2 Year Old Won't Stop Hitting

Updated on November 05, 2006
S.M. asks from Athens, OH
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My son is 2 and for the past few weeks, he has been hitting everyone! Yesterday he gave a little boy a nosebleed by hitting him in the face. We have tried everything we can think of! Time out, taking toys & privileges away, talking to him about it. Right now we have a chart and told him every day he doesn't hit he gets a sticker. When he has 7 stickers he can get a little truck he wants. But he's only gotten 1 sticker so far. Has anyone gone through this? What helps?

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K.O.

answers from Evansville on

actually, my only advice is to find out why he is hitting. There are many reasons to why children go threw this stage.
One my be that they are frustrated at what the other child has done to them, like taking a toy he wanted or so forth. If that is the situation you need to talk to him and explain that he needs to use his words and encourage him to do so. Like: Does that make you mad, sad, angry. Then give him things to do or say when he gets mad, sad, or angry. Such as telling the other child, telling an adult, or redirecting the child to something else.
Now, it could also mean that your child just might like to hit. He doesn't realize that it is hurting the other child. It is just another form of playing around. In that case you need to explain to him that it hurts his friends when he does that. Then give him examples of when he got hurt... like: remember when you fell and you cried? You were sad when you got hurt. Now, it hurts your friends when you hit them. If you want to play with them go get your truck you brought today and play together.

I know this may sound too simple but it truly works. Kids need to be able to recognize thier feelings and the feelings of their friends. When they do recognize they are sad or they are happy, then they start to feel the emotions that their friends are feeling and can tell you : Jimmy is happy as he laughs with him.

In the last case it could be that your son may strive for some attention. If the child feels like someone is getting attention more than he is, he might act out in order to get attention. Even if that attention is bad.
So, if that is the case, make sure your child is getting some one on one with the adult in the room. Not for a long time, just about five minutes here and there. That makes a big difference. You usually see this in a older child who doesn't have siblings and they go to a day care or if the older child has a younger sibling.
Hope I helped you out.

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J.W.

answers from Iowa City on

I have a very strong willed son. We recently started therapy since the divorce. She was able to gain some insight into why he was angry and frustrated. She also gave me a wonderful book to read entitled "Winning Cooperation Fron Your Child!" by Kenneth Wenning, Ph.D. It really has some great techniques. It's an easy read and only about 120 pages long. I encourage all moms to read it.

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V.U.

answers from South Bend on

First I would try to get a hild of his Peds doctor and talk to them about the problem if it is a real consern. There may be somthing more to his aggression than meets the eye. My son had very violent outbursts starting at the same age and eventually going to Madison Center found that his brain runs very fast and needed to be slowed down. Nine years later after alot of patience, test and therapy for all of us, he's almost a straight A student at St. Joe and made high honors.

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K.M.

answers from Charleston on

My son went through the exact same thing. He would hit everyone. Just run up & hit them for no reason. He would bite, too. He bit this one lil boy & left a HUGE mark on his arm. Eventually he just outgrew. I think it might just be a phase he is going through. It is very hard & embarrassing because u dont want people to think u cant control your child. I would just hold onto him a lot & stay on him like a hawk. If I thought he was going to hit someone, I would say something before he did it. (Like, Jayden, dont even think of hitting her.) Not really yelling, just telling him. Good luck!!!

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