D. ~ I lost my dad 11 years ago when my girls were 6 and 10. Both of my girls grandparents on their dad's side passed even earlier than that. What I do to help my girls remember their grandparents is speak of them often. My youngest daughter did not know her paternal grandmother, but she feels as if she did. According to my daughters, I'm the only person who speaks of their grandpa, nanna and pappa. They love that I have kept their grandparents alive by speaking of them. I also incorporated traditions into our family that were traditions of my in-laws. Such as we have a sort of "open house" on Christmas eve. Everyone is invited to come. We have tons of food, we even make tamales (albeit nothing like my mother-in-laws) but it is so much fun. The girls tell all their friends to come, even my new husband loves it and has his friends and family over, it's just one night of tons of fun. People trickle in and out beginning at 6:00 p.m. and usually the last one leaves before midnight. I also cook things that my in-laws and my father liked and/or made themselves and name the food item after them. Like Nanna's macaroni salad, or grandpa's chili or pappa's vegetable salad. We adopt a family at Christmas in honor of our missing loved ones. We have pictures of everyone in the home.
I remember growing up one of my favorite things was to listen to my dad speak of his youth and tell stories about his parents and his sisters and his brother. It was so much fun. Just knowing that my dad at one time was somthing other than a dad. He was an actual person and a fun one at that. These are things that I now pass on to my children. About all of their grandparents. They love it. My daughter's relatives on their dad's side of the family came out for a wedding in the family and they were so surprised, as was my girl's own father and his immediate family, when my girls knew of the stories people were telling about their grandparents. It made the girls feel great and their dad and his family felt wonderful that my girls had memories of their grandparents.
I guess this is a long way of saying, keeping your loved ones alive through generations is, in my opinion, the best way of celebrating the life and memories that they passed on for you.
Good luck during a very difficult year ahead. As I said earlier, it has been 11 years for me sincee the passing of my dad and the holidays and even days in general are always difficult. I will include you and your family in my prayers.
L.