22 Month Old's Tantrums W/dad

I also think that it's "all of the above". Any change in routine can create temporary behavior "issues" in children that age. But I think the biggest factor playing a role in this situation is that she's going to be 2. My 1st son is 28 months and can be quite a pill at times. And there are usually no other attributable factors that can explain his behavior. So at that point I chalk it up to him just being 2.
This may or may not help, but I wanted to offer that I've been there and I'm still going through it. Also, I live in Alameda, so feel free to message me if you want to connect.

I'd say it's a two year old thing and seeing how much control she has. After two nights, she's learned that she does have control over who does what for her. change that TONIGHT! No matter how much she fusses, Dad still gives her a bath. If it doesn't turn out to be a real scrub-a-dub-dub because she is having a tantrum, who cares. the lesson is more important this evening!

It is normal (although frustrating) for kids this age to show preference for one parent over the other. Both my kids did this between 18 months and 2 years. Daddy wasn't allowed to do anything for them, from buckling in their carseats to bathtime, to getting jammies on etc. Daddy feelings were definitely hurt, but now my older child (4) can't get enough of daddy, so it goes both ways. For us, I wanted to see how he would react if I wasn't here to do everything, so I ran to the store one night at bathtime. My son didn't object one bit to my husband doing the regular routine because he knew there was no other alternative. I have to say though, that if it is just bathtime, perhaps you have different styles of washing her hair etc and she prefers yours. He may have accidentally gotten soap in her eyes or water up her nose, and she's scared it will happen again. If that is the case, I would have daddy be an observer of bathtime for a few nights to a week, then try to take over again. She may just need a few nights to forget the "trauma".

I say 'all of the above'.
I bet she throws the tantrum because she's tired and it happens to be at bath time. I'm assuming that you're the primary care provider, so she gets tired and wants her mommy. totally normal for her age, holiday weekend, and a big move.
Maybe get a really fun bath toy tha daddy can use at bath time.

Hi M., I think if your little one if normally sweet tempered and this kind of outburst is unusual, I would pay attention. My little one is also a very mild mannered child and when she gets upset, one way or the other, there is always a good reason why. Does she spend anytime away from your husband and you? I would just respect her feelings (like it sounds as though you are doing by bathing her yourself)and then have your husband try bathtime in a week or so and see if there are any changes. If no, I might give my pediatrician(sp) a heads up and see what he thinks. Best of luck!