My daughter is seven and I am have alot of trouble getting her to go to bed on time and she fights with me to do her homework. I was wondering if anyone can give me advice on how to handle it.
Its funny! I post the question and the same day my daughter doesnt give me any trouble doing her home work and she went to bed on time with no problems. We will see what tonight bring and I am going to try some of the suggestions that I received.
Choices and rewards. She can choose to go to bed and still have all of her priviledges (like tv, radio, phone, activities, and toys--you only take one at a time for a bad choice) or she can choose to fight you about it and lose something. Then once you've seen her make 7 good choices in a row you can reward her by giving her something back or something new.
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Moving is hard on kids...changing friends, schools, homes. Just make a schedule and some rules and explain them to her and the consequences if she doesn't abide by them and then stick to it and don't give in. Kids like discipline and stability in their lives even if they don't act like it. ;)
Good luck!
B.
Well I understand where you are coming from my daugther and I just move from Florida. She would fight me about going to sleep I just get her up a little earier in the morning and we read before bed. I have found this helps. She reads me a book. And I let her go to sleep with a little music. As far as home work we do this together. She get upset sometimes when she can't get something we take a break and start again in few minutes. Sometimes this is a process and it takes a little more time. But we don't fight about anymore. She'll layed down with her radio on and in 1/2 hour I will go down and turn it off because she fast a sleep. It will balance out you just need to let her know your in charge. Give it time.
Hi,
First off was this a struggle before you moved. Or is it a new thing with the sleeping. I really dont know your situation completely. I have all boys that of which they have adhd. I have found it easier to ask them if they can do something instead of demanding. Im not saying this is what you have been doing. But I know that my kids are like a brick wall when i demand. My kids are hard to handle even though i know they have a diagnosis. I know alot of things play a factor in bed time here. We find that consistence is the key. Same time for bed every night. Nights we have stuff going on birthday parties, bible study etc. Those are hard to get to bed nights. Sometimes reading a book or books before bed, while the child is tucked in the bed helps. I know that sometimes i feel rushed when it is bedtime and just want the kids to jump in bed and go to sleep. But my kids feed off that rushing I have going on. Maybe even a warm bath before bed. Sorry this is so long. But I definately know that it is frustrating when you are tired and want to go to bed. And it makes it hard when the child is not willing to do that.
Hope that helps.
R.
I can't say I'm sure what to do about the bedtime issue- my daughter is only two. But one thing I can suggest is to sit down with her and see if there's anything you can do to help with homework. That, or maybe her school in Florida was ahead (or behind) where she is now, and that can cause a lot of problems. I know that the times I did the best in school were when my parents sat with me while I did my homework, and helped me figure it out.
I hope that helps
E.
