Child Behavior - Peoria,AZ

The covering her ears and looking away from the toilet is a sensory issue. I don't really have any advice on how to deal with the period issue, my daughter is only 6, but you are definitly on the right track to ask for help. I think that you may want to not only address that she doesn't like to look at what she has left in the toilet but also her reaction to the noise the flush creates. I would say you should consult her doctor on both issues. Good luck!

I'm sure that when she reaches puberty, she'll do what she has to do and will get over it. In the meantime, why do you care if she looks in the toilet? So what! Your focusing attention on it just makes it worse. Let her do what she does and then when she starts her period, I'm sure it will kick in that she needs to take care of herself and she will handle it. Good luck.

My daughter who is now almost 13 also hated to flush when she was younger. She once had a clogged toilet overflow, and that started it. I told her to flush last and then run out of the room. She is much better now, and I have noticed as she has gotten older that she is more concerned about hygiene. Peer pressure has a lot to do with her increased interest. I wouldn't be too worried about your daughter. I think she will grow out of this, and also become more concerned about her own hygiene as she enters Jr. High. Just teach her about good hygiene, and she will gradually begin to use what you teach her as she gets older.

My recommendation is to keep talking to her about it in a loving manner. keep reminding her it is natural to look at those things. Even for health reason the doctor sometimes ask us to check so they can be sure there isnt a problem when we get sick.

Here is a book I got for my niece before she became a young lady. I have not gotten a chance to read all of it. But what I did read was good. There are other books by this author too that look interesting. Some on appearance and being a good friend. I dont think it really talks about going to the bathroom but it is worth a shot.

The Lily Series #2: The Body Book (Non-Fiction)By: Nancy Rue

Here it is...a book that has all the "girl stuff" you've been dying to know about. In The Body Book, you get the scoop on everything from puberty and cramps to diet and exercise. Filled with fun magazine-type quizzes and imaginative activities, The Body Book not only offers accurate up-to-date information on personal issues that pre-teen girls experience, but also shares it from a positive biblical perspective. Recommended for ages 8 to 12. A companion book to Lily Robbins, MD.

I have a son who does the same thing at age 8. He has sensory integration disorder though which makes him really sensitive to certain sounds and flushing is just one of them. I am not sure what you can do to make her more comfortable with it. Just know that you are not alone in this.

D. P.