Is there a little device in our kids that we dont know about? I call it mommy-dar because its like there's a little radar that lets them know that Im not where Im supposed to be in the house. for example my husband will come home from work in the morning between 6-7 and he can be as loud as he wants and the kids dont notice it and stay asleep. If I get up a tad early go downstairs and I hear MOMMY WHERE ARE YOU. Or if they are playing upstairs and i am in the downstairs bathroom 90% of the time they will come down and I hear MOMMY WHERE ARE YOU. If I wake up they wake up, but daddy can be awake and they sleep.
With mine it's the telephone. I really don't spend much time on the phone, but it seems like whenever I want to have a conversation, all of the sudden they need my attention.
Mine! I've timed it. It takes 15 seconds for at least one kid to notice I've gone upstairs, no matter how quiet I am. Go to the bathroom, I have a child parked outside the door (and my kids are five and eight!). Sigh ...
Mine have it too! It's ridiculous! My husband gets up anywhere between 4:45 & 5:30 most mornings & goes about his business getting ready for work, not being super loud but not really being quiet either - all is well & they sleep through every bit of it. If I get up with him it's usually no more than 15 minutes before the youngest starts to stir :-(
Ughhh...what is it about the bathroom too? What do they think we do in there, build rocket ships? Mine seem to think I've got something really cool going on every time I go to the bathroom 'cause they think they need to be in there with me.
I suppose one day I'll wish they still wanted to be with me all the time but sometimes now I just want 5 minutes to go pee ALONE!!
haha, yep!
In addition, our kids seem to have developed "Nookie-dar." Sigh! Every time we've gone for it the past few months we've been interrupted by the kids in one way or another. Double sigh :-) I told my husband that I'm going to switch my primary care provider to him so that I can make an appt and sneak in a 15 min appointment at his office while our kids are with the sitter ;-)
Well my grandson must have grandma dar then. I can't move without him waking up. :)
It's like how I can sleep through DH's alarm but if I hear DD fuss at all, I'm awake. I think they tune into you, especially if you are the primary caregiver. DH says he used to be like me when his older kids were small. He's had to untrain himself from waking when DD cries because he knows I'll take care of her.
mine has it, but only when i decide to make a phone call....lol! i can get up, walk out of the room, clean the kitchen, do laundry, read a book, get on the internet, but the minute i pick up my phone, "BAM!"
Mommy...mommy...mommy...mommy...
it's like stewie from family guy...lol!
hi,
Oh .Gosh .mine have it too.And the bathroom issue ,I totally understand believe me.If i lock ,they just bang on the door and whine and cry .....if i don't there our in there with me but may be the oldest(8) (she is finally starting to understand some things about privacy since about 7 years old).
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Oh yeah! I could be sitting there w/the little one or the whole family.
The minute I go to the bathroom......Bam....Done.....he's in there.
If I'm showering, he definitely has to see me, be with me, speak to me.
If I am, God forbid, going to the bathroom, it's free game .
"Really because dear child, when you have to poo, you tell me to get away and leave you alone." Really?
Time alone in the bathroom? Priceless! ;)
Great question...I'm glad to know I'm not the only one..lol! I can't do anything without my kids right there with me. If I'm sitting watching TV (which isn't often) they're fine but if I have to go to the bathroom / shower, they're right there with me..But if my SO gets up to do anything, they could care less. My son (7yrs old) is the worst..I can't make it 1/2 way up the steps without him right behind me.
Mine.
I remember BEING a kid doing this, however. It really IS (or at least was for me) a HEARING function. (As in radar/sonar not being that far off the mark!)
It was the sound of the footsteps and the breathing pattern. If it was dad? No-joy. Go back to sleep. He'd make toast. If it was mom? UP!!! If it was my grandparents? RACE to their room before they'd done more than swung their legs over the side of the bed.
LOL I remember those days... actually they still come looking for me. Call me a nut but I have always believed it was like a telepathic connection somehow to know when mom was awake and where she was in the house! lol
Enjoy it, it won't last forever. YOU ARE MOMMY. Children are directly linked to us, not to dad, to Mother. Nature designed it this way, it's innate. But I do know it can get to be a bit much sometimes. They do it with Grandmas too.
I could be in the same area of the house with my daughter for an hour and she won't seem to care, but the minute I step into the bathroom, or upstairs, it's MOMMY WHERE ARE YOU?
The other day I went to go take a shower while Dad was downstairs - I told DD that I was going to be in the shower and if she needed something, ask Daddy. Twice she came to the bathroom and was yelling outside the shower door for me to help with something, while Dad sat downstairs and never even noticed that she was upstairs or yelling for me! I think they just are so used to us being more responsive and jumping up at moment's notice that they already know to bug us before bugging Dad!
She also thinks she should "keep me company" while I'm in the bathroom - as do the dogs.
