My daughter is very in tune with her surroundings as well and "sensitive" to vibes and is real routine oriented too with certain things. Its just her. My daughter's mind is also very active, even in sleep. She talks in her sleep at times, even from when very young.
BUT... I see my daughter's personality and disposition as being GOOD... because it has made her MORE emotionally articulate than most kids her age... and she can really gauge situations well and she can "read" people very well. I am glad she is like this.
But, my daughter did not have out of the ordinary getting scared of everything kind of issues. Just the normal developmental "fears" that arises due to age and development. So.. you need to also know that at certain ages, a child just naturally gets "scared" of some things, and their imagination is developing, too.
Also, some kids are just more routine oriented than others. Just like adults.
And kids at a certain age of development, also go through stages of "organizing" things and putting them in order. Let her do that. Its good development she is showing. And smart!
If she gets scared of a speck of lint.... just "explain" it to her... pick it up, tell her its just lint, and its harmless and hold it for her to see, then say "see, its just a ball of lint..." etc. Then throw it away or put it on the side. Don't react like everything she is scared of is "bad." Just matter of fact. Just teaching her names of objects and what they do or not etc.
And yes, they start to "dream" too, at about this age. Or they have "night terrors" which is also developmental based. Normal... so just comfort her.
So, it is either a "problem" or not. And your child is at an age where they do get "scared" of things/events, even getting scared of the mall Santa at Christmas time. Its normal.
It is part personality and partly just normal development of a child. To a certain extent you can't change them... but you can as they grow up, teach them coping skills, or just teaching your child about what things are... and concepts, which they will learn when older. ie: good/bad etc. AND about their feelings/emotions. Which you as a parent teach her.
Its all about child development. AND how you as Mom, react to her and these things. If you react like it is a "bad" thing... then the child will have a harder time coping with it... or it will not nurture the good ability about it. If you "fear" this trait in her... it will give her hang-ups. If she is shy because of it, so what. My daughter was/is shy too... because she is sensitive to her surroundings and vibes. Its fine. No biggie. Being shy or sensitive is not a "bad" thing. I nurtured my daughter's traits.. and her sensitivity...because it made her a "wiser" child and more aware of social relationships, and just so many good things. And her cognitive and emotional development is very astute.
SURE acknowledge her fears. A child NEEDS "validation." You are NOT making it worse by doing that... in fact, it will teach them confidence and to have their OWN ideas about things and their own thoughts, and that Mommy UNDERSTANDS them... and they are not "weird" or petty. A child NEEDS for their parent to understand them and acknowledge their "fears." It is healthy.... .and fosters closeness and empathy in a child and parent.
I think, your child is fine. Normal. Kids go throughout life having "fears" of things. You can't extinguish that. It is part of their growth and understanding the world.
I see my daughter's sensitivity as a STRENGTH... and as she has grown up, she KNOWS herself VERY well. More so than other kids her age. I am glad for that. She is not a "follower" nor does she give in to peer pressure. She is herself. My daughter is now 7... and she is still sensory sensitive although she has outgrown a lot of it... but she has "matured" and can navigate herself quite well and she is very confident and has natural empathy. So that is a good thing. It has in NO way "handicapped" her.
All the best,
Susan