Trying to Conceive - Any Ideas of What Works????

Please make sure your OB/gyn orders thorough tests of your hormones and metabolic profiles. You are approaching or in perimenopause no doubt and levels decline for optimal fertility. I am an older mom so I know a little about it. I was 41 with my first and 44 w/my second (and last). My doctor,as you may have seen in my other posts, is Elizabeth Vliet. She has wonderful books out about what tests to ask for. Her site is www.herplace.com or check out her books. Best wishes,

I too conceived my first while on the pill, but my second was much more difficult. It took me over a year to get preggo. I had to lose weight and I finally got it right by watching my cervical mucous. A little graphic, but when it looks and feels like egg whites, it is the right time. Good luck and happy baby dancing!

Hi J.,

My husband and I tried to conceive but were unsuccessful. I can tell you that the first approach after you over the counter efforts may be to ask you primary physician if he/she can test your husbands' sperm count first, (only because this is the quickest, cheapest test to start with). If those results prove successful then they may test your ovulation to ensure you are producing mature eggs next. I am 45 now but began testing in my early 30's with all the methods you tried from your local drug store, then blood work, Clomid and finally injections. Unfortunately I fell into that 10% "unexplained" category and never got pregnant. You're on the right track by making the appt. but it could also be that you need some time to relax and let nature take it's course. I will pray for you and your husband and hope to hear good news soon:). Let me know if you have any questions and I'll be glad to try and help or direct you to some websites.

C. (Deer Park, TX)

I had some trouble getting pregnant after a miscarriage and we found out that it was because I was not ovulating normally. It had taken about 9 months or so to get pregnant the first time and then after the miscarriage, my cycles never got back on track. The doctor was able to give me some medication to jump start my cycle and force a period, then gave me a very low dose of Cholmid to help with the ovulation. Using ultrasound, they were able to tell when I was going to ovulate and told us to get busy during that time! It worked the first month (although it had been 5 months since my miscarriage) and it was very non-invasive (all of the medication was in pill form and I just had to take certain pills on certain days).

It sounds like your cycle might not be normal, but the only way you will know what's really going on is to see your OB. I would also agree with someone else's post that it may be your husband that needs to be checked also. If after seeing your OB, they don't have an explanation, I am sure they will suggest having him get checked out as well. I wish I had better advice. I know how frustrating it can be to wait so long to conceive, but just try not to stress about it and let the doctors see if there is a simple solution for you. Sometimes we just have to wait for God's timing! :-)

Good luck!

I am 39 and my youngest is 6 and I have never had a problem conceiving. With all 5 of my children, I conceived within 2 weeks of trying. However, that being said, with the last 2 children I used the "temperature" method. I also abstained until 2 to 3 days before ovulation and 2 to 3 days after ovulation. I guess for multiple reasons, I wanted to make sure my husbands sperm count was up and so that I would know when I conceived. I guess that is not necessary as long as you make sure and have sex during the time you are ovulating. Another tip, I have learned that if you actually (kinda personal but has to be said)... if you have an orgasm the chances of conception are higher because it helps the sperm get to the egg a little easier. I actually read a book called "How to have a baby boy" and turned out it had great advice on how to conceive. :) Good luck.. keep trying but make sure you enjoy the process and don't become so stressed out that the pleasurable part of your relationship becomes an exhausting job.

Hey J.-

Reading your story, I can not help but think the problem may "not" be you...but your husband. It is sooo common for woman to think if they can not get pregnant, they must have some fertility "issues"...not always the case. Men need to also get checked..maybe he has a low sperm count or maybe he can do some things to help increasen his level. I can tell you this, my friend has been trying to have kids with her husband for 3 years. She heard of this Dr. (ob--NO specialist) in Sugarland. He almost GUARENTEES people that they will be pregnant within a few months if they practice this method. It is very simple...count from day 1 of your period. On the 8th day, have sex "that" day and every "other" day. I thought that sounded crazy when my friend told me. However, needless to say she was pregnant within 6 weeks. I was "SHOCKED" but VERY happy for them!!!!! I would try it!
Best of luck!!!!!

I am by far no doctor, but I do type medical reports. After about 35, I think it is harder to get pregnant. I would most assuredly talk to your physician about this. There are blood tests and other things they can do to help you get pregnant. Good Luck

S.

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