What Call the Actions of My MIL? Hmmmm....

MONSTER IN LAW!!!
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Have you seen the movie Monster in law with jennifer lopez?
Describes her to the letter!

Well I normally don't have a potty mouth so my suggestion is 2 words, first word starts with an F and ends in ing. Second word starts with a B and ends in itch.

My suggestions would be censored... :)

I'm pretty sure passive aggressive is a requirement for all mother in laws.

"She's inconsistent, narcissistic and rather unhappy."

I have to agree with NY Metro Mom.... does sound like mental health issues. Sounds like my mom, only the "lite" version. My mother *does* have undiagnosed Borderline Personality disorder as well as Narcissistcic Personality disorder (my therapist took this stab at it, after she and I had been working together for years.... )

All that to say, make good boundaries and *don't* take it personally. I know it's hard, but it's really all about her, isn't it? She's not living in your reality (or perhaps any of ours!).

Oh, and when I asked my therapist how I could describe my mother, her friendly suggestion was "A1 Whack Job", so there you go!

Sadly, my 16 year old daughter named her the "Un-Grandma" when she was about 9 (all on her own) and we haven't seen her in years. She truly was toxic in our lives, since before I ever met my hubby I guess (well over 20 years ago). Our lives are calmer without her.

I do have another MIL (hubby's Step Mom), who is mostly tolerable and we have a good relationship. She is the only Mom I have now (my Beloved Mother died suddenly 3 years ago), so I do all I can to make it work and be peaceful!

Nothing, she's not worth the energy...

What do you call someone like that? Faye K*****y, my ex MIL! She even excluded her son from things in order to exclude me!

I do like Monster in Law though

EDIT: Back then, I and another sis in law that was married to FK's other son, called ourselves the Outlaws (as opposed to in laws) as we were always excluded

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Did not read any of your answers but I say TOXIC like mine :) L.

She who must not be named.

while finding fun things to call your MIL may help make you feel better now you will definitely have to deal with this for a while. Is there anyone else in the family who you know feels the same way or knows what she is doing to you? I would say while she is pure evil and probably jealous of you in some way- I would find someone else that is always included in family emails etc and confide in them to make sure that they let you know what is going on for important events etc...

I have been blessed with a great MIL but I have friends in your same situation and I can't even imagine how you deal with that day in and day out! Hopefully your hubby is supportive or at least understanding of the situation and doesn't mind when you blow off steam by calling her.... well... whatever it is that you deem necessary at the time!!

Good luck!

Been there and still doing that! I have many names for her. I never felt like I was apart of my husbands family. I always felt like the homeless girl looking in the window. Lately she has been really kissing my butt. Trying to help. But she has Alzheimers and has forgotten just how bad she treated me. She always thought of my sil as the best thing. Now she is having some problems with her and now is trying to be nice to me. It doesn't work that way cause I have 15 years of her treating me like garbage.
I don't think that there is an "appropriate" name that can describe a MIL like that! But I would def say MONSTER IN LAW!

i don't understand why you need to call her names. i can't say i agree tit for tat!!!

Narcisstic, mentally ill

I'd call her someone who struggles with mental health issues. If she is like this I don't think you're her only target - I'd bet she's like this with lots of people. Do not take it personally and do whatever you can to avoid her. People who know her will know she's nuts, and not to take anything she says as true. Do not allow yourself to get sucked into this situation.

There are so many people out there who are mentally ill but walk this fine line and appear to be handling life. They just make the people around them completely crazy.

Best of luck!

we have code names...my hub and i. one weekend after a very stressfull week of dealing with my mil...my 5 year old son went down to talk to popa. he told him that i was absolutely fed up with ''them''.....now yes this is how the convo went but no i didnt need him to inform popa. so i called to say sorry and made up a lie (forgive me father). which i then discussed with my son because he was so confused. once wwe had our talk he was ok. i told him i was wrong and sorry for lying to gma, he told me he understood though. ever since then...its all in code. I never want to go through that again.

libby

it rhymes with itch add a w or b.