Any feedback good or bad?
If you are POSITIVE that you want no more children then it is a great idea. If there is a possiblity that you may want more down the road then don't do it. My sisters brother in law had it done and there were complications. His is now nonreversible. Him and his wife have decided they now want children and are having to do invetro. Good luck, A.
well the questions or factors that you need to take into consideration are your ages, whether you want more children or not, and do u already have kids? Vasectomies are irreversible, and once they are done, its done. There are no more chances for children for your husband. i would consider other options first if it were me, like a IUD, or the depo shot, or even norplant.
All I can say is, make sure he listens to what the doctor says and make sure he goes to the rechecks. I know three people whose husbands wouldn't go to the re check up and needless to say, they all had another child.
My husband and I have the same idea, and he's getting one in january. we know that we dont want any more kids (we have two boys. one is 22 months, and one is 4 months) so that's the best option. just be entirely sure you dont want anymore kids before he does it. it's reversible, but doesnt always work. my husband basically volunteered to get it.
Hi L.,
I think that is a decision that needs to be made with a lot of thought and consideration to make sure that is truly what both of you want. Personally, my husband had a vasectomy when our daughter (2nd child) was 10 days old. We were very sure that we did not want more children and it really was my husbands decision. He wanted it, and I told him that whatever he wanted I would support 100%. It ended up that a few months later I had to have a surgery the left me sterile too. So either way we would have ended up not being able to have children. But again, it is a decision that should not be made lightly, because it can't be reversed at least not easily or with perfect results. Good luck in this decision.
I married a man who had three children, I had one. We are raising all four. We decided to have one together as well. After the birth, we used vasectomy as BC. Now that our baby is a toddler and our family is so happy and whole...I want another one to round our family out. My advice to you, make sure that you are done growing your family. It is easier for the man to have a procedure than the woman. However, both are not easy to reverse and can be costly. The VC does work well, no messy methods or additional hormones. Make sure you talk to his doctor about the various VC methods (crushing, cutting, etc) and their effects. Good luck!
I would seriously look into an IUD for you, the woman. You can get one that is good for 5 yrs or 10. My doctor's prefer the 5 yr, which is fine for me. It goes in the uterus and you don't feel it or anything(he doesn't either) and gives off a low dose of hormones. The best part is that you can get it removed and still have a child fairly quickly. My husband and I talked about a vasectomy(I have only heard good news about them and that they DON'T hurt that much) b/c we now have 2 children(g,4 & b,3 months) and that is all we really want. I just didn't want to do something so irreversible when we are still so young. I just turned 26. I don't know how I will feel in 4 yrs or so. I am in school going to become a RN and once I get done and get a career I may want another child. This way you can have a child and still not worry about pregnancy now. I love it! I just got mine in Oct, but the dr said you may not even have a period after 6 months or so. That is a bonus! Good luck on your decision!!
My husband had a vasectomy, went for all the re-checks and was sterile at all the re-checks and a year and a half later, I got pregnant with our son (who is now 10). For some reason, it grew back after a year and a half. The doctor said he had no idea how it did, but it did. Needless to say, he had it done again after that. ( I think it was a little of God's work that made our son, because 3 years later, my husband was killed in an accident....my husband was so excited to have a son, even though we hadn't planned on having any more kids)...make sure if he does get it done that he rests after just as the doctor orders, because a friend of mine had one and didn't follow the instructions and worked alot the next day and swelled up really bad and was in alot of pain for days from it. Good Luck.
My husband got his after our 5th child was born, we had talked about it years earlier but decided to wait. We are glad we did both! The surgery didn't last long and my husband was sore for a few days, but he says it was a much better choice than me having surgery... cheaper too. You should know that in rare cases the surgery can reverse, I'm not sure what the time frame is for that, but we have been fine for 4 years now. Hope this helps.
WebMD with AOL Health - Vasectomies Don't Always Prevent Pregnancy
Before you and your husband go to the expense and pain of this procedure take a look at this site. T.
My husband had one, but only because we are not having anymore babies. Our doctor said it is not easy to reverse. We are very happy we did it. But consider it permanent. Be sure you are done having children. My husband said there was only slight discomfort afterwards. We even went out to dinner that night. Good Luck.
A vasectomy is a great way to go. My husband had a vasectomy 5 years ago after I fourth child. He went in through outpatient and was done in about 30 minutes. The next day, he was out playing ball. Plus, it is easier to reverse a vasectomy if you ever decide to have anymore children.
