Update to Sensitive

I don't think you are being sensitive at all. You know that you are not in a healthy situtation, you said that yourself. I think that you need to try to cut all ties with this man. I understand that you are in love with him but you deserve so much better. It will be very hard but you are an incredibly strong woman and will be able to do it. If you need someone to talk to that has been through this (me) feel free to message me back and I will be more than happy to be shouler or if you need to vent.

{{HUGS}}
J.

I agree...it is soooo difficult to get out of a bad relationship...but you have taken the step to get there...just keep remembering all these things so you don't go back again...it's not where u need to be and you now realize that!...it will get easier...i promise...feel free to continue asking for support when u need it...that's what we are all here for...when u r in a bad situation no one but yourself can tell you to get out of it...but when you are out you need everyone to remind you of how important you still are--sometimes that gets lost to ourselves...can you tell i have been there too...good luck and congratulations on freeing yourself of a bad habit!!

I'm in that rocky road never been good type relationship, I used to leave allot but I always get back with him so I am not leaving again until I can disappear...poof! I just figure why bother leaving if I just keeping getting back with him. You are not getting what you want if you have had four years together and he still lives in his own apartment...I hope this time you stay strong and find someone who has the same relationship goals as you!

It sounds like you deserve better. I'm sorry that he has treated you so poorly. When I read your post, I was reminded of the book "He's Just Not That Into You". The author is a guy who basically says, you deserve better, if he really loved you, he would not treat you like this. You deserve better!!

Good for you for going to school and working hard as a mom. Keep it up!!!

R. I know that you have heard so many different peoples advice. But I to have been in that simular situation and let me say from experience that you can do better. My mom always told me that you can't make someone love you.. I was married to a person to which I thought that I could not live without but boy was I wrong. We had 2 wonderful boys, and when he married his 3rd wife she didn't want them around so he give them up to the man that is now my husband. The man that I'm married to now is one in a million. God gave me a 2nd chance and gave me the most wonderful husband and father for my older boys him and I have an 8yr old boy of our own. Most people say that I'm lucky and yes I agree. So my advice is take a long look at yourself and your son and ask God to send you a man that will love you back as much as you love them. Don't waste your love on someone that is not capable of loving you and your son the way you should be loved.....

Good for you! I know that it doesn't feel great know but go find someone that can't live with out YOU. Someone that can return the feelings that you had for this guy. They are out there... been there done that good luck and you will recover!!

It took guts to do the right thing for you and it will be the right thing for your son. You want him to have a good male role model. Stay strong - you can get through this!!

It sounds like you already know what you need to do. Just as your heart tells you that you love him, your heart is also telling you to let it go. You deserve better & so does your son. Your 9 yr old scientist is also watching & learning how to treat a woman. You both are deserving of so much more. Obviously you are going somewhere with your life & have no need to feel disgraced. Don't try to eat the whole elephant in 1 bite though. If you can just say, for TODAY I am not going back with him. I deserve better. Then get up tomorrow & say, just for TODAY I am not going back with him. After 14 days it's a habit & you will find that you miss him less & less, but more than that, you'll feel stronger & you won't want that in your life any longer.