Potty Training 3 Year Old Boy

If you have him in pull-ups, he has no incentive whatsoever go to on the toilet. The pull-up acts like a diaper. In fact, it is a diaper - it's just put on differently. the pull-up pulls the wetness away from him like a diaper so there is no down side to going in the pull-up. Take the pull-ups off - throw them away - and put potty training pants on him. He will be totally shocked the first time he pees and it runs down his leg and all over his clothes. Then he has incentive to want to go on the toilet.

have you tried "tinkle targets" ...LOL I used cheerios cause they float well....It works great for teaching them to go pee. He gets to sink them....

My son was one week till his 4th birthday. What happened was he was made to clean him self up and his underwear after a poop insident and he only had one accident since he is now almost 5.

HI Y.!

This is sooooo emotional trying to potty train a child. It can really drain a mom. But, hang in there, you WILL succeed :o)

I ended up having to "ignore" my boys when I knew they had to go potty. After endless weeks of saying "Do you have to go potty?" I eventually tried to let them figure it out for themselves. There were ALOT of accidents anyway, so that wasn't changing anyway (was my way of thinking).

Like you, I didn't feel like "punishing" was a good reaction to an potty training accident. So, I tried REALLY hard not to show my negative emotions.

I ended up re-arranging their bathroom a little, and put everything in there that they would need to "clean themselves" if they had an accident. I put extra underwear, easy to use wipees (I invested in alot of them), and LOTS of washclothes for drying their hands after they were done washing their hands. Then showed then how to clean the underpants AND themselves, and where to "secretly" put the dirty underpants. The $1 Store had a small, plastic garbage can (at the time) I had them put their dirty underpants in that. It was eaiser for me too. And, I never talked about their accidents, only praised them at first for doing a good job cleaning everything (which was never really clean :o)

It took a couple of weeks, but it made a HUGE jump in the right direction. My boys didn't like "cleaning" the underpants and themselves, but I "sweetly" told them it was their responsibilty because they're big now.

Accidents got fewer and fewer.

Oh yeah, the pull-ups confused things, and were never successful even at night. To successfully train my boys, I had to use just underwear.

I also had 3 crip matress protectors to use for nightly accidents. Even though they slept in a twin bed. And 3 changes of sheets. This allowed me to do laundry every 3 days instead of everyday.

After 1 week of successful potty work, I bought a rainbow cake at the grocery store and they wrote "I did it!" on the cake. We had a POO-POO PARTY with 2 little presents and all.

Potty training can be miserable for mother and child, and dad for having to listen to it all! But it doesn't last forever, and I'm really happy that I can say I chose the "no punishment~ no anger" route to potty training. It may have taken me longer to get my boys to succeed, but my heart is warmer because of it :o)

Good Luck!

Love, N.

Well, you can try "potty chips".
Get some poker chips at the dollar store or somewhere cheap. White can be pee chips and blue can be poo chips.
Put them somewhere in a centralized location and everytime you have to go potty, say....Mommy gets a white chip. I'm going pee-pee. Then, have a basket on the bathroom counter that you get to put your chip in when you are done. Have your husband do the same thing. "Daddy's got a blue chip and I'm off to the bathroom! Daddy went potty...he gets to put his chip in the basket. Yay!"
It doesn't matter if your son gets the colors right, but he might have fun getting to have a chip. He has to put it back in the original basket for next time if he doesn't actually use the toilet. And that's okay.....he gets to put chips in a basket either way and trying is always good. If he won't TELL you....he might find the chips a fun way to go about it. Just an idea.

My son was a little younger, but did the exact same thing. The only thing that worked for us was finding something he really wanted. For him, he wanted to go to school like his friends, so we told him he couldn't go until he was completely potty trained. We had two jars, one full of pebbles, the other he decorated. Each time he went he got to move three stones to the school jar, for each accident he had we had to move 1 pebble back to the pebble jar. I pretty much left it up to him at this point, just kept reminding him that jar needed to be full before he could go to school. For him, it worked like a charm. It was the motivation he needed. A few weeks after we started this we were able to go to underwear full time and I didn't even have to remind him anymore to listen to his body. I put the responsibility on him, made him aware it was his choice whether or not he listened to his body etc, but kept reminding him that jar had to be full if he wanted to go to school. He was day/night potty trained in just a few weeks. Is there anything your child really wants? You need to find something that will actually motivate, since m n m's didn't work for us, nor did dollar store toys, etc. Both helped in the beginning, but not long term. Once he made the decision that it was something he wanted to do, we had very few accidents. Good luck. Potty training is one of the worst parts of being a parent.

