R.J.
I don't know about all moms, but definitely THIS mom!
I found a very liberating phrase last year:
It may well be my job, BUT... you are NOT my boss.
I then went on in quite a bit of detail, that was particular to our marriage which essentially broke down to the fact that I wouldn't accept being treated the way I was being treated by ANY boss. The micromanaging, the disrespect, etc so forth and so on really put my husband on his heels.
I also went on to highlight that all the things he DIDN'T have to do all the single and divorced men out there were *perfectly* capable of doing themselves, as he had been when HE was single... and as he might have to do again if I got sick and tired of being treated like some employee and "quit my job to find better work". That being married did NOT mean "gaining an employee much less a servant". And if he thought so he could durn well start paying me by the hour for all the work I DID do. In my case that meant 40-80hours of nannying (at $2500 per 40), 20 or so hours of cleaning (at $60 per hour) just to tip the iceberg (not counting personal shopper, personal assistant, prostitute, teacher -we homeschool, saving us 15k per year-, etc.), AND he had better durn well start giving me 2 weeks of paid vacation a year, sick days, etc.
Wife or employee. HIS choice.