a great holiday and just remember she is looking down on you and keeping you safe---she is your angel!!!
Oh dear that is so sad.. I want to cry with you for i know i do not know you... How are you?? Tell me all the wonderful you did for your baby in the past and i will try to give you ome more insites of what you can do,...
One it Making a tree up for you child... Like lighting of a certain color you may think would be their favorite... Choosing certain themes... Like Disney or Cartoon's you would of watched...
i would also try to have Daddy get involved in some great ideas he may of done as well with the baby...
There are also coloring themes. Meaning you and your other children make a special gift for this baby and hang it on a themed tree...
also if you have a plot for the child you may take some things over to the plot and place them around the child as if you were holding her...
I AM ABOUT TO GET TEARS IN MY EYES FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.. OH THIS IS SAD TO HEAR...
SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
LET ME KNOW ALL YOU HAVE DONE AND I WILL TRY TO HELP...
Another would be a themed christmas all decked out in things you both would of done together...
First, I am so very sorry for your loss. You are a strong woman.
I was thinking maybe you could make a donation in your daughter's name to a charity that helps sick or underpriviliged children (even a tiny donation--every little bit helps in the big picture). Then, the memory of your little girl can live on by helping other children.
I am very sorry for your loss and have a suggestion that I hope doesn't sound corny. In your message, you mentioned Christmas. My suggestion is that you make a few ornaments for your Christmas tree using pictures of Alicia. Make some of your soon to be 1 yr. old as well. You can hang them on your Christmas tree in remembrance of your daughter. Choose photos that remind you of happy moments in her life so that when you see them, they bring a smile to yours. Your daughters life may have been short but her life was important and made a difference in the world. You can share the pictures with your young child and in that way share your daughter and memories of her with your almost 1 year old. I hope this helps.
You are a strong woman.I feel so sad for you.What have you done in the past years?What about laminateing a piece of paper full of quotes, pics, and a hand print of your 1 yr old, and some driedflowers, and place it on her grave with some rocks (big ones) to hold it in place.
I cannot imagine the pain that comes with having to bury a child. My heart goes out to you.
First she will ALWAYS know you are thinking of her and that you could NEVER possibly forget her. But I have an idea that I think is unique. Have you ever considered naming a star for her?? If you do a search on the internet for "Name a star" many places will come up. My sister did it years ago, it is really cool.
You are in my prayers.
Sincerely,
D.
What about buying a new angel ornament each year for your tree?
I am so sorry for your loss. Hang in there, take it day by day.
You did not mention how she passed away. A way to possibly honor her memory is to volunteer in an area of need either in one that she would enjoy....say at the Zoo, Library, etc or an area of need that is closer to the cause of her death such as helping with a charity .......Easter Seals, Cancer charity, volunteer at Children's hospital, etc. This may be very hard, & being a mom of a 1 yr old, time may be scarce, but try just maybe once this Christmas season, then more in the coming year if you find it helpful in your grieving.
Something happens inside of us when we help ease someone else's suffering, somehow we receive healing of our suffering, too.
I hope this helps. I am praying that God's blessings be upon you, that you find healing from this pain. Through Christ, All things are possible.
R.,
First of all, I am sorry for your loss. I think it is a wonderful thing that you would like to show your love and rememberance of your daughter. You may be interested in this site. www.lifegem.com The can have your daughters ashes turned into a diamond. There are also other companies out there that can incorporate ashes into all sorts of things. You might google it to see what you can come up with.
T.
R.,
your baby girl will never forget how much you love and miss her. i am so sorry you are going through this.
i wanted to suggest you start keeping a journal of your feelings, just write down every night whether you're sad or happy, or something happened, or an anecdote, anything. that might make you feel you're communicating with your daughter.
writing always helps me. i hope it does to you too
vlora
