Words of Encouragement for Unplanned Baby #3 - Wentzville,MO

Remember each pregnancy can be different so have a positive outlook for this one to release all those negative energy and fears you have. If you already have those negative thoughts sometimes they can affect things....everything happens for a reason remember that so in the end yes everything will be okay. Sending hugs were way and congrats!!!!!!!!!!

I've no idea what you've gone through before, but enlist help from others now and take care of everything needed for baby now. I just had my third, she is 10 weeks and fabulous, and my other two are 16 and 12. The gestational diabetes and all it entailed was no fun, but she was so worth it.

My little unplanned #3 is now 4.5 months, and I finally have my boy! Hubby and I were quite content with our 2 girls. God had other plans!!! And now I can't imagine my life without my son!

Hang in there. I think a lot of your nervousness is due to the fact that you weren't planning this (I went thru the same progression of emotions).

Try and enjoy your new blessing! Good luck & Congrats!!!

Yes! It is going to be okay!!
My surprise #3 will be 7 in less than 2 weeks, and I can't imagine life w/o her :)
I always planned on having 4, but did not plan on having my 3rd 16 months after my 2nd, that's for sure!

My unplanned #3 (came 15 months after #2) will be 1 next month. What a true joy and blessing she is. I cried when I found out I was pregnant (not tears of joy!) because #2 had terrible colic and she was still a baby when I found out. Then, when I was 12 weeks, they couldn't find the heartbeat. I was rushed in for an ultrasound, everything was fine, but it in those moments that I realized how devastated I would be I had miscarried. It hasn't been easy, but everyday got better and better and life would not be the same without her! She is truly a gift from God, and definitely has a purpose here. It's going to be better than okay!

I don't know what I would do without my unplanned number 3. He is such an intricate part of our family, and at only 3, keeps us all on our toes. Yesterday he told a little boy at day care that B stands for Mind your own Business!! OH MY GOODNESS!! Lol...I think God gave us number three to round us out...I really think my house would be too calm without him! My pregnancies were not what I would call enjoyable either...but just try to enjoy it, since it sounds like it will be the last. Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Yep! It is going to be ok. Our plans are not usually the same as God's plans, but He knows what is best! So many have said that this is a blessing in disguise.

Each pregnancy can be very different. Maybe this will be the pregnancy you get to enjoy!

If you are worried, start planning for worst case scenarios.. Cook and freeze meals for your family. Start making space now, give a heads up top friends and family you may need more help than in the past (they want to help you) , And the most importantly tell your husband exactly what you are feeling and do not expect him to remember anything from the past pregnancies.

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Congratulations on your surprise gift!

My unplanned #3 made my family feel "whole". I don't know how else to describe it, but somehow we are ALL better people now that he's here.

It will be OK.

And by the way, my pregnancies were pretty awful too. But just like everything else with parenting, we find a way to do the things that HAVE to be done. Maybe not all the things we WANT to be done, but really, your other kids will be fine.

I have 3 children. 7 year old twins and 4 year old. I always thought I would have just 2.

three children is more than 2. You can't carpool as easily because no one can fit all 3 in their vehicle. It's more chaos. The third takes time away from the first 2, and on and on and on.

But, I truly believe that the greatest gift we can give our kids is as many siblings as we can. They live with us 18 years (or so) then they are on their own in the real world. With two siblings they can take care of each other, have someone to share their childhood memories with and someone who can make fun of their parents with :)

So, even if it's harder now and they may fight and it costs more, and maybe the don't get to take gymnastics AND dance at the same time, it will enrich their lives in ways they can't even imagine!

And, three is a lot and we all talk at the same time, but it is so much fun!!! I ADORE my third and even sometime wonder if a 4th would be even better :)

Absolutely! This baby is meant to be here! I know an unplanned pregnancy is scary...I've had one myself! This is probably one of the reasons a pregnancy lasts as long as it does, to give you time to adjust and accept and plan! You will be absolutely fine! It is totally normal to feel what you're feeling.

My last pregnancy was quite a surprise, and I was so afraid! There are too many reasons, and complicated ones at that, to mention, but my hubby and I chose to place our son for adoption. I'm by no means suggesting that for you, but I just want you to know that I know how much you are doubting your abilities as a mom right now! You have many things to think about, so take your time, and let us know how everything's going! :) Everything will be fine!

K.

yes, it will be ok! congratulations :) my #3 was definitely planned, by me at least... hubby wasnt so convinced. but after we had him and allllll the time since then, hubby just looks at me sometimes and says he is soooo thankful we went for 3, he cant imagine life without him, he makes our life complete. he is wonderful, what a gift and a blessing he is. im not saying its a piece of cake, what is? i really think he saved me, someone up there knew that our family needed him. im thankful every day. and you guys will feel the same way. oh, and every pregnancy is different, so there is hope that it wont be awful. each of mine were different. and the delivery will probably be better. best of luck to you, you are giving your other kids the gift of another best friend for life.

Not every pregnancy is the same, even if you were miserable the first 2 doesn't mean you have to be miserable this time. Prayer and thinking possitive can be a great help. I had only 2 pregnancies but 3 children. I was miserable while I was pregnant with the twins and said if I had 2 boys or a boy and a girl that I would be done. I had a boy and a girl but didn't pay attention to what the Dr. said about birth control because I had been on clomid for 7 months before I got pregnant and they removed my right tube and ovalry when I was 16 weeks along. I was blessed with another boy 15 months after the twins were born, he is a very caring boy. All 3 of my children have very different personalities. I was so embarrased to end up pregnant that soon after the twins, but my pregnancy was nothing like with the twins.
You will do fine, everything will work out. I am not sure what your dificulties were but it will be ok. I hope this helps. If you need to can you have friends or family help you with you children now to make things easier? Do you belong to a church that can put you on the prayer list or know someone who does?

Hi,

Its going to be fine! Congratulations~ Every pregnancy is different-- maybe this one will be great-- you never know- think positively! Babies are great and your kids will love being big brother/sister to the new little one. Take good care of yourself. Everything will be ok. Everything happens for a reason- you were blessed with a third child! Enjoy!

M

Everything will be okay, God sent you this blessing and he will help you through your pregnancy. Take care of yourself and enjoy. Congrats!!!!

We have been enjoying our 4 month old baby that was NOT planned and concieved just 2 weeks before my hubby lost his job. I wouldn't have it any other way! It was an excruciatingly rought pregnancy. But that is all over with. The best part for us is this is truley the first time we have really enjoyed the newborn first year of parenthood. It is so much more relaxing this time. I LOVE, LOVE it!! Congrats and enjoy the moments with your children!! They are a blessing! :)

BTW our 4 month old is our third!!

CONGRATS!!! We have three. While our 3rd was not a suprise, we thought LONG and hard. We originally wanted two, but did not feel...done, complete, WHOLE. So we decided for three and BAM I was pregnant. Even though we had decided to go for three it happened so fast I freaked a little. It won't be long before you are VERY excited about this baby!!! It is a little tougher and crazy w three...it calls for a little more organization and patience...for EVERYONE (older kids included) But it is AWESOME and I wouldn't change it for the world. My older kids (usually) adore the youngest...except when he messes up their homework or some such...normal stuff!!! You WILL be OK. I hope this pregnancy goes easier for you!!! God Bless you and your growing family!!!