J., really there is no decision. Stay home with your kids. If money is not an issue. Stay home. My husband and I made some BIG changes in our lives to be PARENTS and not just providers. When I got pregnant with my first child, we were both working. We had long discussions about what to do. She was born in Nov and I was asked to come back to work the following Sept (I was a teacher). We tried the "day care" thing for 3 months and I HATED IT (and it was only for 3 hours a day!). Someone else was holding my baby when she cried, someone else was tickling her toes (or worse NOT!) someone else got the smiles and the coos that were her trademark and that were meant for my husband and I. My husband and I made a decision, one of us had to stay home. At the time, I was earning more than him so he quit and became "Mr Mom".
It was hard. We gave up one vehicle, our cable, our vacation plans, and other "non-necessities". We did it for our baby. Because SHE was our priority. When we saw that things were getting a little tight, my husband took a nighttime post for 4 hours a night, from 8 PM to midnight. It brought in just enough to keep him home with our baby. When baby number 2 was born we were already into full swing of our routine. We even started to be "not so tight" with our money. I wasn't really making any more we just had a much simpler lifestyle. SOOOOO many of our friends couldn't believe that we were "making it". They were shocked! And needless to say, so were we. My daughters are 14 and 11 now, my husband is STILL a full time dad, my home based business teaching other moms to create the world they want (www.TheYummyMommy.com) is flourishing and we wouldn't have done it any other way. My girls are brilliant, well behaved, healthy and well adjusted. (no bias here! LOL)
My advice is this...DECIDE what is important and STICK with it. It will work, whatever you decide. Children are only young for a few short years. In my opinion there is NOTHING as important as raising children, your own children. I would challenge you to do whatever you can to stay home and be the mommy that your baby needs and wants.
Does that help?
B.
Family Success Coach