Too Many Questions!!!

Hi Alica,
Unfortunately, that's what they do. I too have 2 boys (same age), and now the two year old talks all the time even though I can't understad everything he says!!! Take the talking as him learning. My 5 year old talks all of the time and he asks tons of questions, but he's also learning new things. I've heard from other parents who have older boys it will pass and they won't pay you any attention so enjoy it while you can!!!!

there are never too many questions, this your only opportunity, once in a life time, you can never go back, so enjoy it, I know it's tiring and it does wear us moms out, but you are now in the position to train him and mold him, give him the answers, don't worry about him talking in school. Just think all the good things you can share with him and teach him now. Enjoy, I would worry if he did not talk as often.

Maybe you could teach him to have "quiet time". Tell him that mommy needs some quiet time, and ask him to play with his toys or look at a book quietly for a few minutes. See how long he can handle it the first couple times, then try to increase the time little by little. Who knows, you might get 10 minutes of quiet some day! :)

I'm glad to hear another mom is having this same problem LOL. My 4 soon to be 5 year old son does the same thing! Getting him to be quiet for a minute during the day is a struggle and you'd think I'd get a break when he sleeps, but no, there are nights when he talks and even laughs in his sleep.
I work in his "quiet time " when he has to go to time out for other things and for the time he's in the time out chair he's not allowed to talk or he gets another minute added to his time, but I've also learned that he likes to attempt to play the quiet game. But beware, the quit game can and will backfire if you're not careful LOL! I know this wasn't much help, I wanted you to know you're not alone.

I have a very inquisitive 4 1/2 year old little girl who is the same way. Many times, she will ask a question about something that we talked about or she learned within the last few days, and I KNOW she knows the answer to it. I turn it around on her and ask something like "Why do you think it does that?" or "Why do you think she acted that way?" (my daughter is quick to point out other kids' misbehavior) or "How do you think it works?" Many times, she knows the answer and just wants reinforcement.

We also just talked about consequences again today. She happened to see the news report about the bridge collapsing in Minneapolis. She asked if everything on the news was true, and I said that it was (as I bit my tongue- she's still a litle young to talk about different slants on the same news story). She was wondering about cars getting into accidents and people getting hurt and cars catching on fire. I told her THAT was why I kept reminding her to not try to distract mommy while I'm driving, because people get into accidents and I'm trying to be very careful and keep us all safe.

I say all of that just to illustrate that she saw that news report, what, 2 days ago when it happened and she still is thinking about it and processing it. I try to remember that even though it can be frustrating and distracting, I am thankful that she has an active and inquiring mind, which, by the way, we have always tried to encourage.

Good luck and hang in there!!! I'm right there with ya!

J.

You're right; he is talking to hear himself, to hear himself think, and make connections with what he's feeling, concerned about, and discovering. You're an available, loving, trusted ear. Quiet time, time to talk to others--especially peers and toy friends--are all ways of establishing boundaries. Your child needs human interaction, just like you do, but he needs to know when you need your own time and space, too. I've found providing social outlets like peer play dates, preschool--even an informal, cooperative kind--scheduled times of doing housework together, playing, reading, and other activities gives my 4 year old a sense of boundaries and directing her discussions in a more 'socially appropriate' way.
Questions and talking can also be a way of intellectualizing the new and sometimes scary information youngsters are taking in. They just haven't learned to "self-talk" yet, like most of we adults have mastered. Practicing what helps you learn new things and deal with scary or unfamiliar ideas may help, too.

Hi! I have a 4 yr old who is the same way, if I let him. All he wants to do is talk, ask questions, whine. His mouth is always going. It was driving me crazy!!! About 2 months ago, I started asking him to go into his play room and "talk" with his trains. At first he only stayed in there about 2 minutes and then he would come out and start telling me about talking with the trains, I thought, this isn't working. BUT!!! Consistency does work! He now uses his imagination and can talk and tell stories about his trains, too his trains for an hour at a time. He loves it! Sometimes he gets mad because little brother wants to play, but is now letting him play along too. I hope this helps and yes, I think every 4-5 year old goes through this!

K.

A.:

I have a 5 yr. old as well that is doing the EXACT same thing!
I keep telling myself that all the questions are a good thing b/c he is learning. But golly is it not only worrisome but irritating as all get out!!!
I can totally understand what you are going through & can relate on so many levels!
Anytime you want to "vent" about your little ones, I also live here in Florence & would be glad to not only listen but share my experiences as well.

Good luck keeping your 'cool'!

P. E.

My 5 year old daughter asks why about evrything, then after you answer, she asks why the answer is what it is on and on and on. I have not found a clever answer to her questions that makes her stop asking yet. lol It drives me crazy.