When Should I Worry About It Taking Too Long to Be Pregnant with #2? - Sierra Madre,CA

About stress...

Stress burns through your vitamin B reserves. If you are deficient on vitamin B's generally your body won't even conceive. The following is a personal inventory you can do to see if vitamin B is the cause or not.

First thing to do is look at your nutrition. How much fiber do you consume? Vitamin B is located in the fiber of foods. Like vitamin C needing bioflavonoids to be best absorbed, vitamin B needs fiber. If you are getting enough vitamin B and fiber then the next thing to look at is how you perceive people. If you frequently see people as enemies, then you are going to be pilfering your vitamin B reserves to keep up with that perspective. The solution is maintaining an internal standard of always seeing others as people, assets and esteeming them as such. There is a book called The Anatomy of Peace by The Arbinger Institute that is genius in transforming our inner perspectives of others. The last thing is to check how your sleep is. Do you get to bed pretty early?

I found it amazing that our liver's job is that of nutritional accountant for our body. It can hold up to a year's supply of vitamins in it and if there are deficiencies, to save our life, it will protect us from trying to build another person (baby) on empty because doing that will threaten not only the baby's life, but our own too.

If everything I mentioned is on track then you might want to look into other reasons for this hold up to baby number 2.

I think you have a great attitude. Whenever I am trying to get pregnant (done it 3 times), I turn into a crazy person. I understand your concerns. From what I've read, you aren't technically having infertility issues until you have been trying for a year. However, I was never willing to wait that long to figure out if we had a problem or not. After getting pregnant without a problem (using the charting method from FAM - Fertility Awareness Method) with my first baby, I was inexplicably worried about conceiving the second time. I had heard that secondary infertility was common. After trying for 2 months, I started charting my cycle again and we were pregnant the next month! I realized that I always worry about everything, even though I have no history to be concerned about. With my 3rd pregnancy, we didn't use any birth control at all and were pregnant again 9 months later (without charting).

You sound much more relaxed and logical than I have ever managed to be about it. I do understand your surprise that it has taken you this long to conceive, even though you're going about it in a relaxed fashion. I don't think it is time to panic, but I think you should think about what approach you want to take. If you want to just let nature take its course, I think you could give it a couple more months. If you want to figure out what is going on, I strongly suggest charting. I read Toni Weschler's Taking Charge of Your Fertility, which is a easy-to-read, easy-to understand roadmap of your reproductive body. As I mentioned, out of my 3 pregnancies, I used the charting method twice. I got pregnant the first month I charted both with #1 and #2.

Good luck to you, and I hope you get pregnant soon! If you want more info about my experiences with charting or anything else, let me know!

K.
I did this same dance and it took me awhile to decide on number two about the same timing as you. I did have a miscarriage in between but I always checked my ovulation-the best thing I ever did t relax was accupuncture! I got pregnant right away and I did it to relax because the pressure of trying was getting to me
Best to you and your family!
B.

Hi K., How long did it take you to get pregnant the first time? I know my son and y daughter in law have been trying for 2 years and no baby yet, my son got checked out and everything is fine with him, I don't know if she has yet,I don't don't what your view on God is, but everything happens in his time not ours. For peace of mind you and your husband can get checked out, to be sure, thats why my son did, for peace of mind for him. Stress can be a factor with alot concerning us women, and believe it or not you can e stressed even happy ant home relaxing with your family,It will happen if it is meant to be, you didn't mention your age,age can be a factor depending ton the age. I pray it all works out for you, let me know when it does happen. J.