After the birth of our first child my husband and I had some very long talks about how many children we wanted and how we wanted to space them. I wanted 6 originally and he had said he only wanted one. Well he decided after the first that he wanted to have more then one but he felt 6 was too much...so we compromised and decided after much debate to have 4. After the birth of our 4th child I had scheduled to have my tubes tied but he knew how nervous I was about the procedure...It's major surgery and painful for women...so on the way to the hospital to have the 4th child he told me that he decided to have his tubes tied as I had gone through labor and delivery 4 times and it was something he could do for me. All through labor and delivery we discussed the options with the nursing staff and my mother...lololol...who all agreed that it would be less evasive and less painful for him to have it done than me.
He made the appointment with the doctor and after the doctor had explained everything we made the second appointment.
He went in, had the procedure done, drove himself home with an icepack on his groin, stayed on the couch the day of the procedure...I made him stay home the next day...but by the 2nd day of recovery I couldn't hold him back and he went jogging 5 miles!!!! I would have still been on the couch with pain pills if I had the procedure done...women generally take 2 weeks to recover.
It's been 12 years and our 4 children are now teenagers and neither one of us regret the choices that we made. Sex is the same before and after except that now I don't have to be afraid of getting pregnate so it can be more spontaneous as we don't have to plan around the birth control. I never have to worry about missing a pill or dealing with condoms...do we have any or not.
we are very happy with the choice we made and I have counseled other couples about vasectomies and life afterward...in fact my best friend husband just had it done about 3 months ago and they seem happy with it too.
Each couple has to make this choice as it is very personal and unique for each person. What worked for us may or may not work as well for someone else. Talk with you doctor and find out all the facts. I can tell you that my husband is more of a man in my eyes for doing this because it is something he did for me out of love...I try to remember this when he's driving me nuts....lololol...no pun intended. Good Luck!!!
P.S. Because of the bodies amazing healing powers we were told that it could take up to 7 years to be offically sucessful. This is true for both men and women so the first year we were more careful and then after that we left it up to God.
Hi L., I have heard from a couple of different people that vasectomys aren't all that fool proof. I have heard that women have gotten pregnant after wards. I'm not sure though, like I said I've heard.. I don't know this for a fact, I would check into it.
my husband had a vasectomy when we were pregnant for our3rd child.....total time in the office was about an hour...that includes wait time..time to fill out all of the paper work and be given a pain killer before the procedure ...he was ok that night(although he did just rest a bit but that was more me telling him he should) but the next day he was fine and that monday after his normal weekend off he was back to work. he didnt have any problems at all. he did have a little bit of bruising but said it didnt hurt. good luck
Are you done having kids? How old are you? Could there be a change of mind about having kids? To have a vasectomy is very painful I have known many men who have gotten them. To think about only getting it for a few years in order to not have kids might not be the best way..There are alot of other birth controls out there..that have low sides and can make it just as easy to have a child once you have been off them. But whatever you do Good Luck
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V. S
Make sure you are far enough away from your last birth before you make that decision. My husband and I did it after our 3rd baby. It was exciting to know that we were on to a new phase in our life and the baby stage was over.
Great experience. I could not go in the room with him which bugged me a litte. He was fine, kept ice on it all the time and I spoiled him. :)
My husband had one this year after our second and final child. He had no problems whatsoever and actually didn't complain about discomfort at all really. He is a physician so it didn't freak him out at all. Much easier than the female tubes tied. He was back on his feet right away. I think they like to do it on a friday so you can take it easy on the weekend. Definitely worth the peace of mind.
Probably a good idea if you really don't want to have any more children. Better that he do it than you, because if you change your mind, it can be reversed!!!
Hi L.,
Have you two really thought this through completely? Do you have children now? I had my tubes tied for 7 yrs ago last year until I had them undone due to getting remarried and wanting a baby with my new husband. I have four children from a previous marriage and he has two from a previous relationship. It is very expensive to have a reversal done whether it is a tubal reversal or vasectomy reversal and insurance companies don't pay for reversals. We paid for it out of our pockets (6500.00). Just make sure this is the right thing to do before it is done. I am so glad I had my undone because I regretted to geeting my tied. Keep me informed.
P. Mackey
L.,
Well once again, I find myself warning about the permanancy of tubals and vacestomies. Just a few years ago I underwent a tubal reversal...and I know what my state of mind was when I had the tubal(three kids into it) and I know that my life situation changed and I in turn changed my mind about babies.
We have two friends who have within the past year and a half had vacectomies. Both said it was a relatively easy out paitent procedure (for both of them the wife got to stay in the room and watch!). Neither of them had any complications and recovery was easy. (had a few days where they felt like they had been kicked in the groin...very very hard and several times...)
Also, once again, I find myself being an advocate for the IUD. Non permanent, more effective than a tubal, no hassle, convientent birth control. I have had mine for about two years now and love it. Easy to get, easier to live with...virtually maintanence free BC.
Also based on what the other gals are saying, it doesn't sound like vasectomies are extremely reliable...
I just warn that tubals and vasectomies are permanent and not always able to be reversed if you change your mind later...
Good Luck!!!
