Thinking About Taking My Son Out of Daycare and Getting a Nannie

Updated on June 29, 2007
J.T. asks from Euless, TX
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I am looking for the pros and cons of having a nannie. My son has been in Daycare since he was 7 weeks old and he loves it. More importantly they love him. I am thinking about having one of his teachers that is about to have a baby come into my home and take care of him with her daughter. I totally trust this girl and she loves Jaxson and he loves her. I worry about taking him away from all of the other kids and the action around him now. He is so laid back so I don't think he would be bothered, but how can you tell at 7 months old.
To be honest I also worry that he will start to look at her as mommy (you know what I mean) I know that sounds horrible, but now there are many people that take care of him, but he knows who mommy is.

Please help!!!!

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C.M.

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Nanny all the way. I was both, I worked in a daycare back in the day and got a nanny job through there. She works in a daycare, so she will know what kind of age appropriate skills to teach your little one. Not only that, but since you are letting her bring her kiddo, that is PRICELESS. When I was a nanny I was able to bring my daughter, and it was awsome. If you totally trust her, there's a reason you are considering it..go with your gut, I think you already know what to do, or you wouldn't be asking :) Good luck!

S.

answers from Dallas on

if you find a good nanny its the best thing that will happen to your kid an dto you...IMO
i have had a nanny for my now 2 year old since she was 11 months and getting ready to have a second baby who will be home with a nanny as well.

Good luck
aslong she can take the kids out for walks etc and get them interacting with other kids
they will be fine
The kid will alway sknow who MOMMY is..........no worries there
goodluck

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A.B.

answers from Dallas on

Hey J.,
I think it would be great if you could do the nanny. If you can't be the one to be with your son, I think the next best thing would be to find a loving caregiver for your kiddo. When I had my daughter I didn't want to send my baby to a daycare and couldn't afford not to work. My mom ended up quitting her job to stay home with my daughter. I knew that she was with someone she loved and that would take care of her. It sounds like you like where he is at right now but I think you just can't do any better than having them one on one for a little one, especially a baby. They will have plenty of time to socialize as he gets older when he is better able to tell you what he needs. Let him be a baby and enjoy all the attention he is going to get:)

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E.R.

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I thought having a nanny would be the best thing for my children too. I think a nanny is good up to a 1 year then I am all about a preschool / learning center. My first son was with a nanny until he was 2. Then I started sending him to a learning center 2 days a week. Day in day out at my home with just the nanny was not stimulating enough for my son. He was eager to learn and wanted to explore. Now he knows his ABCs, counts to 30, loves playing with other children, sings all kinds of songs, know how to wait, take turns, learn computer, Spanish, play with all kinds of arts supplies I could never provide, etc. I totally trusted my nanny but I felt my son need to grow. He loves his school! Now that I'm a stay at home mom, I still send him 2 days a week. And I will send my younger one too....So actually after writing this - I think it would be great if you could do both. :-) PS Don't worry - your baby will always know his mommy!!

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E.M.

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I vote Nanny for the first 3 1/2 years at least. My DD has been in Mother's Day Out since she was 15 months and loves it, but it is only 10 hours a week in the fall and spring. She is very tired when she gets home, even though she takes a great nap. The teacher/child ratio there is 1 to 3. Any more than that I would be concerned that my child wasn't getting the attention she needs. (just my opinion, not to start a debate) Your son may be laid back right now, but just wait another 6-12 months!! It is during this time that you need to have some serious control over how cartakers are disciplining Jaxson.
A note about Jaxson thinking of her as mommy.....
It is very probable that he may refer to her on occasion as "mama" or similar, ESPECIALLY since her daughter will eventually call her that. Don't be hurt. I was a nanny in college and both kids called me "mama" on occasion but as soon as their verbal skills developed at little, there was no more of that. Plus, even if they couldn't call me Liz, they knew I wasn't mama. Basically, if a child can only say a few words, it only stands to reason that more than one person can be called that. Tell her to go by something as easily said as Mama, such as Nana or Dee Dee.
Both my kids called my mom "Mama" but I knew with time they would get it right!........and sure enough, they did!
All the best, Liz

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N.O.

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If you don't mind me asking, why is it exactly you want to take him out of the daycare?
It sounds as if you don't have any problems with the daycare so I was just curious.
It sound's like that would be great to get one of the daycare providers to care for your son but he may really enjoy the interaction with other children the older he gets.
If I had the choice of a daycare vs. Nanny, I would go for the Nanny....I wouldn't worry about him thinking she is Mommy.
Your child will always know you are Mommy especially the minute you walk in the door and how they just get so excited to see their Mommy! : )

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