Trying to Have a Baby - Florissant,MO

Theresa is right, but I'm also going to add to the middle of that to own at least one, but preferably two well running vehicles and realise that you aren't merely having a baby which is enough work as it is, but having a child, which will then become a teenager and become more difficult, and that you will be sacrificing the whole of two decades to the goal of raising that child.

How To Have A Baby:

1) Grow up
2) Be gainfully employed
3) Find a suitable house that you can afford
4) Get married
5) Take parenting classes
6) Acquire and understand your health insurance
7) Kiss Life As You Know It Goodbye

:)

Okay, fine, I'll be the first to bite. The Depo shots last 3 months. But you're much better off waiting until you finish middle school.

Then of course get your butt graduated from high school, then college, have a bit of a career, and then get married.

You should get married BEFORE having a baby. If you want to bring a child into this world with this guy then he should also be the one that you are willing share the rest of your life with. Get married first, start a life together, THEN talk about having a baby.

How old are you and your boyfriend? How will you take care of this child should you get pregnant? Do you have jobs that provide for the basic shelter, food, clothing, and medical care? Are you willing to give up your dreams and goals for 18 to 20 years without resentment? How will you parent the child you create? IF you answer I don't know or NO to any of these questions, then wait as you are not old enough.

There is a reason to not rush into this as once you do it you can not go back. You are adults whether you are ready for this or not.

Since this is your boyfriend, I would wait until he is your husband of two or three years before I would consider a child. I say this because living with someone is a lot different than dating or having casual sex with them. You get to see the "real" person for the most part and decide if this is what you really signed up for for the long run. Most people take their wedding vows lightly and don't read and understand the "Til death do you part, in sickness and in health and for richer or for poorer." Look at those words and think very deeply about what you are about to do without the marriage license.

Marriage is a full time job of give and take and that means someone gives 100/0, to 50/50, to 35/75 and sometimes more in order to make it work. You put that person before you and your wants and needs and they should do the same for you to make the marriage work. You have to learn to communicate above all else and to be on the same page when it comes to parenting.

I have a daughter who is 35 who would love to have a child but she keeps telling me that she can't do it alone and won't until there is a ring on her finger.

So please think about what I have written and look at it as knowledge and not about bashing your dreams of motherhood. It's about planning and timing and knowing when you are ready for this commitment.

Good luck to you.

The other S.

PS What is the rush?

Please talk to your parents before you get yourself into something that you are not ready for. There is a reason that it takes two to make a baby and that is that it takes two to raise and care for a baby. Your boyfriend and you are not looking at the big picture here. Having a baby is no joke and your life is going to change drastically. He may love you now but what happens when the baby comes and he falls out of love with you? Having kids with someone is a gift you give to yourself and your husband, not your boyfriend.

You need to have a serious conversation with someone that you trust thier oppinion. If you were my daughter, I would suggest you wait until he puts a ring on it.

Theresa! You are my hero!!

Read Theresa's response until you know it by heart then FOLLOW HER ADVICE WORD FOR WORD. Acquiring grammar and spelling skills wouldn't hurt either.
Sorry, couldn't resist.