Why Am I Feeling Not So Excited About This Pregnancy?

You need to decide if this is what you really want, assuming you are early enough alone to still have options. If it is what you want then just give it time, hopefully once you start feeling a little better, and the due date comes closer, you will be more excited.

Why? Because you are exhausted, hormonal, surprised, and derailed from your other plans. You had been through the decision-making to not have any more kids, and then you got completely thrown for a loop when you got in to the consultation. That's a huge boomerang to your emotions. I don't blame you one bit. You do have a decision to make, and no one can do that for you. I'd support you no matter what you decided - I used to counsel women on all these issues so I know there is a huge range of thoughts, wants, views, and emotions. So pretty much everything is normal. Get some short-term counseling if it would help. Good luck to you.

I probably wouldn't feel excited either, as I know how much emotional, physical and financial responsibility comes with caring for just three kids, on a fairly high income (never mind the temporary, uncomfortable pregnancy symptoms.)
I suppose if you have a large loving family, lots of support, good income/savings and a solid, secure marriage to a man who does his share with an open, generous, loving mind and heart, then you'll be fine.
If not? Well, there are alternatives. I can't even fathom giving birth to an unwanted/unaffordable baby (who could be born with any number of health problems/deformities) but that's just me, it seems so cruel, selfish and unfair, not only to the child, but to the children you already have :-(

Of course it's normal! You're not a baby-making machine! You're a woman. Your life isn't supposed to be about cranking out babies. Seven months ago you had your 4th baby. For heaven's sake, it's too soon to have another baby.

Your body needs a vacation from making babies. You need a better birth control method. The one you are using isn't reliable. If you're Catholic, then you need to tell your husband that an alternate form of intercourse is needed so that you won't get pregnant again.

I can't give you advice about this baby. But if you are going to carry it to term, you need to stop breastfeeding now (if you are), get help with the other kids, study exactly what you need nutritionally and make sure that you eat and drink that so that you can be healthy. Get the doctor's recommendation of pregnancy vitamins - you need them NOW. And GET REST. You just had a baby. Having another one is terribly taxing on your body and you have to give it rest.

If your husband doesn't understand this, tell him that a preemie with life-threatening problems, months in the NICU and doctors bills sky high should at LEAST be worth his attention. Don't let him push you around. Get help now.

Good luck.

I completely agree with what Mamazita said. And of course it's normal. I would have felt that way at a 3rd pregnancy... We all have our limits. For some people it's 1 child, for some 2, for some 4.

It sounds like you didn't or don't want another child so why would you be excited about this. Please be sure you do want this child before deciding you will carry this pregnancy to term. Perhaps if you think hard about it and if you decide you do want a fifth, you will feel better about it. I personally would find another (and I only have one) completely overwhelming and would be horribly depressed, not just indifferent. Everyone has their own limits and no one who should matter to you will judge your decision either way. Some people also don't get excited about a baby until said baby arrives in the outside world.

It's to be expected given the circumstances.
Your body hasn't had enough time to fully recharge from having the baby 7 months ago.
Schedule your tubal to take place right when this next baby is born.
In the means time - Hubby can go get a vasectomy right now.
Look at this baby as your last pregnancy and you might feel better thinking this is the last time you'll be going through this.

Of course you aren't excited...it is normal when hit with the shock of another baby so soon when you felt your family was complete.

Sounds like you planned your others and this one was a shock.

I can tell you about at least five unplanned babies that grew up to be invaluable to their families (both my mom and dad included).

You are tired, raising four children, one still a very small baby. You are sick from the pregnancy.

You are sick and tired and you know how much work another baby will be...so of course you aren't jumping with joy at the thought.

Give it a bit of time and visit with your husband....I hope he is very supportive.

Big hugs!!

Being sick, tired, caring for a baby and 3 other kids ... and this wasn't planned, apprehension and not being overjoyed would be pretty typical I would think.

Constipation - you can help. Fiber, water and walking. That alone will make you feel irritable and cranky, not to mention sluggish.

Sickness - your doctor should be able to help you with that.

Hormonal - of course.

Indifference though - or a feeling of nothingness - could be a sign of depression. So I'd mention it to my doctor if I were you. They can help with that too.

find out from your ob what you can do to relieve the consitpation and the all day sick feeling. and then you might be able to enjoy things better

Since it's such a shock and new I wouldn't expect you to feel very excited about it. I'd be plenty mad at myself for....well, I took birth control and it worked. My daughter took birth control and it didn't work. She has 7 kids then got her tubes tied. So I can't assume you were or were not on birth control when you got pregnant...just saying since it's a shock that you must have been taking precautions.

So you have this news and it's not the worst news you could ever have but it's not news you are happy about.

I do think as your little one gets a bit older and you start to miss them being a baby, they'll be a toddler in a few months, then you might start to miss having a baby in the house. So then you'll look at this pregnancy differently.

I'm so sorry it happened like this though. It's hard to have an unplanned pregnancy happen even in the best homes and relationships. It will be okay and work out eventually. Just take a breath and let yourself feel sad that you are pregnant and didn't really want to be. There will be time later on for you to have that joy from this child.