T.C.
Hi F.,
I have been homeschooling for going on 14 years. I rememer the battle in my mind when I was considering homeschooling. I was so overwhelmed and a bit afraid fo the whole thing! The curriculum choices are so vast, and they have grown in the years since I started. First, I would go to the NJ part of the HSLDA website: http://hslda.org/hs/state/NJ/default.asp. It will tell you the laws, support group info, current legislative issues, etc. From my quick look, it appears that NJ is a very easy state to homeschool in! I would be so excited to have those laws. As for curriculum, there is no "state approved" curriculum. They don't have the jurisdiction to tell you what curriculum you have to use. You pick. So, your worldview and style of teaching/learning would be where you would start. Why do you want to homeschool? The answer to that may be a key bit of info in selecting curriculum. I used to get very caught up in the curriculum issue. But, I have come to realize that it is only a tool. For me, as long as it is thoroughly Christian, then it doesn't really matter what you use. We all have different goals and styles and a particular emphasis in what we want our children to know/learn, and our curriculum will probably reflect that. We chose a classical style curriculum. Others like to do unit studies, which require more prep on the mom's part, but is more "free" as to what you do and where you go with it. Some like workbook based learning. One point that I think is important is that I think children should read real books, original works, not just read about them. I can't stand the curriculi that only uses workbooks and tells children about what an author said or believed. I want my kids to actually read the authors. I hope that makes sense.
Online programs can work. I will say that research has shown that children who use the public school at home programs (K12 for example) score the absolute lowest on the standardized tests. Worse than the ones who actually go to public school. I don't know why that is, but that is what is happening. I personally would never choose that route. One reason is because it is the public school curriculum, which is not what I want my children emmersed in. We can do better than that, I would hope.
How do I do it? Well, one day at a time. :) You have to flush the public school mentality out of your mind. Most of us were raised that way, and it is all we know. But, schooling is not best done by that model. The walk along, talk along model is much better. I teach, let my kids do their work, and then move on to the next subject. The goal is to teach them to be self-motivated learners so that I don't have to spoon feed them all day. Once they know how to read, they can do a lot of the work themselves. Most hs curriculum that I have seen is written with the student in mind. After they get beyond the early years, they should become more and more independent in their schooling, with you reviewing their work to check for comprehension and character (are they being sloppy, are they completing their work, etc.). For math, we do really like Teaching Textbooks, which is a computer based program that records all of their scores. It keeps your gradebook for you. Excellent! :)
For socialization, I must laugh. Most homeschoolers are way more socialized than their peers. And, they are not only socializing with people their exact age. That whole phenomenon is one huge reason we don't want them in "school." Most hsers will socialize with people of any age from babies to grannies. And, our social calendar is manic sometimes. And, we don't do any "organized" sports. We don't have time for them! We have people in our home all the time, or we are in theirs. We travel a lot. We love our freedom from the rat race. I can't imagine having to be on someone else's schedule. Ah! Love our life!! Feel free to PM me if you have any other questions. Sorry this is so long (if you are still reading!).