Vasectomy - Antelope,CA

Sorry. I insisted that my husband have a vasectomy for all of the right reasons (same ones as you have). He simply refused. He didn't WANT to have a vasectomy. Brother. Men are such babies sometimes! What can you do? I am glad they have other good qualities.

let me put it this way my youngest is 9 and it still hasn't happened- we agreed that if i ever had to have a c-section I would have my tubes tied, if not he would have a vasectomy and it still hasn't happened. The worst part is that almost all my friends husbands have done it with no ill effects and he still won't. WIMP!!

my husband was reluctant too.....took him three years, but he finally went in and it was no big deal, he just had to rest for how ever long they tell you.
P.

I told my husband that I was going to go off birth control, because it has always made me crazy, and chubby, and my skin breaks out... and why should I have to put up with that just not to have more kids when there is an easy alternative that HE can do? Well, after my announcement that I was going off birth control, he kind of freaked out: "But we don't want any more kids!" And I told him, no, WE don't. But it's not MY sole responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen! So if he didn't want more kids, he'd better figure out a way to prevent them. Condoms, vasectomy, whatever. Otherwise I was going to become the new Michelle Duggar and have a kid a year until I was no longer able. So... he went and made an appointment at the urologist. He whined and complained and looked up YouTube videos of the procedure and in general just totally freaked himself out. Whatever, after delivering 2 babies, including a charming episiotomy, I felt no sympathy.

So he went and had the procedure and his, ah, "family jewels" swelled up to the size of a grapefruit, no joke! I guess his procedure was more difficult than most and he is somewhat resistant to local anesthesia. Anyhow, I told him to take Tylenol and be glad he didn't have to nurse a baby ever 3 hours on top of it all. LOL

My husband had a vasectomy. He read a book during the procedure that took less than 30 min for him to take a valium and get snipped and be done with it. He stayed in bed all weekend (as per the doctors orders) but he said it didn't hurt at all. He said it felt like a weird little pressure on his balls and that was it. He followed the doctors orders to a tee and was perfectly fine. He did not have any swelling and the little incision was so small...like the tip of a pen seriously. He even stopped taking the pain pills after the first day. It's MUCH less invasive than you getting your tubes tied and the recovery is insanely quick. Seriously if the doctor had not ordered him to stay in bed...he said he felt perfectly fine an hour after surgery to get up and move around.

So tell your husband it's seriously NO big deal. If anything he can take advantage of being waited on by you for the weekend. Have him do it on a Fri and he'll be back at work no problem on a Monday.

Now my husband and I did change our minds years later and he's now since had a reversal. The reversal was worse than the vasectomy...but it still was no where near that bad. It took about 2 weeks and his balls were swollen and black and blue...but again...my husband has no issue still with possibly going back for another vasectomy in a few years. Sooooo that said if my husband is perfectly fine getting a vasectomy, a reversal, and possibly another vasectomy in the future...your husband can go do it. Luckily for me---my husband had the same mindset as I have...I gave birth with no meds...the least he could do is get a vasectomy. Good luck! :)

Well coincidentally just today I talked with my husband about having a third child, he said he is done having kids and there is no chance he will change his mind. After trying to hide my hurt and holding back tears I told him: well then , are you getting a vasectomy done? and he said: absolutely not, why don't you get your tubes tied...
In my mind I was like ummm excuse me but you are the one who doesn't want any more kids EVER, I'm crazy about having another why should I sterilize myself??? that's crazy, I will never get my tubes tied I rather use an IUD,
anyways but just to let you know that you're not alone, even my husband who doesn't want anymore kids won't get a vasectomy! men and his private parts...ugh
did you explain to him that in no way this alters his performance?

You are absolutely correct about the in/out time. He may be a little sore after the procedure so make sure you have some ice on the menu, so to speak.
The Physician may give him some pain pills as well. Within 1-2 days he'll be fit as a fiddle. I'm saying ice because of any swelling and it does come in handy. It does really provide relief. Now if it were you, you would be in pain for at least a wk. It takes the tummy longer to heal and even though its a small cut, it hurts the worst.
Tell hubby you love him and thank him for what he is doing for you. That should get him. lol Good luck!!

My husband actually responded to a question like this last fall, but I can't find his answer. I wish I could track it down for you. I will try, because it is both hysterical and very convincing.

The basic answer is do it because you will have more sex.

