Every child is different and every parent is different. There could be any combination of things that will work well for you. (And now you're thinking "thanks??") Is there a night light in her room, that may help. Maybe you could even have her pick out a blanket she wants to sleep with. Playing in her room with her during the day may also help. She's old enough to understand that she's a "big girl" now, so maybe you could talk to her during the day telling her what a big girl she is, and that big girls sleep in their own beds. That big girls even get stickers on a chart for sleeping in their own beds. Put one on her chart every night she sleeps there all night, granted it may be a while, but you'll get there! Maybe put the chart in her room where she can see it, making it visible to her while she's going to sleep. You could transition her by giving her a nightgown, or piece of sleeping clothing that you have worn (so it smells like you) and let her sleep with that during the day so that maybe she will use that for "security" instead of you or your husband. Tell her where you're going to be when you lay her down. Something like, "I'm going to be in the living room, I love you sweetie, nite." A ritual is always a good thing with kids, they thrive on routine, routine, routine. Bath, book, hugs, kisses, blown kisses from the door, catch them and put them on your cheeks (my 6 year old daughter and I STILL do this and it's STILL cute!) and tell her goodnight, and tell her where you're going to be. I don't know if your little one is still in a crib, if she is she will probably cry...you know that already=) Let her cry for 30 minutes, go in (don't pick her up, and don't say anything) lay her back down soothe her a little and walk back out. She'll probably start to cry again, go back in after 40 minutes if she's still crying, lay her back down (again, don't pick her up and don't say anything...I KNOW it's HARD, but DON'T!=) Increase the time 10 minutes every time. That way she knows that you're there, but she will eventually fall asleep. It's going to be REALLY hard the first week probably, but this is new to her, and she feels lost without you. To grow up to be an independent woman she's going to have to learn how to calm herself down. It will happen. There may come a point where you're like..."NO IT'S NOT!!" =) But it will. We don't still sleep in bed with our moms, she'll get the hang of it. Hopefully sooner rather than later! Now if she has a "big girl" bed then things are a little different. Same thing with the routine, but if she gets up pick her up, hug her tight, tell her goodnight baby again, and put her back in bed...don't stay in there with her...kisses, and leave. The third time pick her up, hug her tight, don't say anything and put her in bed. And every consecutive time pick her up, hug her tight, and to bed your little angel goes. I hope that this VERY LONG response will help a little. Good luck!!! Oh, and it's your bed, why should you feel bad about wanting it back??? =) I also have to say that Heidi's advice sounds golden too=)