I have a son who is just shy of 3.5 years old and feel your pain!

We started potty training over Christmas vacation and now are daytime trained for pee (with the very occasional accident). Part of what helped is he goes to a preschool where he didn't have to start potty trained, and the class basically potty trained together.

Every mother of boys I know this age says the same thing about pooping in the potty - it will be quite sometime before this happens. It just takes forever in boys. Our little guy waits until he has his diaper for bedtime and then poops.

We did use m&ms successfully when we started out - one for sitting on the potty, one for going and one for washing hands. We don't need to use them any more.

I started out asking him every 20 minutes, then backed it off until 30, and finally figured out that typically once an hour was right for him. Now, if he says he doesn't have to go, I can typically take him at his word because he will run off and go potty by himself (announcing it!). Our only hard and fast (and sometime very screamy) rule is that he must potty before we leave the house and before nap (if he doesn't before nap he has to wear a pull up and he doesn't like that at all).

I don't ultimately know how much advice there is here Y., but know that other moms of boys this age feel your pain! My mom would tell you to relax, he won't get married in a diaper <grin>
J.

Hi Y.,

My son was 3 years 9 months before he finally potty trained. I was also at wits in with this kid. Someone suggested he run around the house with his underwear off for the whole day and have the little potty chair near for him to go when he gets the feeling. He was potty trained in one day without accidents even at night. It is gross to have the potty chair in the family room, but we moved to the bathroom after he got the concept. Good luck. He moved to the big toilet within a couple of weeks. We just needed to put the little potty sit on the toilet. He told me later he was scared of the big toilet and falling in and get flushed down the drain. Funny, how kids respond. One other opinion, is have the potty chair outside since the weather is nice.

Y.,

First off good luck and I commend you for sticking in there and not getting too frustrated with your son.

I had the same problem with my son, who is now 10 yrs old. I had read one of the potty training books also to try and help. I happened to be talking about it with a patient's mom at the office I was working in. She was a child psychologist and this is what she recommended that I do. I did it with all 3 kids and it worked very well.

So what you do is you set one day aside and you take your son potty first thing in the morning when he wakes up. Then you put big boy underwear on him. From that point on you take him every hour. If he doesn't go potty on the hour then you take him again 20 minutes later. So your time keeps changing all day depending on when he actually goes potty. And of course as you said you already do you make a big deal when he goes potty. Then that night you put him to bed in big boy underwear. We never had an accident. She said to not put them in pull ups because it is too confusing for them to remember when they have a pull up on and can go in it and when they have big boy underwear on and have to go to the restroom. I know with my boys I used the potty training underwear, but for my daughter I actually had to use big girl underwear. Something about the thickness of the potty training underwear gave her a false sense of security that she had diapers or pull ups on. I actually never used pullups in our house, we went straight from diaper to underwear with all three of our kids.

Good luck again and I hope that you at least find someones advice helpful.

As a former preschool teacher I can see several possibilities. This might be a power struggle, in which case backing off and NEVER encouraging him to use the potty might work. (Tell him in advance that it will be his responsibility from now on.) When he has an "accident" require him to clean up the mess and put his wet clothes in the wash himself. Or it could be that he doesn't understand how it feels when he needs to "go." Some kids just mature later than others. Perhaps if you change to underwear or old-fashioned cloth diapers he'll feel the discomfort immediately and connect it with how he felt just before they got wet.

Dear Y.;
If you need some professional help, I do work with parents doing consultations about their children related to potty training and sleep. Sounds like your child is not yet ready to be independent. I can help you. See my website. GoToSleepBaby.com or email me at ____@____.com

I had the same problem with my son. When we had no luck after trying for a month our Dr. recommended we take a break for a month or so.

I started training again one month before he started preschool and it has been a long road. We did cold turkey right to big boy underwear (and have cleaned many, many accidents). My son is very good at holding it, so he did fine in preschool, but still had frequent accidents at home because he didn't want to sit on the potty. I was so frustrated I had to just let go and make him in charge. I know it sounds crazy, but I stopped reminding him, but did give him rewards such as skittles and lollypops. Every time he had an accident, I would have him take off his pants/underwear and put them in the hamper (I helped more with the poop accidents).

