Hi all, in case you've been following my posts, my son has already adjusted to his daycare and is doing great! You all were so helpful to me that I thought I'd ask you a question for my friend who is currently stressing big time about her son's anxeity at daycare. She was a SAHM until 2 weeks ago and so, for the first time at age 20 months or so, her son was dropped off at daycare. It's the 2nd week and he is still crying reallly hard at both dropoff and pickup (which is normal I know) but she's concerned b/c he's also exhibiting odd behavior at home such as not being interested in playiing with his toys or books anymore, not verbalizing as much, picking his nose, touching the toilet water, etc. which he never did before daycare. Is this a red flag that she should start looking for another daycare? Thanks!!
I don't know, it sounds like things that just happen with age to me. He's probably going to learn to do things like pick his nose and touch toilet water either on his own or from another kid regardless of what daycare he goes too. As far as not playing as much w toys/books, if he's at daycare for long periods of time, he's most likely over stimulated and not wanting to play as much at home right now.
You will get many different opinions with this one but here is mine. My daughter acted the same way at her daycare and this was very odd behavior. It got to the point she would point at the facility and scream and cry to not go. (Had nothing to do with attachment to mommy or daddy) Popped in daycare early one day and was not pleased with the situation. the kids were not being watch and being yelled and screamed at and my daughter who was potty training was being punished for signals that she had to go potty. they made it where she could not pull her bottoms down to help her. Any other time that i would of came at normal time this would never had been seen. My suggestion is a pop in uninvited visit in the middle of the day to get a clear idea of the real situation. We took our kids out and placed them in a home facility which was better. I am a SAHM now but that has nothing to do with the home child care. You kinda got to look at it from the kids perspective. Thay ware trying to tell you something. By now the crying and fits would of decreased or completly went away bc its not a new situation any more its familiar and routine. SOMETHING IS UP check it out. Like i said an unanounced visit to see the real situation. Good luck to your friend!
It's only two weeks in. I would tell her to make not of it, mention it to the teachers, and then wait and see. Give him lots of extra attention at home. He'll probably adjust just fine.
He is probably picking up some things at daycare- esp the picking nose, touching toilet water. As for not playing or verbalizing,it's entirely possible he is just exhausted. Daycare wears them out. I wouldn't worry to much about it now. If it gets worse, I would have the daycare teacher keep an eye on him and give status reports.
Take care.
I would pop in too...ya never know....
WHen my son was about that age he started a daycare too. He got to the point where he would scream when we turned on the street the daycare was on! I talked to the daycare people and about a week lady he suddenly got better. They never did tell me what the problem was, but when I found that they had a new person for his room it wasnt hard to figure out she was doing something mean!
BOTH of my kids have been mistreated severly at daycare centers. There is video proof from one and we walked in on another.
Hi S S I am a daycare provider, most of my children come to me at 6 weeks old, but children who already have a daily scehdule with mom or dad and then are placed in a daycare sometimes they have a feeling of rejection, at 20 months they understand the concept of being left, and that is hard on them because their whole routine is turned upside own. In the 14 years I have been doing daycare I have only had 2 children not able to adapt to daycare, tell your friend to give it some time, be patient with him and if he does not adjust she may have to quit and go back to staying home with him. He's acting the way at home because his home life has in his way been turned upside down. J.
