Troubling Sleeping in Own Bed

Take him shopping and let him pick out a new stuffed animal - for boys probably a big one the actual size of small dog or cat is what they seem to like better. Tell him you'll let it stay in his BIG BOY BED if he sleeps like a BIG BOY all night long without coming in to mommy's room. Let him sleep with it in his bed and take care of it during the night. It works for our little one. He sleeps with it every night right by him. When needed we toss it in a pillow case and laundry it, even though it says spot clean only. It hasn't affected it's look at all. GOOD LUCK!!

Hey N.,
I got into a bad habit of rocking/holding my daughter until she was asleep before putting her down when she was little (2-maybe 8 mos).
Later when she wanted to be rocked she would cry for about 20-30 minutes and if you went and checked on her she was ok till you left, then more crying.
I started Telling her what's gonna happen "we are going to drink Milk, go brush our teeth, change diaper, sing our song, pray our bedtime prayers and go to bed" She was really Bad about getting to sleep at first so we started on Friday night (we are off on weekends)-that way if we needed we could catch a few zz's the next day. She had 2 nights to try and work out her own issues. She cried on Sunday and Monday nights but after that she was fine.
You also might wanna tell your son you are going to put the rails Back if he can't sleep in his own bed.
One other thing-we had TOO Many night lights in her room. I thought she might have a tendency to be afraid of the dark, but while we had company my husband put all the lights off and she slept Much better.
You might also wanna ask him WHy he wants to get in bed with you-or Why he can't sleep in his own bed. He might be able to articulate enough to get a message across.
Good Luck!!
C.

I so can feel for you. My 3 yr old is doing the same thing. The power outage really messed up alot of things. I finally gave up and put his bed in my room. And that is really working for now. He sleeps all night in his bed, I don't have to get up a million and one times a night! I'm hoping that after awhile he will transition back to his room. For now he naps in there on the twin bed. I just wanted to share what is working for me, hope this helps you. Feel free to email me anytime. ____@____.com I am in Pryor Ok.

P.

I am sure you have heard of the Family Bed. I have 5 children ranging from age 15-5 all my kids sleep in our bed at some point. I breast feed my babies and it was just easer to have them right there. One thing I did do was made them take naps in there own beds. By the time they were 3 to 3 1/2 they were all in there own beds on there own. Is having your son sleep with you really a big problem? Sounds to me like he needs to feel safe again. Maybe a New BIG BOY bed might help. If your worried about your sex life since your son has taken over your bed, that is totally understandable. Just get creative the couch is always good the kitchen table have fun.

N.,
The hardest thing for me was weaning the girls to a bed of their own. I breast fed all my girls and it was just easier to have them right there with me. That and it was a very wonderful bonding feeling. A few things you might try is:
Give him a place next to the bed. A sleeping bag or palette on the floor. Tell him that if he has to be with you that's his place or he can sleep in his own bed. Kids can be very stubborn about this.
Does he have really cool stuff for his room? A new comforter or racecar pillows? You might try that.
When my ten-year-old was a baby and toddler she always wanted to be with me. She didnt wean out of my bed until I had her sister and put them together at night. I told her I needed her help with baby sis and she loved the fact that she was the big sister. That plan worked great until number 3 came along. The youngest one didnt stay in her own bed until she was 4. I had to let her sleep on the couch close to my bedroom before she would sleep in her own room for good.
Thank goodness they all stay in their own beds now because children move all over the place at night.