I also tried sending him to bed around his 4th bday with no pull-up and that also helped because he had to go pee in the toilet in the morning instead of peeing in a pull up. At the end of training, he would only get a treat if he kept his underwear dry all day (but a bigger treat like a car.)

I would recommend that you read "Potty Training for Dummies". Also, my son liked the "Once Upon a Potty" Movie and book. But nothing inspired him, it just took time.

Sorry I'm rambling on, but this really hits a nerve, I know it is frustrating. Try to hang on to your sanity and remember the only things he can control are what goes in and what comes out, so it has to be in his time (when he is ready). As for us, my son is 4 years and 3 months and has about 3 accidents per week, so the journey is almost over.

D.

Y.,
I am also an "older" parent of a boy, now 12. We went throught the same thing. He just said, "I don't want to be a big boy." Finally one morning when I put his clothes on, do diaper, no pullup. Didn't say anything, just put the undies on. He had one pee accident and was done. He didn't poop for about a day and a half, then couldn't hold it anymore. Fron them on, all done! Never had an accident, not even at night. My advise is when you make the decision, go cold turkey and don't look back. Never put pullups on again. Carry extra pairs of undies and go for it.It won't take but a week, I am sure. Good luck! L.

Ok Y., this could've been ME writing this request for help. I am in the exact situation as you - our son just turned 3 this week. And just like your son i think my son too doesn't want to "grow up and be a big boy", nope he's happy being a little boy. when we promised him a big boy bicycle he just brushed it off and said he didn't want it, he was happy with his tricycle.

He has been in underwear on and off for the last 3 months. All the kids his age in his daycare started potty training around the same time as him and they are fully trained now, able to verbalize or even just run to the toilet by themselves without having to inform an adult.

Our son was completely trained 3 months back, he would be telling us every time he had to pee or poop, but all of a sudden within a month he regressed and started peeing and pooping left-right-center in his underwear without a care. So with his careprovider's advice we put him back in diapers for a few weeks and he's now back in underwear. We've tried all the rewards - tattoos, stickers, treats, celebrations ... nothing really had that much impact on him that it made him go to the loo by himself; so i gave up on those methods, waste of my time and effort. I too paid the money and downloaded the e-book "potty training in 3 days", and tried that method, it didn't work for my son. I've read dozens of potty training books including "pt in 1 day", nope didn't work. They all are designed for the initial stages of training where you have to get the child interested in the potty and develop a process; none of them deal with resistant children who know how to pee and poop in the toilet but just choose not to do it !!

Last week i met his pediatrician and discussed the problem that he is not scared of the toilet, when asked to go he does go for the most part, but will not verbalize by himself. And she said the same thing that Alice on this forum has said, that he's almost there, and what i need to do is go back to basics - set a timer for every 40 mins and prepare him abt 5 mins b4 it will go off that "when the timer beeps it's time to go to the toilet, ok?". And make him say "yes, ok'. Or if you have a bell ring it every 40 mins and keep ringing it till he goes, even follow him into the toilet with the bell. I've been doing that now. And also, following his daycare lady's advice, become a little strict abt his privileges. Because i feel that unless he has that push that is meaningful to him, this will not progress. And ofcourse boys will be boys and they are so distracted with toys that anything is a chore. Rewards had no impact on him, so maybe the threat of losing something will. So i keep telling him every 35-40 mins or so that he should tell me or he can just get up and go to the toilet by himself. And inspite of my reminders and timer, if he chooses not to go in the toilet, but does it in his underwear he loses the permission to either watch TV or play with a particular toy, or if he's out playing with friends then i warn him that if he pees or poops in his underweear i will take him home right away and he cannot play with his friends. The important thing is to follow through on your warnings, atleast once or twice, or it will have no effect on him. Same thing before we leave the house i just warn him that he must go to the toilet before we leave, or we're not going; he can cry and fuss, but we don't want any accidents while he's playing, or his friends wont play with him anymore.

He still does not tell us when he has to go, but i think that will happen as something just "clicks" in his brain and he decides that he doesn't need to have control any more. I've seen it happening to his friends, where for months they were in my situation and all of a sudden one day out of the blue started verbalizing. and even when he does start telling you, don't stop reminding him that he has to go or he has to tell you, or else he will lose his privileges. If you stop reminding him, he may just fall back into old ways.

