My neice has a 3 yr old son who hangs with his 5 yr old cousin (live close to each other) The older has been bulling him, but taking his toys, hitting him etc. It has progressed to the older one telling the younger to take his shirt off in the kids bedroom and hiding under covers with their shirts off. My neice has found them and has make it very clear this was not "nice" behavior. They did it again the next day. Then she found them in her room under a blanket and when she walked in she heard the older one saying give me a kiss....she lost it and yelled at both of them. I have never experinced this behavior before and don't know how to advice her...any ideas?
Thanks
D.
The last bit has me worried that the 5 year has been around a child molestor. Shirt off and then demanding a kiss?? Separate the two and investigate why the 5 year old is acting like this.
That last part made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. My gut says that someone is doing this to the 5 year old and that's why he's doing it to your 3 year old. First, do not leave your 3 year old alone with this boy. Second, someone needs to find out immediately who's possibly molesting the five year old - don't take this lightly - save that boy NOW!
This soundsl iek to me that the 5 yr old has either seen this in his parents bedroom or on tv or worse its been done to him. I would talk to the mom right away about this. good luck
Others have advised you to keep "your son" safe, but you said this is not your child so I'm not sure if there is much you can do. This is NOT normal behavior for a 5 year old. The 5 year old has either been sexually abused or bullied by an adult or older child, or in the least has been allowed to be exposed to sexually explicit material on TV. Personally, I think since he is bullying that it is not just something he has watched, but something he has witnessed himself. He needs help and the 3 year old should NEVER EVER EVER be allowed alone with him without an adult present in the same room.
This is alarming behavior. At three years old, kids copy and learn from adults and old kids. If your niece doesn't protect the three year old, who will? She should have the kids only play in the living room where she can see them at all times. Also, she needs to talk to the cousin's parents. As far as her yelling at both kids, she should only be upset at herself for allowing the behavior. Her three year old is not to blame.
keep that baby (3yrs old) AWAY from the five year old if there is not proper supervision!!!!
also: WHERE is the five year old learning this stuff????
especially about the shirts off and under the covers, etc.
I have a three yr old and a six year old. I WATCH them and LISTEN all the time! if the 6 yr old decides to do something unkind to his brother he is in TROUBLE.
the end.
I haven't had to deal with this, but the first thing I would do is stop them from playing together, at least in a room together with no adults. Second, this child's mother needs to know about this. Who knows where it has come from, there could be a million places, but she needs to know. I don't know what to do to stop it, except separate them. Hopefully someone has some advice to help stop the behavior for the 5 year old before it becomes a problem. Kids are curious, but that is a little over the top for me. It sounds as if it is escalating and could have the potential to be a bad situation all around. Good luck with this!
Hey- keep them apart-K
wow. keep an eye on them or don't let them hang out for a while if your niece can't be with them at all times. it may be innocent, then again, it may turn out something else. why chance it?