Seriously, it did not affect his 'performance' in any way, and in fact made it so we have more sex. We never think about birth control and we never worry about getting pregnant. Think about that for a moment. Think about how much effort and time goes into not getting pregnant. Think about how many times you have not had sex because of the effort of getting the birth control was just incentive enough to roll over and go to sleep instead. Think about how much better sex is without condoms. Think about how much better your mood is when you are not on hormones. My husband thinks every boy should get a vasectomy at 16 and get it reversed when they decide to have children. He thinks it is one of the best decisions he has made.

The procedure took 45 minutes and he sat on the couch for 1/2 a day with a bag of frozen peas and that was about it. Seriously, I've had yeast infections that caused more discomfort. The worst part about the whole procedure is that they have to shave for it, and the growing in part is not comfortable...for the wife I mean. That was not fun.

You can also tell him that after he has the procedure, he has to do it 23 times before he is 'clear'. There is a lot of incentive right there!

Good luck.

J.

First, let me say that it's the best thing we ever did. 16 years of worry-free sex can't be beat!

Second, the way it happened was I was washing out my diaphragm one day and mentioned "honey, I think I may have found a little hole in my diaphragm." He was on the phone the next day to make the appointment. As for the ease and recuperation time, well, he had it done on a Thursday, I think, and was looking forward to at least getting a weekend of pampering, but as I was putting our 5 month old daughter in her high chair I threw out my back and couldn't MOVE for 24 hours, and then was only able to crawl to bed for the rest of the weekend, so so much for that! He was fine!

Find a friend whose hubby has 'taken the cut' as the guys like to say, and have him talk to her hubby. 'DUDE! NO MORE BIRTH CONTROL! It's awesome! Sex whenever you want it! It's a piece of cake!'

He'll love the results.

good luck!

At this point it would make more sense for him to get this outpatient procedure done than to have you go in and get cut open to have your tubes tied. It will take him way less time to heal and it's way faster. Tell him to quit being a baby...haha!

My husband had a vasectomy. It was his idea, but he was nervous.
Pretty short recovery. I think I remember him lying on the couch with an ice pack for a few days.
It's a tender area for men, obviously, and I think they feel very vulnerable about it.
I think it is like the way some women feel like they "aren't women anymore" if they have a hysterectomy, or a double mastectomy.

My hubby hasn't gotten one - our youngest child is 8 years old. I finally went and got a 5 year IUD so we don't have to think about condoms or other methods anymore. At the end of 5 years, I'll be 48, I can decide whether to get another and be done or do something else. It works for us.

Yes, mine was sqeemish, but gave in. Don't call it getting "snipped" that about send the wussy into a tail spin. Like an epsiseotomy was a breeze? Tell him to man up, it is not that big a deal, and he gets ice cream.

M.

My husband was just fine. The worst part was having a doc mess around down there, but we probably feel about the same going to the GYN.... He had numbing shots during (didn't feel a thing), and a prescription for pain meds, which he never filled out. He didn't even take OVC pain meds (i.e. tylonal motrin etc.) He DID have the kids not jump on him. He was a little sore. But he helped me with house work (as usual, he is a very very good hubby! :) ) and outside chores because I could not get the man to stay sitting down to relax!!!! Then he went back to work 3 days later (he works 12 hour shifts and is on his feet a lot). SOOOOoooo tell your man that it isn't nearly as bad as an invasive surgery done on YOU that will have you in the hospital overnight (I think that is what it is, I obviously don't have my tubes tied). BY the way, it was HIS idea to get teh vasectomy b/c he didn't want me to go through the pain... He is sooo sweet!

p.s. at the time though, I was super mad at him b/c I wanted more kids, our youngest was just a few months old and all. But now, I am glad to be done. Our family is complete and I am totally at peace thanks to our wonderful Creator!

I was lucky in that my husband knew that it was much easier for him to go through the procedure than me and while he certainly wasn't excited about going in for the procedure he knew it was the logical thing to do.

My husband is a HUGE baby about any type of illness or injury. As I type this he is in bed (hasn't been out all day long) with a cold! The same one that I had last week. He will whine and stretch anything like this out to get all the attention he can. With every illness he thinks he's dying!! Even my husband, the big baby, got through the procedure and recover with very little complaining. He was in bed for a day or two afterwards watching sports and enjoying his rest. If he can get through it without thinking his world has come to an end, then it can't be that bad!

Good luck,
K.

Tell him to man up or he can give birth to the next one.

