My husband and oldest son are gone to Boy Scout camp for one week....I've been enjoying my time with my 9 year old...we've been watching movies, etc...however, I've let him sleep with me oh yeah - and the dog too....since Daddy and Greg have been gone....
Do you think I'm asking for trouble? He KNOWS that when Daddy comes home he will go back to his bed.....he's 9 years not 9 months...so I'm hoping I haven't messed things up....do you think I should have him sleep in his own bed tonight?
Tonight's the BIG night!!! Daddy and brother are home!! YIKES!!! :) We'll see if he understands "temporary"!!!! Wish me luck!! I'll be off to bed in a few minutes!!!
THANK YOU LADIES!! YOU ROCK!!!
I think as a special event, it's fine. I let my daughter and the cats sleep in the bed with me, even though it's temporary til DH gets back. It's always been fine.
I think he'll be fine. The first night when you all are "back to normal" and everyone is in their own beds might be a little rocky, but I bet everything will be fine. No worries.
People get way to bent out of shape about co beds. Its your son he is probably enjoying his time with you. You've made it clear that when dad comes back its back to his own bed. Just make it firm when dad does come back. The dog is another story he will probably keep trying for a while
I think it's fine. Sometimes I allow things out of the ordinary, just because at some point our daughter won't be interested in it any more and that makes me sad. I don't want to look back and feel bad that I denied that simple pleasure. Just like sleeping in our bed with us every now and then. She knows it's not permanent, and it is so sweet, isn't it? When daddy goes on his annual surf trip, she definitely sleeps with me.
It should be fine.
When we moved, our son (was 7 at the time) had a hard time adjusting to the sounds the new house made.
I had to tell him if I was running the dishwasher/washer/dryer and just the ac/heat coming on was enough to startle him, but our new house was quieter than our old house.
Maybe he missed the old sounds.
He ended up sleeping on a cot at the foot of our bed for 6 months (and I specifically chose the house because all the bedrooms were NOT totally on the opposite side of the house from the master bedroom - I didn't want him all alone in the dark).
Finally I told him "You and your room need to make friends" and we totally re-arranged it with his input this time.
We made a blanket fort in there and read with flash lights - we made it the fun place to be.
He got over it and loves his room.
But he'll still come to see us in the night if a really bad storm comes up or if the power goes out.
Not at all. At 9 he will be able to perfectly understand the context of this and that it won't be happening when dad gets home. Enjoy your time! I already have mine all mapped out when I have my 9 yo to myself for the same reason. Such a fun age don't you think? they are able to understand and do so much more now and they still want to hang with us!
When I was younger my dad used to go out of town a lot for business. The majority of the time he was away I would go sleep in bed with my mom. I always knew I had to go back to my own bed when he came back. I think you have nothing to worry about. I bet your son will remember those times too when he's older. :)
My husband travels a lot and I have always given them the option to sleep with me. They go back and forth with no problems. We looked at it like our very own sleepover. This week, both my kids, 12 & 9, were too tired and too busy with end of the year activities and went to their own beds. The time will come when they won't venture in or near for a long time...until they have their own kids.
I don't think you have because he is old enough to know that he will have to be back in his own bed. My son slept with us until he was about 5 1/2 and then we slowly weaned him off by my putting him to bed and staying with him until he fell asleep. Now at 9, sometimes he'll joke that he wants to sleep in my bed, but when push comes to shove, he chooses his own. He likes that he has so much room in his and can move around as he needs to..
I think you should enjoy your time with your son and not worry about it. I think it will be ok..
My son was at Boy Scout camp recently. My daughter has two twin beds in her room and we decided to have our own "sleep over" in her room. We did exactly what you have been doing- watching movies, eating food that the boys didn't like, etc. It was nice to have some one on one time with her, guilt-free.
I don't think you've messed things up- I think you've created some nice memories for the two of you. Let him stay if you want. Like others have said, the dog is a different story... :)
Isn't it quiet around your house right now? Enjoy this time!
If you don't mind let him sleep with you as a treat. Yes, you will get increased begging for a few weeks after Dad comes home, but eventually it will stop; just remind him this is a special treat like his brother going to camp.
I don't think it's a big deal. My dad used to go on fishing trips once a year and I would sleep with my mom. Even in high school because it was fun. We would watch movies and eat popcorn (my dad HATED the smell of it so he wouldn't let us make it), and we would stay up late and it was a blast! Since my husband has been away in training a lot of the time we have been here, my kids have taken turns sleeping with me. I would let them both at the same time, but they toss and turn and spread out as much as they can, lol! Right now even as I'm typing, my 6 year old daughter is asleep in my bed, but my husband comes home tomorrow and he will be done with training, so I figure last night, it's ok.
Absolutely not!! This is a special bonding time for the two of you. I have three kids and it was always a special treat for one of us to be gone. We had a rotation schedule so noone was left out. Believe me, if you're just starting now, your time is limited. They reach a point when they no longer want to be with you so ENJOY it while you can. ;-)
Sometimes when Troy is out of town we have a slumber party. They know it is a one time deal.
He's good - my kids love to come in when daddy isn't home, but it's only for the night and they go back no problems :). Enjoy it!
He's 9, he should transition back fine. I think it's sweet you two have had this special one-on-one time together (usually it's the first kid that gets all that good mommy lovin, every kid after that, fuggetaboutit!)
The dog, on the other hand, is going to have it's little puppy feelings hurt ;)
He's 9, so he is well aware of the fact that when dad comes back he gets his "spot" back. If he was 3 or 4 I would worry, but going into 4th grade I think you're okay.
The best advice I got when I was newly pregnant was DO NOT ROCK THE BABY TO SLEEP AND PUT IT TO SLEEP IN ITS OWN CRIB/BED!!! I followed this and had great sleepers and best of all, I was able to sleep. We had our "bonding" time when we all took naps together in our big Cal King bed. Later when the kids weren't napping any more I would read to them in MY bed and then put them to bed. Now they are 15, 11 and 8 and all go in their rooms every night at 8pm. they don't have to sleep, but they have to stay in there...and they do! So I would think your son is old enough to know its just temporary...I hope! I know this is a late response...I hope you didn't run into any problems! :o)
