My SIL found out she was pregnant right before Thanksgiving. When my husband and our family came in for the holidays we brought a gift for her telling her Congrats. It was a Chalk Board Piggy Bank (a piggy bank that was painted in chalk board stuff... not gender specific) and we wrote Girl in Pink chalk on one side and Boy in Blue on the other and wrote Congrats on top of piggy. We thought it was adorable. Well, SIL opened it and didn't really give much of a reaction to it (which was no biggy) but she set it on the floor off to the side and my other BIL (her brother) was drunk and came stumbling in and fell on the piggy bank and broke it. He felt bad and did apologize and the SIL said it was no big deal and threw the piggy bank away. With her original reactions (not showing too much excitement about it) and the act of throwing it away (it could have been super glued but I guess that is a personal decision if you wanted a cracked piggy) and not mentioning anything about it since then we all forgot about the piggy.
Well today she had her ultra sound and found out she is having a girl. She wanted to treat herself and buy something for the baby so she went shopping. She was at the store where we had purchased the piggy bank and she found it and called me to tell me she found it and was purchasing it. I kind of got the feeling like she was asking for me to offer $ to repurchase the gift but nothing really came to it and she ended the conversation saying she was purchasing it b/c she wanted it for her baby since it was her "first gift".
It kind of got me thinking - should I have offered to pay for a replacement? I guess if she had showed a more excited reaction about the gift I would have run out that day and had it replaced but b/c she kind of just pushed it off to the side I figured it was no big deal. The BIL who broke it wouldn't pay for it b/c he is just that type of guy - but like I said not sure if we should offer to pay for it? It was only $10.
What do you think? Should we offer to send her $10 for the replacement?
Nope. It was "hers" the second she unwrapped it. She didn't put a breakable item in a safe spot.
Personally, I think she was just trying to let you know that she was replacing the O. you got her.
No, she was just sharing the news with you and letting you know that she did appreciate and like the present you had bought her. I doubt she was giving hints for you to send her 10 bucks. :-)
Nah... not at all. I'm with the others, I would have called just to let you know I'd replaced it. Not asking for guilt gelt.
Personally I think she just wanted you to know it DID mean something to her.
Unless she specifically ASKED (and wouldn't that be weird) for money, I wouldn't send it to her, and I would feel nice that she cared about my feelings maybe having been hurt about the breaking of the first bank.
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I say send her the $10 with a little note saying you wanted to make the first payment to the piggie. She is your Sister-in-law and her baby will be your niece so what is $10.
Really, this should be no big deal in the grand scheme of life.
Sometimes people think I am having "no reaction" when I LOVE something. I get really quiet. I can't help it.
I don't know her so I can't say she was NOT implying anything, but maybe she just wanted you to know she was getting it? That she liked it and still considered it the "first" gift?
In my experience, when I talk - I mean what I say - and people who think I am implying something get all pissed off about what is inside THEIR heads. I am NOT saying you are doing this - I don't know you or her so I cannot possibly know. But IF it's a possibility, it's worth mulling over because if it's happening, getting a handle on it NOW will help you and SIL be friends in the future.
And no, you don't need to pay for it. Too bad about the drunken oaf. I am sure she's no fan of his either.
She didn't ask you to pay for it - she just told you she was buying it. If she wants it, she should pay for it, which is what she has done. Stop worrying about it.
No. You didn't break it! why should you pay for it again?!?!
She set it in the floor and the other BIL broke it. I think it was between the two of them to replace it but it would still be from you and your hubby since they were only replacing what you bought. Regardless of what her reaction was.
No, I wouldn't. It wasn't like you were the one who broke it. Whether he will do it or not, it is the responsibility of the person who broke it to replace it. It's her choice to not ask him. You shouldn't feel guilty for not replacing it.
No, you shouldn't have to replace it BUT if it's going to weigh on you, it's only 10.00~
no. you bought it. someone broke it. she threw it away. no real excitement about it. you have done your part.
Since its only $10 and it seems to mean a little more to her now, you could. Just to give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe after the initial finding out she was pregnant she was a little overwhelmed and this is the reason she didn't seem more excited right off. Its pretty thoughtful of you to even consider it and she's lucky to have you guys!
No, I don't think you should have offered to pay for a new one - you aren't the one who placed it in an area where some drunk could stumble on it and break it - she did.
No -you don't need to pay for it.
No - how petty on her part!
I think she was trying to show some appreciation for the gift (genuine or not) so you may feel more inclined to be generous again.
No, she is rude and should have had a better response when she opened it and shouldn't have thrown it aside when the drunk BIL broke it! Not your problem.
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Brother in law should pay-not you.
Leave that one go and get her a nice gift for the baby when she arrives.
Or if you're like me you will go and start buying all sorts of stuff for her and inundate her with pink stuff.
I tend to not think of price when it comes to family. If something jumps off the shelf and says BIL I just get it
Maybe you can gift her some money to put in her piggy bank.
No don't pay her-just let it be. She should have made a bigger deal when she received it -sounds like she was kind of rude in her response. And actually-the guy that broke it should buy her a new one.
No, Drunk clumsy Brother inlaw should have.
Absolutely not! The way she handled the whole thing was tacky and you are not obligated to pay for the 2nd piggy bank.
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