*No offense, but as a nurse who doesn't sugar coat anything, that's pretty much how I told my husband 13-14 years ago!
It is an easy procedure for a man, can be done just in a doctor's office but requires at least an outpatient hospitalization for a woman.
My husband really has no sympathy for men who whine about it either, since as one of the other posters said, he found it not too bad. WHEN he gets it done, try to maybe send the kids away to grandmas for the night or weekend, rent movies and get several bags of peas.

*In all honesty, I did tell my doc that if for any reason I would have to have a c-section with our last one to go ahead and tie my tubes. But she was such an easy labor and delivery that didn't happen. So then it was up to DH.

Good Luck

My husband drove himself to his procedure appt, was there about 90 minutes and drove himself home. Piece of cake. Not to say there wasn't some discomfort for a day or two, but such as simple procedure compared to a woman having a tuba ligation....

Find a friend that has already done it and ask him to talk to your husband. Men get all sorts of crazy ideas in their heads. You might tell him my Grandfather had one about 70 years ago after 8 children with no problems. Certainly they have improved since then!

My husband said it was easier than having his teeth cleaned. When they wheeled him out, him and another guy high fived each other. Me and the other wife, just rolled our eyes! To be honest I was kinda pissed off it wasn't more painful after all I went through?!
My husband was on the couch for a few days with some frozen peas. He never even took pain meds, but I suppose he could have. He did go back to work a few days later and that day he did say he was more sore than he thought he would be, but he just pushed it too hard and by the next day it was even better! After about a week or so he was fine and we were even having relations again!
He goes around telling any guy he meets how easy it was and how if they are done having kids, just go do it!
So tell your hubby to relax, it isn't that bad at all. And if he truly doesn't want more then I guess he needs to buck up and go! :)

Tell him he needs to read this...BE A MAN!!!! Get it done, you go into the office, takes all of 15 min start to finish, go home put a bag of frozen peas on the boys for a day or two and you're done. For the wife to do it requires her to go in for outpt., recovery time is twice as long and he'll have to take care of the kids for this time because you won't be able to lift them.

I'm sorry, but I have absolutely no patience for men who act like this. My husband is an absolute "sissy" when it comes to going to the doc, but he had no problems going and doing this because he knew it was the right thing to do. BE A MAN!!!!

Make a consultation with the doctor and bring all your questions (both of you should be there). It seems like that would be the best way for your husband to know what to expect.

My husband was reluctant to get a vasectomy, but after the birth of our second child I thought two children were enough. Needless to say he didn't make an appointment and wasn't eager to do so, then I was pregnant with our third. "I" made him an appointment and he went in for the procedure or he was going to be very lonely. Well, the appointment was quick and easy, slight discomfort and no problems after the procedure. Of course, no more worries about birth control and enjoying each other without the oops factor made sex a lot more fun and spontaneous! Good Luck!

I think this is quite common........at least for our home it is :o) My hubby still hasn't had his vasectomy, but he knows he will have.......now we'r ein the phase of "when he's ready" :O) We've been in this phase for about 1 yr LOL :o)

He knows that it will be easier for all of us, including the kids, if he is the one to get "fixed"........if I do it, then the recovery will take much longer and his work won't allow him to "pick up the slack" to help me with the kids as much as I will need him.

For him, it's about 1-2 weeks of not over-excerting himself during recovery, but he won't be bedridden or anything........

The shots are what he will feel......after that, according to my BIL's, it's all about "pulling and tugging" but you dont feel anything really........

He'll eventually "see the light" and go get one :O) Keep mentioning it, until he comes around

~N. :o)

HA HA HA, okay so.... my husband actually said he was okay with being the one to do it, a) in case we won the lottery and I wanted more, it was easier to fix his procedure and b) I had just had a c-section for our second 9.5 pound child.
Yes it is in and out procedure. Took maybe 1 hour the whole thing. However, you have never seen a BIGGER baby because of two SUPER SMALL incisions in your LIFE. He became paralyzed and was unable to do anything for himself. Seriously I laughed so loud at him after he was "able" to walk again (mind you, he could walk up and down stairs, get to teh couch, etc, it was just anything extra, like you know dishes, laundry, picking up kids, changing diapers that he wasn't able to to), because I have a 5 inch incision that took almost 3 weeks to start to heal.....and I got NO special treatment. He's a wimp.
It's an easy procedure, but rather than inpregnating you with a child, it turns them into a child for about a week. :)

good luck
K.