I also have begun believing something that i read somewhere, that some children are not as sensitive down there and their brains /nerves may not be able to sense the urge to pee so promptly, so i try to be patient abt this process thinking my son might just be a little developmentally behind in this area compared to others his age. Just as he is ahead in other aspects.

I'm in the same tunnel as you and hoping to see the light. If you have found something to work for your son, i will delighted if you can share it with me.

-B..

First thing you need to remember....kids this age have control over very few things....eating, peeing & pooping are it. Right now he's trying to take control over the latter 2 & sounds like a battle of the wills has started. Our younger son just turned 3 & I've spent this past week potty training. Got this great book on-line....3 Day Potty Training...web site of the same name dot com. It seems to be working. One of the keys is to not ask them when they have to go or have them sit & 'try' on the potty but to say, 'tell Mommy when you need to go to the bathroom.' Do 'undie' checks to see if they're dry & give them praise when they are but absolutely no negatives except to say' yucky, you're wet or poopy, let's clean that up.' Even that is done in a non- angry tone of voice. This is a VERY frustrating process & it's so hard to not loose your composure. On day 2, our son decided he needed to climb to the top bunk, his big brother's bed, to get something & mid-climb, he starts peeing....down the head boards, on his brother's backapck & made a big puddle on the floor. I'll admit, I got MAD at that(!) but calmed down quickly. So far, the only time I tell our son to go potty is before we leave the house or before he goes to bed but otherwise, have left it up to him, w/reminders every few minutes to tell me when he needs to go, & it's been pretty successful. So, look at the web site & see what you think. By the end of the 1st day, there were maybe 8 pairs of wet undies, the 2nd day about 3-4 & the 3rd day, 2 pairs. So, the process is not complete yet but that's OK by me. By the end of the 2nd day, he was stopping his pee & running to me saying he needed to go sit on the potty. So, my suggestion is to give him back soem control here....stop telling him when he needs to go & instead, let him tell you when he needs to go. You'll have to say every few minutes 'tell mommy know when you need to go,' but I think it has made this an easier process for me than w/our first son. Good luck & hope this helps!

Hi Y.,

don't know if anyone else already suggested these, but the following techniques and approach really worked for my son, who is currently 3.5 yrs:

No pressure (our child wanted it to be his idea and we had to learn the hard way to back off)

Him being naked a lot (this occurred last summer during camping) - and it just seemed to help him connect the fact that he had to go and needed to find a place to go without any need for us to suggest it or be much involved in the whole process.

finally, cool underwear was appealing to him -I let him pick some out when we were shopping once and told him they'd be in the drawer when he was ready), and I think his peers going potty at preschool made a big difference as well.

Good Luck, and when it doesn't seem to be working...remember It WILL happen,
A.

Hi Y.,
We had the same problem with our 3 yr old son. I was so worried I took him to the doctor. She said to him "poop likes to swim in the water and you can watch it for awhile before you send it to swim with it's friends; when you flush that's where it goes." She also told me to relax and it WILL happen. Our son was responsible for his own messes, and by that I mean he had to get me when he had an accident and together we cleaned him up. I would not start the clean up process, he had to. He had to strip and go to the underwear drawer and get what he needed then I would step in and do the actual cleaning. He was only allowed a pull-up at night and after two weeks we were such better place. The rest went fast and he was done.

Good Luck,
Al

You've received some pretty good advice already. Different things work for each of our kids. Our little boy was just under 4 y.o. when he started to go potty on his own. My husband and I gave him about 3 months to reach a "goal" after trying to get him to go potty for 6 months. We gave him a break and told him that he'd get to watch a certain movie he really wanted to see. He kept going potty in his underwear. It was a hassle to clean up, but it worked so much better than pull-ups. Let the pull-ups go. When the 3 months began, he had accidents, even when he knew he had to go badly. By the 2nd month, he was getting the hang of being asked to go potty (after waking up, before getting into the car, before bed, etc.). We also reminded him to wash his hands! So important. By the end of 3 months, he had an accident here and there, but he was able to reach his goal and attend the cartoon he wanted to see at the movie theatre. He went potty before the movie, and after. We rewarded him with a special backpack with a character from the cartoon with some toys inside. That was a year ago. Ever since then, it has been smooth sailing. Don't get frustrated (hard not to, I know), but it will eventually get there. If it makes you feel better, I know a mom whose kid is 7 and her kid refuses to potty. He still wears pull ups! Ew...huh? Cant get any worse than that!! Keep trying, soon it'll be your turn to write someone else about potty training. :)

