hi for the past three years i became good friends with this nice women. her kids are the same age as mine. anyhow we do lots of stuff together. i have invited her and her children the last three years to our easter egg hunt. she was able to attend two of the years. we dont live in the same neighborhood but close by.
i just ran into someone who told me this friend host an easter egg hunt for her neighborhood. she didnt invite me our my kids. our kids are good friends we are good friends.
would this bother you?
If it's a neighborhood or an HOA thing, they probably only plan for the neighborhood - if everyone invited just 1 friend with kids, it would quadruple what they would need to have the event. Don't take it personally.
No, I would be flattered! She thought so much of the Easter egg hunt that you did that she wanted to do the same thing. Maybe she saw how much fun everyone had, how everyone was able to talk and get to know each other, and she wanted to provide the same environment so she can get to know her neighbors, too.
Nope, it was for her neighborhood. That's usually so the neighbors can get to know eachother.
Not if it was just for her neighborhood. We used to host an Easter Egg hunt for the neighborhood, too. It just meant we provided the lawn/backyard, but there was a group of us that planned it and actually ran it, not just me. So I would have felt strange inviting a good friend of mine that didn't live in the neighborhood, even if I'd wanted to.
No, it is her neighborhood.
She may be trying to bring the hood all together. We had a neighborhood Easter egg hunt in our neighborhood every year. We did not invite people from outside of the neighborhood, because we were already a big crowd.
It is only 1 event.. you have the rest of the year to do things with her and her kids. Do not take it personally. I am sure she is not excluding you for negative reasons. It is just that you do not live in her neighborhood.
It would bother me but I would just call her and say "so I hear you're hosting an easter egg hunt-that's great!" and see what she has to say...then you'll know if your feelings should be hurt or not. Maybe there's a reason..just a neighborhood thing or something...or maybe she'll say "oh yeah - you should come!" Or maybe she figures since you have one, you might not want to go to another one...OR maybe she's using your idea and wants to get the credit and is embarrassed that she stole your idea LOL! But if she knows you're excited for her, then she'll know its ok to invite you.. We moms can be crazy like that sometimes...
Not really. she is hosting it for her neighborhood and you admittedly don't live in the neighborhood. So have your easter egg hunt while she has hers and perhaps when you both have a free moment you can swap funny stories.
Nah, it wouldn't bother me. But my feelings aren't easily hurt.
I would figure 1. It's her neighborhood. You can't really go inviting others from outside the 'hood or it gets too crazy. Our neighborhood has a hunt. It's enough to handle the kids here, without adding friends of all the neighbors. 2. She probably figures you're already doing your hunt like always so you'll be busy.
Don't always assume the worst or assume that your friend was trying to offend you.
I probably would wish I had been invited, but I wouldn't allow myself to get hurt feelings. She's doing this for her own neighbors. That's quite nice of her.
I would go ahead with my neighborhood party, and later I'd ask her how hers went. Perhaps you'll be able to compare notes and get ideas how to improve the parties next year.
I wouldn't be bothered so much by not being invited especially if it was just for her neighborhood. I would be bothered by the fact that she didn't tell me about it. You would think it would come up in normal conversation talking about what events you are going to do or have done. I would ask her about it and see what the real story is.
I don't think it would hurt my feelings,are you hurt by her not inviting you?
Hi, C.:
I was wondering why the person told you about your friend having an
Easter Egg hunt?
Are inviting your friend to do things with you to have her reciprocate doing things with you?
It is my understanding that people can be their own person.
If you think that your friendship is lacking, then tell her what it is you
need from her.
If you think your friendship is a good one, then why you weren't invited will unfold on its own.
Just a thought.
D.
If it's for her neighborhood, and I didn't live in that neighborhood, no it would not bother me. If you want to have them over for an Easter egg hunt, maybe you could do it the day before Easter? I'm sure the kids wouldn't care if it was really Easter.
How many Easter egg hunts do kids need to go to?
I wouldn't let it bother me. You might mention in passing that you heard she was having an Easter egg hunt and see what she says.
I do lots of neighborhood things that I don't invite everyone to. I do things I don't invite my neighbors to. Do your own thing. Let her do hers. I doubt she meant to offend you.
Just my opinion.
Hi C.
Honestly? Yes if we were good friends then yes it would bother me. Also if we were good friends I would feel pretty 'safe' about asking her about it. I would hope she would do the same if the shoes were on the other foot. ;)
No, there are things we do in our neighborhood and there are things we do outside our neighborhood.
It wouldn't bother me that I wasn't invited, since it was a neighborhood hunt. I would be bothered that she didn't tell me that she was hosting one, I would feel like she was trying to hide it from me since she didn't want to invite me because it was a neighborhood event.
Maybe she feels as if since you and your family attend the hunt in your neighborhood she probably thought you'd attend it. In a way it is nice to know she is providing a hunt in her own neighborhood; maybe your community inspired her to do something with her own. She may have just gotten so busy that she just forgot to inform you. If it bothers you; just ask her. No harm in asking that way you clear the air and find out if it was an honest mistake or the truth comes about.
yes it would, but she may not realize shes being a little hurtful, she would probably be embarrassed for having been thoughtless. Ive been there and i was happy to correct my mistake.
It would hurt my feelings but I'd let it go. I'd probably be hurt, pout, then go on my merry way and forget about it...LOL =D I'm sorry this happened. Good luck!
Ok. Let's be honest here. The question wasn't SHOULD it bother you, it was WOULD it bother you/me. And yes, in all honesty, I would be bothered some. Then, I would think about it and decide that it wasn't intended to BE bothersome. That my friend was taking a great idea that I had done, and putting it to work in her own neighborhood. And maybe, just maybe, think that perhaps she didn't invite you b/c you do your own egghunt!
Maybe you guys could get together and do some planning. She might have ideas that you could use in YOURS this year... And you might have some tips that you could share with her...
But, totally honest: Yes. I would be bothered. For a day. Then I would get over it. :)
Cheers
Nope. I would almost guarantee she didn't invite you because...she knows you already do your own. She is probably afraid of offending you "for stealing your idea." No hard feelings.
It might. That depends. If she has lots of friends and little help with the neighborhood hunt, then she may not have the money to invite others outside of the neighborhood.
