Any Other Moms Being Demanded Of?

Isn't that what being a wife and mother is all about? We are everything to everyone. After a few discussions, my husband has gotten better, but still doesn't get it all the time. You need to learn to say no and you need to tell them when you need a break. If you get burnt out, you won't be any good to anyone. Start teaching your girls some independence and patience now, let them know who is in charge, it really is you and not them.

I thought it was just a boy/guy thing. I go through the exact same thing at home. Since MIL lives with me, I discovered why my hubby expects me to "drop everything." She brought him up that way. Can you believe she waited on him hand and foot when he was little on through college age and beyond? I really think it's a family/cultural thing, because my family I grew up with was so different. Once we hit a certain age, we had to get up and get our own drinks and snacks or our parents would say, "You got legs, use them." (Husband's Chinese heritage and I'm German.) This was our parents' way of teaching us to be independent and self-reliant. Another popular thing my parents used to tell us is that we have to "learn to do things on our own, because Mom and Dad won't always be there." My mom's other favorite saying was "God helps those, who help themselves." You can imagin how irritated and rude I feel my family can be when they call me in to another room for "dumb stuff" or to tell me to get them something. I had to train MIL to stop getting stuff for my hubby and explained to her that it is he, who should be getting stuff for her to show respect to his mom. I still haven't fully trained hubby yet, but I'm getting there with my son. I tell him he's a big boy now and should act like one. I also tell him that sometimes I'm very busy and can't just drop everything to run and get him something to drink, so he has to get it himself....Plus, I told him that it is very rude to yell for someone to come to the room you're in, instead come to them. It's a difficult task, but you'll feel better if you tell them how you feel and why rather than holding it in.

I feel the same way you do. I have a 9 year old girl and a boyfirned. I work full time. I also sell Avon on the side. Last night I am trying to get my orders together and I have my daughter yelling for me to come here and I have my boyfriend standing behind me asking if I am going to be long on the computer and standing behind me until I am done. UGH!!! I think us moms all need a vacation or a girls night!

One thing that helped me with my kids was involving them as much as possible - here's the hard part to that - you're so stressed and just want to get the current task complete - waiting for someone to help sucks... BUT... if you start to involve them, then they can start doing some stuff on their own. A chore chart for the girls is a great tool - pick up some $1 store stuff and keep it in a basket or something (or bribe 'em wiht a special something on the weekend - *gasp* yes I said bribe!) Get them involved with helping and you'll be happy you did. PLUS they will start to be more responsible and appreciate what you do. (ever notice how much more frugal your kids are when they're spending their own money - same thing with cleaning up after themselves).

Also - you are a team with your hubby - even if he works and you don't (I don't know you particular circumstance). TELL him - I need you to handle this and this. Seriously - men just get that women are superheros and tend to just stay out of the way... so TELL him - trust me - he won't get it otherwise. Another tip - if he is helping and it's not quite how you want it done - don't worry about it or point out his "mistake" - he'll get it.