thank you to who responded to "what would you do in this situation". This was regarding a guy who i met who told me he had a 15yr affair with a married woman who had children.
After a lot of thinking about what other mom's said in their responses to my question here...it made me think even harder and look to the future. You all are correct....my son needs a good male role model. Issues will always be there with this woman and her friendship is clearly more important then building a new one with someone else. Plus i was already being criticized for my parenting only a month into my relationship. Then he wasn't fitting into my chaos of a life and how my son was towards him (he didn't care to interact with him much, said hi, but that really was it unless others engaged in him).
We also didn't have much to talk about most of the time. Communication got stranded and his personality just didn't mesh well with mine. He didnt have much of a sense of humor and in my life, that is a MUST. too many things that did not match my life or make it better. When i went home for thanksgiving, i rarely if at all missed him. That was a major clue this isn't a person meant to be in my life. As with my ex husband, i was sick over the thought of not being with him and missed him like crazy. When i told my ex that, he immediately said "yep...knowing u, u not missing someone, is a huge sign its not meant to be." haa!
All in all...after all of this, i am happy about my decision and not sad one bit. It was nice having help around the house and with things. Time to get back on track, focus 100% on my son and continue enjoying being by myself and enjoy my time with my son! Thats all that matters :)
THANK YOU EVERYONE. LOVE THIS SITE AND THE MOM's HERE :)
YAY!!! I'm soo happy for you!
I'm glad you took the step back to see what was going on! GOOD FOR YOU!!!
The right man will come along! Don't settle!
What?!? You're not following up with a flounce about how mean everyone was to you because they didn't just blow sunshine up your skirt? You mean, you took the advice, as hard as it was to hear, and listened? You, my dear, are a classy lady. I don't personally remember your post, but this post impresses the hell out of me. I'm glad you found your strength and that the honest and insightful ladies here were able to be part of that for you!
Yea! I'm glad you listened! You've set a much higher standard for the men you will allow in your son's life. That can't be bad.
Great decision - best of luck taking care of you and your son and possibly finding the right person at another time.
So nice to see this post. Congrats for seeing past the rose colored glasses!!
Yay, you!
Remember, character is what someone does when no O.'s looking!
Let me suggest that instead of "focusing on your child" you find a church or organzied non-profit group to get involved in. Get your son in Sunday school, get involved, volunteer, etc. It's amazing the nice people you can meet this way. You become firends first and maybe the friendship will bloom into something else, maybe it won't, maybe someone has a brother, friend, husband's best friend, etc. There are so many better ways to spend your time. It will teach your son about life too. and you can both give outward instead of looking inward. You've fixed a big issue in your life - now get on teh right track for the rest of it.
Good for you, hon.
I do agree that focusing 100% on your son isn't healthy though. You need to have YOU time as well. Make a little room for a hobby and show your son what a healthy, well differentiated adult looks like by your example.
Oneperfectone: "Integrity" is doing the right thing when nobody is looking. "Character" is a sum of moral qualities.
I remember that question! Good for you. You deserve the stars and sun!!
So happy you have resolved things. Best of luck to you and your son.
Good for you! Sometimes the best thing you can do is not change for another person.
