hello moms im tryin 2 figure myself out lol.i was married 15years and had two childern with the man well we didnt have the best marrige we would fight alot cuss eachother he would hit on me well oneday i woke and said im done i took the kids and left.he filed 4 a divorce two days after i left ok that was fine that showed me he didnt love me 2 much:( well he has moved on got a girlfriend i have a boyfriend that is very good 2 me:) but why do i feel sad 4 leaving him now and im sad he has a gf and she stays with him alot at our old home:( i think i did the right thing by leaving but why do i have second thoughts about it???i have good days and i have bad why is that?and im very happy with my boyfriend:) and also my 15year old son went back 2 live with his father and now he has nothing 2 do with me and that is really bothering me his dad pumps him up about stuff and he is mad that i left his dad....i hope you moms can help me out?thankyou
well moms i want 2 say thankyou for all the great info im going too do what yall said and live a happy life and hope that oneday my son will come around for the im not sad anymore pretty hurt now i just found out that why we was married and i was prego with are second baby he cheated on me and then three other times after she was born so he cheated 4times in our marrige....so i look at it like this i didnt lose much:) i couldnt mean much 2 him i think i was just there for the kids and 2 be his house keeper and when he felt like loving me witch was not that often:( but im moving on he is the pass......thankyou moms great info ladys:)
get a counselor, but I'd say that's normal to feel it but if you act on it, you're setting yourself up for trouble. There's not much you can do about your son, at least now.
A loss is a loss. No matter if it is a good thing or something bad that shouldn't be in our life it is still a loss and that makes us sad. Also we feel like we failed somehow when we see them with someone else making it work or seeming to be happy and making the relationship work. Trust me if he hit you and mistreated you he will the next one and the next unless he gets a lot of help. You should talk to someone yourself it will help you cope . You can check your local Domestic Violence Safe house they offer low cost and some free counseling. Good Luck.
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It takes a strong woman to walk away from an abusive situation. so congrats. You have a right to be happy. Dont live in the past...it will make you a prisoner! Dont focus on what he has. Sounds like you have a good guy, so focus on your relationship with him not your ex. As for your child going back to him, well he is a boy and may feel more comfortable around a father figure. In time , he may realize he needs you too. Give it time. sounds like this all happened very fast. In the meantime, enjoy your new freedom girl! take care of YOU!! You may feel insecure with all these new changes, thats normal since you were married for 15 yrs. Sometimes we even miss the irritating people in our lives. Now is the time to figure out who you are and who you want to be. If you can leave him, you can do anything. God Bless
I think it's normal.Eventhough he wasn't good to you you must have had some feelings for him.And if nothing else,he's the father of your children.I think that you should talk to someone if for no other reason just to help you get your feelings out and deal with them.
God Bless!
I agree with what a lot of the moms have already said. You have a long history with your ex, but also an abusive history. It would have been a bad idea to continue as you were, for both of you. It's really normal to feel sad about it, though, and to miss your ex, even if you had a bad dynamic. I'm sure you had love, and had some kind of connection, or you wouldn't have your kids today... I would take those feelings, and work towards a friendship with your ex, or at least a feeling of peace between you.
If you feel you can't do that, then take a distance, and let him live his life, while you live yours. It's tough, but you can do it, and do it classy. I think there are always some regrets with a breakup, but it sounds like it was for the best. Give yourself a big hug for doing the right thing. Ultimately, you took the steps to free both yourself and your ex for healthier relationships, and that will make an impression on your children, eventually, if not now.
Best to you.
I agree with the other moms. I'm glad you moved on.
Curiosity - did you used to be "Jessica C" .....your kids both stayed with their dad, but then your daughter came back to you?
Stay healthy. Prayers!
