Getting Help with Conception!

I understand that a month can seem like an eternity when you want to have children. Have you heard of NFP? About 12 to 14 days from the first day of your period, you will ovulate. You know this by a mucous secretion and when you are able, after wiping, to stretch some between your first finger and thumb, you are fertile. It happens to be when you should be most in the mood.

Also, in my personal experience ( I'm not sure what science says), when I refrain from sugar, I am much more fertile. In fact, after one miscarriage, my twins were conceived. I spoke with another mother who was told she could no longer get pregnant. She was on a no sugar diet to lose weight and she became pregnant.

God Bless and remember, His timing is different than ours. Be patient because there may be some unfinished business to tend to. I believe that God gives us the desire with the intention to fulfill it. Believe.

Have you tried acupuncture? My husband is a Chiro and had a pretty good success rate with his patients who had infertility problems.

People look at me funny when I say, "My husband has a good success rate getting women pregnant!" I had to learn a different way to say it...

See a fertility specialist. Have your husband checked out. We went though this for 10 years. Went through 2 OBGYN's who didn't "do" anything, and then saw the specialist. Got both of us through a series of tests and found out that we were incompatible - long story short, we had a 1 in 300,000 + chance of conceiving on our own. Tried 3 different procedures, finally were able to conceive twice using IVF.
Good Luck!

unfortunately trying to conceive just doesn't always happen when we want it to. It took me 6 months of trying to conceive my first. My doc put me on some kind of progesterone pill for a week to jump start ovulation and I conceived the next month. You aren't technically infertile until you have been trying consistently for over a year. For my second and third, I figured out when I was ovulating. There are definite signs, like increased mucus, increased body temperature, slight bleeding, some cramping, etc. We conceived right away for both the second and third. Just because you have a period does not necessarily mean you are ovulating, that is why I suggest you figure out if you are. the other thing I have found is that stress really does affect fertility. The more you stress about trying to conceive the harder it is. Stop worrying and it sometimes happens very quickly.

I was 32 when I got married and wanted to start a family quite fast. Didn't happen since I was also under stress too. Why? I don't know. I finally did conceive at 36. It took a while, because of stress. If I were you, I'd start going to the gym, take some YOGA classes, go for a massage etc. Are you taking folic acid?
You should also see a fertility doctor, if you've been trying for over a year. That's what my doctor told me. He may have to do some testing to see if your falopian tubes are clean, make sure you don't have endometriosis etc. You want results at this point, no wasting time. My cousin is 38, and without a baby, because she really wanted to go natural. Her OBGYN didn't take any steps to test her. All she kept saying was, you're fine, you'll have children. This was at 33-34. She finally switched to a fertility doctor who did tests on her, and saw she had fibroids blocking her uterus. She underwent surgery and was in there for over 4 hours getting cleaned out. They also found a small case of endometriosis. Now she's getting IVF treatment and I feel she'll be pregnant in a year or so. Don't start worrying about anything, but just take action and look after yourself. Don't do birth pills, they increase the chances of cancer. Unfortunately I took them for two years. My doctor was very unhappy with the other OBGYN who gave them to me. Make sure you have a very caring and understanding doctor. I'm sorry that I'm writing so much, but I know what it's like. I've been there and have gone through a lot, but it's so worth it. I have two cutie pies and no regrets. Let us know how things go. Don't worry, you're not old and stay healthy. Keep in touch.

Start with a Dr. or Certified Nurse Midwife that will listen (ask your friends whom they recommend) and run appropriate tests. It would help if you could gather some of your past medical records and labs and bring them with you to the first visit. Since you have already had 1 child, your medical work up should be slightly different since you have secondary infertility. If your first child was conceived with another partner, your present husband needs to be checked to see if he is part of the infertility puzzle. There's hope, but you need to know why you are having bleeding all the time for that is a sign that your hormones are unbalanced and likely preventing ovulation. If you don't ovulate regularly, your chances of conceiving are really low. Clomid is not without risks so research it carefully before taking another round (recently linked with autism:http://www.theautismeducationsite.com/2010/05/20/new-stud....
While you are waiting for an appt., I highly recommend exercise 4-5 times a week, decreasing consumption of caffeine and refined sugars (think anything that comes out of box or bag or would be considered a treat/dessert), and increasing protein and vegetables in your diet.
You need to start seriously pursuing your dream of more children before your risks start to go up significantly. Wishing you the best....Nurse Midwife Mom

WOW, FIRST OF ALL, MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. MY DAUGHTER & HER HUBBY HAD BEEN TRYING FOR 4 YEARS. ONE DAY, I WAS AT HER HOUSE & SHE WAS GETTING READY & SHE WAS IN THE BATHROOM & I SAW HER SHAVING HER CHIN. I SAID WHAT ARE YOU DOING!!? SHE THEN TOLD ME SHE HAD ALOT OF FACIAL HAIR. I ASKED IF SHE HAD TOLD THE DOCTOR (BEFORE SHE HAD KAISER), SHE SAID NO & I ENCOURAGED HER TO DO SO. SHE TOO HAD GAINED ALOT OF WEIGHT & DIFFICULT TO LOSE THE WEIGHT. I CAME HOME & STARTED RESEARCHING ON THE COMPUTER & FOUND THE SYMPTOMS LINED UP WITH "P.C.O.S. POLY CYSTIC OVERIAN SYNDROME". SHE WENT TO THE DOCTOR THAT SHE HAD TO PAY FOR & HE ASKED HER QUESTIONS LIKE I DID. HE TOLD HER SHE HAD P.C.O.S.! STARTED HER ON MEDS. DIDN'T HELP. THEY FINALLY GOT ON KAISER & WAS REFERRED TO THE INFERTILITY CLINIC. THEY EVEN DID A "DIE" TEST & FOUND ONE OF HER TUBES WAS SLIGHTLY BLOCKED. AFTER A FEW PUSHES THEY FINALLY UNBLOCKED IT. IT WAS PAINFUL BUT THEY FINALLY GOT HER ON THE RIGHT DOSES. WITH THE HELP OF A GREAT DOCTOR, THEY UPPED HER MED TO GET HER INTO OVULATION & THEY DID THEIR THING & SHE IS NOW DUE IN LESS THAN 2 MONTHS. IT HAS BEEN A LONG ROLLER COASTER. IF YOU HAVE FACEBOOK, SHE DID A BLOG TITLED "THE GOLIATH SERIES". ANY GO TO HER PAGE & TELL HER I REFERRED YOU TO HER. I BELIEVE SHE DID 4 BLOGS. HER NAME IS "ANGELA GERMOLUS" & LIVES IN PATTERSON, CA. DO NOT LOSE HOPE OF HAVING A CHILD/CHILDREN. JUST HAVE TO HAVE THE RIGHT STUFF. :<)
BLESSINGS & PRAYERS
A. MYERS
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PS. SORRY FOR SO LONG :<)

When you say your period is pretty much constant, does that mean it doesn't really end, or did you mean to say that it's regular? You may want to try the fertility awareness method detailed in the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. Using this method, you can easilty figure out when you're the most fertile each month. The charting method can aslo help you figure out if you have other undiagnosed problems.