Hello ladies,
I have 3.5 yr old girl boy twins who share a room due to necessity . The last few days I have found them with my daughters pants down and my son looking at her. Both have said that they didnt touch each other so I am pretty certain he is curious about her parts. Still it is a little alarming even if this is age appropriate. My son shows no interst in her body when they bathe together.
Any moms of twins or little ones close in age have any good ideas about how to handle this? I am very open about our bodies, they know all the correct names . I do not want to be too harsh with them so I have said that it is not polite ( sorry was first thing to come to mind!) to touch others where their underwear covers them. I told them this is their private body parts and not for others to touch at this time. Any more ideas? I have a feeling we will be seeing some more of this behavior & I just want to handle it matter of factly with very little censure or shame inducing tones. Thanks in advance for any help!!!!!!!
I would tell them God made them different and now they realize that so end of looking. Tell them you don't want them to do it again as it's not something you do and you don't let others do to you either.
I think you're fine. I have a 6 and 3 year old (boys) and they are curious but we say "no touching each others' penises" when they do it, even as a joke. Don't freak or anything, just be consistent. And just move them along. But you're right to not shame them.
I say definitely stop bathing them together since they are getting curious about each other. If they have any questions, give only basic responses. There is no need to elaborate, they are too young to understand any detailes anyways.
I don't really have experience on that with my own kids, since we have no family in here and no little kids besides mine.
My youngest was amazed when she discovered my breast, I found it funny and I just put more emphasis on other parts of my body something like: "those are mamy's breast, and you have breast too, And a cute nose and 10 wiggle toes"
I think what you did was right, talk to them and ask them questions and make sure they are understanding what privet body parts are, teach your daughter to say "NO, I DON'T LIKE THAT, THAT IS MY BODY" same to your boy and to let you know when something like this happen.
Let them know they are not bad, but privet parts are not to be touch and to not take off your or your sibling clothes.
Ask them what they feel curiosity about and talk to them and perhaps buy an appropriated body book, tell them that when ever they have a question they can always come to you for an answer no matter how silly or weird could it be.
Sounds to me like you handled it well. I wouldn't start bathing them separately though--I think that might send a message that it's shameful? I would just tell them no one should touch private parts except mom or dad (when washing, helping with the potty), or the doctor to check. Like you said, it's good to explain the different body parts and be open about it. Then I'd leave it at that.
