At My Wits End - Seminole,FL

Ok.... I've kind of have been in the same situation. I lived with my parents with my daughter and basically for the same reasons as you.... I helped my parents out and they helped me out. But let's deal with one thing at a time...."she doesnt like the place we live in and who we live with" Does your daughter have her own room? Does she have somewhere just to call her's? Where no one else can go? If not, I would think about making a place up just for her. "I cant go anywhere with out her because she thinks that i would not comeback." My daughter was the same way, so how I got over this was, if I had to go anywhere without her, we (daughter and me) we set up a time that I had to be back and I would be back at that time. Now, don't worry, you don't have to do this for too long. You just need show to her that you are going to return. Does she have a way to call you when you are apart? If not, I would develop a way to handle that one too.
Times are tough for everyone, so I don't really think I would focus on the moving out part. But I would sit down with her and really talk to her. Take her to a park, so it is just you and her and ask why she is so unhappy? Ask her if something as happened at school? Or with her friends? Or even if someone has hurt her? If you still believe that there is a problem, you might consider letting her talk to a counselor.
Please take this one important advice, if your child has been sexually abused, they are not going to tell you. And questioning them over and over again, is not going to help! If you think that your child has been abused in anyway, PLEASE see a counselor. Trust me!!!! This happened to my cousin and because the wrong people were asking the wrong questions, it took her years before she would tell anyone that she was abused and that was not good!
Good luck!!!

I think all the advice thus far is good advice. The most important thing to a child is that their parents "walk on water". She has to know that she can trust you and confide in you NO MATTER WHAT. So take a step back, and listen, REALLY listen to everything she has to say. It may take time for her to confide in you, but she has to know that she can. Keep very open lines of communication between you and she, a mother is the single most important role model in a child's life. Something is clearly bothering her or making her fearful. Sometimes, just knowing there is a soft place to fall, is all that they need.

Sounds like a self image & fear of abandonment issue to me. Is there any reason that she should fear abandonment?
Have you sat down with her asked her questions and really listened to her? Is something happening with some other member of the family? How do others interact with her? Does she just get lost in the crowd or do you or someone do activities that intrest her? Id there someway that you can foster her love & appreciation for family?
Good Luck with this!

S.

Take a step back from the situation and try to objective of the entire picture.

Did something happen recently about the same time the attitudes have started?

Did you move recently or did someone move in with you recently? (I know you said you have 4 generations in the house)

Did anything change with school/routine?

Has anyone in the family been ill or have a major life changing event?

I'm mentioning this last, because it's something no parent ever wants to think about - is it possible she is being abused in any way - emotionally, verbally, physically or sexually? I only ask this because she wants you with her all the time.

Sometimes looking at the whole picture will help you identify something different going on.

If this doesn't help, I'd suggest a phone call to the pediatrician.

Good luck! Send me a message if there's anything I can help with.