I just started a wedding planning business...from home. My daughter is 22 months and I am figuring out the balance. I do feell guilty at times that I need to finish that one last email that's taken me 5 hours to type from distractions and she's staring at me...."Maaaammmmaaaa". There is a balance...I know there is.
I take several small breaks in my day just for her. We run, play, chase, jump on the bed, sing songs, read books...whatever she wants.
In the morning I try to sneak up and shower before she gets up. (notice I said try-usually she's sleeping on her little couch bed next to my bed in the morning)
If I can, I try to put myself together, dressed with shoes on. Make-up and hair are after thoughts usually.
She then get's breakfast with Mama.
I check my emails and schedule for the day. I do some work, appointments while she plays or watches some PBS shows.
I take a late morning break for playing...30-40 and then we do lunch.
She naps...I crack down on phone calls and things that I can only do when I'm not distracted by her. (she currently grabs my hand from typing and pulls me away when she wants me)
She wakes up and watches a movie in mama's bed...I spend time picking up the house for an hour or so.
She plays, I work....this part is all relative to her mood.
My husband works late so usually I'm pulling out my hair by 7 or 8pm.
Dinner time, daddy time, bath time, bed time.
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Good luck.