Boys are harder than girls to potty train! We put a piece of construction paper at his height on the bathroom wall(several! by the time we were done), and bought lots of stickers, his choice. Every time he went he got to pick two. If he just tried, he still got one. Allow him to pick and place the stickers each time, wherever he wants on the paper. They will be messy, upside down, who cares? And continue praise him each time, but not a big enough fuss to freak him out. When the paper was full, we went to the penny candy store, and started a new paper. The papers were later hung in his room for almost a year.The point behind the stickers was he could see at any time how much progress he was making. (Not the candy and toys, which disappear) My son was a bit scared of the big regular potty, he sat on there backwards to pee and poop for a long time, my friend advised this.Yes he sat to pee when he was 3. Boys also need Dad
to show how boys do it. Dont sweat the night issues, just use a pull up.Potty training takes a really long time, but be patient. Even if he had successfully pottytrained a year ago, you'd still be cleaning his hiney at this point.
If he is 31/2, he is big enough to get his own clean undies and wipes for you if there is an accident. Let him know you want him to tell you, or just go/run in the bathroom and holler for you, and that would earn him 4-5 stickers! He would only receive positive attention for success, and that always wins out eventually. It is very normal for him to want one of you there, so really good if he runs in there ALONE and hollers. ANother fun thing is cheerios to aim at, or put food coloring in the potty so he can watch it change colors when he pees. The sitting backward made a huge diff for my son. It seemed like it'd be scarier to me, but it wasnt for him.Also, teach him how to flush (that is fun but also scary for some kids), say BYEBYE PEEPEE (orcaca or whatever you call it). Be warned though, they often put the wrong stuff down there just to watch it disappear! So let him know it is only for peepee, poopys and TP.

I prepared my son, that when he turned 3 that he was going to be a big boy and we had to throw away the diapers and use the big potty from then on. This started about a month before he turned 3. The day before he turned three when I let him know that the next day was when he'll be a big boy...he didn't want to wear the pull ups and he made the decision to do it on his own. We did have an experience a couple of weeks prior where we were on a long road trip, and when he had to go potty, I pulled over and we got out of the car so he could pee outside. I told him, point your sword (his peepee)over there and see how far it can go..and he was so elated to see how cool it was to pee standing up and making his pee go far...that from them on, he loved going pee. Ok, odd, but he had fun with it and it became cool to go potty. Might be fun to try showing him how to do it standing up and how in control he can be with it.

We had the EXACT same problem with our middle child who was 3 1/2 at the time as well. He just wasn't "into" the whole idea. Finally, at the advice of Dr. Phil and a friend whose potty trained all three of hers at 18 mos. old, I did roll playing. I never thought it would work, but I grabbed one of his power ranger dolls and pretended that he needed to learn how to go poo poo and pee pee in the toilet so that he could go to preschool and could someone please teach him? I had the potty chair right there in the playroom and Dylan said "I can!" and pulled down his pants and showed him how to do it right there. For the next two days "Henry" (aka power ranger)" went with us everywhere and I would do his voice and ask Dylan to teach him. Pretty much within the week he was doing it all on his own. I hope this helps! Good luck!
J., Mom of 3 boys (5, 3.5 and 2)

Hi, Y.,
I also have a three year old who just finished potty training. The best thing to do is to relax about all of this. Getting frustrated is no good for you guys and it may even back fire with your three year old. I would just have him sit on the potty at whatever interval you feel is appropriate for him. If he is not telling you yet, just make it routine to sit every hour or 90 minutes or something. Don't stress about it. I did that with my little boy and sometimes he would protest and say "Peepee's not coming!" If we were going somewhere, I insisted that he at least "try" to sit on the potty and at other times, I would let it go and then ask him later. Eventually, he started to tell me. Even though he is potty trained, sometimes, he forgets or just tries to hold it too long and does have accidents, but I try not to make an issue out of it, because I don't want him to get any extra attention from accidents. It is a sloooooow process, but it becomes less stressful for you, the parents, if you just make it about the process instead of about the goal (of being potty training). Eventually, your son will begin to tell you when he needs to go. As long as he is not ready to tell you, just make it your job to get him to sit on the potty, like you have been doing. You are definitely doing the right thing. Just don't run out of patience! Keep doing what you are doing. It sounds like he is not resistant to potty training at all. It sounds like he is almost finished. The only part he has left is to verbalize to you when he has to go. Good luck and keep it up!

