I have 3 kids, my oldest son is 6 and going to school. So I am left with my little girl 21 months, and my 7 month old son all day. I find that my kids get a lot of Mom time, almost to the point that it's the only attention they get. My husband works 2 jobs, and to no fault of his own, has little time for the kids. Everyone is just too busy, especially family. That's the constant..everyone else is too busy. There are other kids in the neighborhood (Godparents kids right next door that we hardly see.) I'd like my kids to have more interactions with other people. Is it bad for my kids to just have Mom all the time? Should I really feel guilty that no one else seems to care about my kids? I know I care, but do they need more than that? Any suggestions? Should my kids have more outside attention? Is it a bad thing for them to only have my attention? Is there a such thing as too much Mom time? Any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated.
I know the feeling. I also have two young children, 15 months apart, and play groups are hard. I tried going to the library for story time...NIGHTMARE. The older one was running around and the youngest was fussy. My kids are not with many other kids either. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. We can only do what we are able to do. It is very tough having them close together.
There are probably tons of kids activities in your area you can take your kids too. When my son was born, we didn't know anyone in town & I was really lonely, but we started going to a storytime at the library, religious school (he didn't get much out of it the first year, but I met a lot of new people), and classes at the local Y or JCC, or even just take them to the park on a nice day. Even if your youngest son can't participate the older ones will be able to have fun & meet new peers, and so will you!!
Good luck!
Ever considered playgroups? You could meet other moms and your children could meet other children. It's a great way to meet neighbors and people in your community and to have a support system outside the home.
Good luck,
T.
One of my friends suggested this to me when my daughter was about a year old and it's been great -- I joined a gym that has child care. We've been going for about 6 months and she loves it! She has a ton of kids to hang out with, she loves the women who work in the day care center, and I've met some other moms too. I love that I'm in the same building but I still get some me time. Oh, yeah, and I'm finally getting some exercise and taking off the massive amount of weight I gained while I was pregnant! We go pretty much every morning for a couple of hours. It's not cheap, but it's worth it if you can swing it!
