3Rd Baby..CANT MAKE a DECISION

I have asked my husband several times and he is ALL ABOUT having another baby.. I wouldnt ask perfect strangers without running it by him. I was just asking if anyone else has been in the situation ... just wondering what their deciding factors were. I know everyon is different just wanted some insight thats all!! Thank you for all kind words from the other women though:)

Do it!!!! You are so young and so will have a lot of time to think about this and the more you think the more you will want one-esp as you get closer to the iffy window of the late 30's where fertility begins to drop. Once you decide you "might' want another baby I don't think the feeling goes away, it only gets stronger.
You don't want to be like me who dearly regrets my decision for only 2 but it is too late to do anything about it.

YES~ And this morning I found out I am pregnant with my third! I keep crying because I am so happy.

I got rid of all my baby stuff when my second was 6 months old. Then when he was 9 months, I started to regret it. By 12 months I was obsessed with the idea of a third, and I then spent the next year going back and forth about whether we should do it or not. My youngest is now 2.5 years old. I literally spent almost 2 years fretting about it!

I turned 40 last month. Best thing that could have happened to me! I realized that life is too short to live with fear. There are NO cons with having another child. The more the merrier, you will always find a way. Stop weighing your options. What does your heart tell you? If you at all feel a pull, I say GO FOR IT. No one ever regrets having more children.

As to giving your children attention, have you ever spent time with large families? The kids give each other attention! I am sure you know this with your boys so close in age. Just think how easy a baby will be with two little helpers to entertain it!

You have so much time to decide. You could do what one of my friends is doing, she had two girls close together in age, and then they are waiting 10 years and will be having another two. She figures they will have more money, two free babysitters, etc.

Pro - new baby to love

Con - switching from 'man to man' defense to 'zone' :)

Go for it! More love is never a bad thing :)
And congrats, Julie!!

Pros and Cons?

When we were having our 5th, my wife and I had a long discussion as to whether our 5th was to be our last. We did some soul searching and praying. My wife and I felt we had our prayers answered when we were told we would have a girl and a boy.

Well, number 6 was a girl and number 7 was a boy.

2 and a half years later, I came home from a week on the road and my wife told me she was pregnant. I couldn't get to sleep because I was sure I recieved a heavenly answer to my prayer. What ended up happening was that I received another answer to all my prayers about our number 8. We had number 8 because some other family refused to have him and we were able to provide a loving home and nice family.

If you can provide a nice family and loving home, then have the child.

I hate to think of all the wonderful family experiences and wonderful times we would have missed if we had only had two kids.

Good luck to you and yours.

Well, I had two boys. If I hadn't gone for a third, I wouldn't have my daughter, which is unthinkable.

If you're in a stable marriage, you both want another, you can handle the financial increase, and have more love to give, why not go for it?

We can fret ourselves sick looking for answers, but in the end we manage whatever happens, you know?

You'd be hard pressed to find a parent of an adult child who regrets having that child.

Have fun trying!

:)

I had my first two 14 months apart. Then 5 years later my 3rd (then 2yrs later 4th). Your older two are the perfect age to have another. They will be big helpers. I say go for it :)

Pros: 1. New baby (yaaay) 2. You're older and wiser and more patient! 3. Your boys will be big brothers and can help out more. 4. You might have a little girl (so much fun and you need another female in the house to balance things out some).

Cons: 1. More money needed (education/college/daily expenses/babysitting). 2. How the baby will impact your body? Not sure how your other pregnancies were.

I'm wondering also how does your husband feel about another baby because his feelings would really matter in terms of how this would be received.

Hope you make a decision that is best for you!

You are the only one that can make the decision, but you are still really young so you have alot of time to have another one. If you want to have another one now, can afford it and your hubs on board, I would say go for it!

I felt like you. I have 3 kids and kept going back and forth on whether or not to have another. When I finally decided that a 4th is what I really wanted to do I felt so much better. It took all the stress out of it. yes there are cons to added more kids but the pros are so much better. and i felt that if I thought about it this much it must be the right thing to do.

I think that this is a decision that only your and your husband need to make. There are multiple factors to consider like money, time, your other children's response to a new baby, your careers, will you stay at home, etc etc? I know personally that my husband would be furious if he found out that i was asking a bunch of strangers to help me decide if I was going to bring another child into the world or not. I seriously would recommend that you consult your husband, and maybe even your older children first. Once they've all ok'd it, if YOU still are on the fence about it, then i would consider asking the wonderful members here on mamapedia. Good luck with whatever decision you decide to make!

C.

I say go for it if your husband is on board. I have 4 children two boys and two girls. I knew after having my boys that I would want to try a third time for a girl. I felt our family was not complete with just the two boys. My boys were so excited when I told them they were going to be big brothers and they were even more excited when we found out it was a girl. Our 4th was a little bit of a surprise, I believe God felt we were not complete yet. We too work full time and I have gone back to school to finish getting my teacher's licence. Your boys are at a good age too. My boys were 7 and 4 when our third was born. They were very helpful. It was a big adjustment with going from 2 to 3 for me. I did feel like at first that I did not give my boys the attention they needed because most of my time was spent with the baby but they were very understanding and knew the baby needed my attention more. I just had to learn how to let my husband take over with the baby so I could spent time with my boys too. Hope this helps. I know I would not change anything that has happened in my life.

No hurry! My first two were teens when I had my third.

Well, one good thing you have going in your favor is your age. You have plenty of time to decide! I am starting to think of the same question for myself (should I have a 3rd?) but given that I will be 35 in a week I am going to have to figure that pretty soon. If your not sure, why not give it another year and then re-evaluate?

well u need to think will all my children get attention will i want a 3rd child when me and my husband work fulltime you just have to think