Does your son have a friend or family member who he can look up to and immitate? Last year, my 4-year-old was inspired to abandon pull-ups when she followed her best friend to the restroom and noticed her wearing real underwear. I expanded on this concept of being a "big girl" and explained to her how she has the freedom to participate in certain activities, such as attending preschool, if she can learn how to control her bladder. I also encouraged her by telling her how proud I was of her every time she used the restroom on her own. If that does not work, you can try leaving him in his soiled underpants when he has an accident just long enough for him to understand how uncomfortable it is to have one. It is definitely not easy in the beginning for both you and your child but it will eventually get better. So whatever method you choose and however your son responds, don't give up!

my son was the same age and doing the same thing. we tried everything. the only thing i can say is he will do it when he is ready. my son turned 4 in march and is finally now pooping on the toilet as well but refused for the last year even when he would pee on the toilet. our dr told us to still put him on the toilet regularly but dont force him, its a battle he will always win!

Y.,

Try letting it go for a bit and not caring that he is wearing a pull-up full time. Our now 5 1/2 year old, was not potty trained until he was 4 1/2 years old. We thought he would never get there. We tried all kinds of things, but he just didn't care in the least bit. we let it go and one day he said to us, I don't want to wear these anymore. I want to wear underware, so we tried it then, and he was good ever since then with only one accident. When your son is ready, he will be ready. It is hard to let it go, but it will come, I promise.

P.

I have a book called "Toilet Training in Less Than a Day" if you want it, I can mail it to you.
Let me know,
J. in San Jose

We were in the exact same position 4 months ago. We finally stopped even talking about it with him. We agreed to take a "break" and not put anymore pressure on our son (same age). We did make an effort to use the public bathrooms whenever possible for ourselves. That way he got used to going into them and seeing that they were every where. Still no talking about him using it.

About a month later, he wanted to wear his underwear and started asking "if this place had a potty too". He's been potty trained ever since.

I seriously thought I would lose my mind before the "break", but I had to realize that he will not be going to high school in diapers - so as soon as I let go - he took control for himself. At this age that is what they are fighting for in any way they can.

Good luck - you are not alone.
E.

Y.,
Try target practice with him. Boys usually like to try to aim at things. Put a couple of cheerios in the toilet and let him practice. Your husband is going to have to help you out on this one. This one worked with all 3 of my boys. My sister has a son also he likes to make bubbles when he goes. With boys you have to get creative. Keep him involved.
I hope this helps. K.

Our third son was MUCH easier to potty train than our first two. The difference was we prayed with him and for him and took him to church. All his friends in his "class" were going potty, so he wanted to go too. He didn't want to be left out, so he made the decision to potty train.

God bless.

Y. -- I feel your pain, I really do. My son just turned 4 this week and has only been trained for about 6 weeks. All of the advice here is good -- some things worked for us, some didn't. But what worked in the end, was him being ready to do it. One day he woke up and said "I need to go pee pee" and he did, without being asked, and since then it's been pretty good. Right before that we had decided to not bug him as much. A few accidents a week, and he wets the bed about once a week, but he is pretty good. We still have to remind him though. Best of luck to you -- as my hubby and I used to say - as long as he's not in diapers at prom :)

It sounds like you have tried alot and now some moms have sent some more great idea's to try. In the end if all else fails I say to just drop the subject for a while. It is one battle we just can't win when a child dosn't want to. Utimatley he will potty train and the more he is around children who are, the more he'll become uncomfortable with a diaper or pull up. Like you said he is really smart so he knows whats going on. He just dosn't want to. Hang in there. Maybe with time and loving him just the way he is will help him see that he can chose to reach this mile stone and not be losing anything.

It sounds like you've got all the right ideas already, but there's one thing I can say. Your little one might just not be ready yet. Both of my boys waited until right about four years old. I know that this is frustrating and that he's probably the smartest little guy (mine are), but for whatever reason, he just doesn't want to yet and nothing you do will make it happen before he's ready. So have patience, and keep trying and one of these days it will click.

Good luck.
D

This is going to be a little bit of work for a couple days. Put him in regular underpants. No pull ups. real underapnts. When he goes pee or poop in them. He has to clean up the mess and put on new underware. He will be potty trained by the end of the day! I have a 2 1/2 year old boy who is potty trained. they hate the how it feels and they hate cleaning up the mess. good luck!